If you ever watched Melrose Place, you know the dangers of dating anyone down the hall at your apartment complex. An apartment romance doesn’t have to be that complicated, of course, but when you decide to date someone you might see in the hallway every day, it’s worth making sure that you have a good way to both start the relationship and a fallback plan if things go south.
Meeting Mr. or Ms. Right can be difficult — it can be a lucky break to find a date among your neighbors. But actually making a connection and getting together can take a little extra effort: you have to bridge bumping into each other in the hall into coffee, dinner or some other date.
You may want to do a little careful checking around to make sure that your intended flame is available, but there’s really no replacement for just stepping up and asking that person out. Living so closely can put you in an odd position: you may know everything about a person’s coming and goings, but very little about that person otherwise. It can be both easier and harder to get to know someone you’re interested in if you’re living in such close proximity.
Ending a relationship with someone living in your apartment building or complex can be equally difficult. Depending on how long you’ve been together, breaking up may lead you to consider moving out of the complex.
While that might seem like a tempting solution, it’s rarely a practical option after you and your neighbor have called it quits. As hard as it may be, your best option may to just be civil towards your former flame. It will make living in such close proximity a little more manageable — even if it won’t make the break up easier.
While it’s best to take the high road during a break-up, especially when you break up with someone you’ll see in the hallway or elevator all the time, it isn’t always an option. Ignoring each other’s existence may wind up being more practical than trying to be civil and failing.
If the situation is too painful or problematic for that option, there’s always renting another apartment elsewhere — or convincing your ex to do so. You won’t be able to get out of a lease because of a broken heart, but you can move on.
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