7 Strategies for Dealing with Noisy Upstairs Neighbors

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Owning a house used to be one of the first steps on the path to the American dream. But with market prices rising all over the country and no relief in sight, that concept seems to be rapidly changing. A recent report by the Pew Research Center even found that more U.S. households are headed by renters today than they have been since at least 1965.

That reality forces people to live in multi-unit buildings — close quarters that require a kind of tolerance and patience that many who grew up in single-family homes never developed. It’s not just a brave new world, but it’s also noisy one. Luckily, there are a number of ways to help keep the peace with your neighbors. Here are some of the most effective ones:

Preemptive Planning

If you grew up in a quiet environment (perhaps without siblings or with parents who didn’t rock out to heavy metal on a weekly basis) and are super sensitive to noise, try your best to secure an apartment on the top floor of your building. Sure, it’s often harder to find a top-level unit and people to help you move in and out of it, but in the long run, it’s the best solution for you, your neighbors, and property management. Just remember that you’ll have to respect the noise limitations your downstairs neighbors set.


Be up front about your noise issues when shopping for apartments. Property managers strongly prefer tenants who don’t make trouble, and noise disputes can be ongoing and are likely to escalate over time. Simply tell your prospective landlord that you need quiet during certain hours and give them your reasons why. Management typically knows which tenants work when, which ones have small children or hormonal teenagers, and which ones have drawn noise complaints in the past. Present your reasons as logically as possible so you don’t come across as “difficult” from the get-go.

Be Friendly

While you don’t have to bake cookies for everyone in the building, saying hello and smiling in passing really helps create a neighborly atmosphere. An impression of friendliness goes a long way when you’re asking someone you barely know to change their lifestyle. Start the conversation by writing your neighbor a friendly note. Ask them if you have ever disturbed them with noise, and then gently mention that you’ve been bothered on a couple of occasions. Going into the situation with a bad attitude will only makes matters worse and push a resolution further out of reach.

Compromising Positions

Neighbors Talking

Although it’s apparently fallen out of favor in recent years, compromise is still an excellent option for conflict resolution in our book. If the neighbor in question can only do their workout routine at midnight, kindly ask them if they can exercise in a room that’s not directly above your bedroom. Discuss certain hours that would be best for playing loud music, and try to adjust your schedule to accommodate those hours. Don’t forget to ask for some concessions in return, as that’s what compromise is all about. Walking away thinking you gave up more than you gained will only escalate resentment down the road.

Grin and Bear It

Sometimes it’s easier to solve noise problems on your own, especially if the errant neighbor is defiant or obviously unwilling to change their ways. Using high-quality earplugs for sleeping is always an option, as is using headphones to listen to music or watch television. A gentle tap on your ceiling (their floor) with a broom handle sometimes works, too, because people are often so self-absorbed that they actually don’t realize how loud they are being.

Super Sleuthing

Unfortunately, many people aren’t willing to give and take to be good neighbors. In fact, many will deny wrongdoing altogether and call you crazy. If that happens, start keeping a log of all noise disturbances, writing down the date and time of each disturbance, the nature of the noise, and the way you attempted to resolve the problem. If possible, record the noise on your phone to back up your claims. Casually mention noise disturbances to surrounding neighbors to feel out the situation without causing trouble. Strength in numbers is always useful if you have to take your complaint to higher-ups.

Involve Management

Only contact management about a noise problem as a last resort. Reasonable adults should be able to resolve such issues between themselves. No one likes a tattler, especially not your property manager who just wants to foster peaceful, amicable relations among their tenants without their intervention. If you’ve exhausted all other options, approach the manager calmly and professionally. Ranting and raving about the inconsiderate psycho in the apartment above you only shifts the spotlight to you. Calmly explain all the solutions you’ve tried without success and sincerely ask the landlord for suggestions instead of just demanding the neighbor’s eviction for your peace of mind.

Apartment living can be a great experience. In many cases, lifelong friendships with fellow apartment dwellers are forged. Of course, forming family-style alliances with your neighbors means always looking out for each other and making everyone’s peace of mind a top priority.

205 Responses to “7 Strategies for Dealing with Noisy Upstairs Neighbors”

  1. December 19, 2009 at 9:17 am, Leah Weir said:

    I’m having problems with my upstairs neighbors. They are talking too loud in the middle of the night and I can’t get no sleep for nothing. I need help in dealing with this matter. Please get back to me as soon as possible. Thank-you.

    Leah Weir


    • June 14, 2018 at 4:29 am, Ciara Doney said:

      I have neighbors who are noisy all hours of the day. They never seem to sleep! I bought earplugs. They’re uncomfortable, but I can sleep now.>


      • February 02, 2020 at 9:26 am, Banana said:

        I am a single mother with a 9 yr old daughter living on the first floor. There are 2 women about my age, early 30s, that live above. We live in a not so quiet neighborhood, NEXT DOOR to a transmission shop and a busy intersection. I don't sleep much as it is, but a fantastic apartment in a relatively safe neighborhood at an amazing price makes one stay. Trust me, I've looked for better shelter. Anyways, one of the girls above has always been a bit of a jerk to me since day one. I unfortunately have the bedroom directly underneath hers. It's bigger than my daughters, darker, plenty of closet space. I have dubbed this awesome neighbor "Snuffy". Snuffy likes to stomp around from the moment she wakes up til she moves about her apartment and leaves stomping down the back stairwell and slamming the door. Mind you, I NEVER hear the other girl leaving right before her, and never hear her coming in. Snuffy KNOWS she is "heavy footed". Snuffy has annoyed me for years. I have heard her multiple times getting it on. She has always gotten it on after midnight, when I've gotten home late from
        Work and just about passed out to work yet another 12 hr shift the next day. I have always just dealt with it and slept on the couch or in my daughters bed or put the tv on and a pillow over my head. On New Years Eve this year, 12:45 to 1:15, I had to listen to hear get some. My 9 yr old was sleeping in bed with me and heard it. After 30 min I had texted Snuffy and told her congrats on the booty but to please keep it down bc my daughter could hear. She replied back saying she really didn't give a F. I don't want to involve the landlord. Especially since he has never once in 2 years shown up for a repair or lawn care. Any suggestions?


        • February 09, 2020 at 3:11 pm, Jacqueline Hall said:

          > I feel you and I hope that a shift will happen and they move soon. I'm temporarily praying daily for the tenants thatched above me that have 3 children that constantly run,stomp and make noise all throughout and all times of night!!! I have spoken to them & that's a dead end! Went and consistently spoken and asked management to rectify the situation. Thank God!!! A first flr apt in another location will soon be available and they offered that and they have agreed. It is best for both of us! Now, I'm continuing to PRAY that the apt will be ready for move in asap!!! I pray the next tenants will be respectful and quiet with no children!!!


          • January 25, 2021 at 10:20 am, Andre Tabarley said:

            > I am alsogoing through this, september 2020 new tenants with children moved in above us, a family of four, one child of 6 and the other of 3, continously rampaging through the apartment above, running back and forth, dropping things on the hardwood floor at all times of the time, running jumping screaming crying, which includes the parents running after them and chasing them across the apartment with no regard whatsoever for the possibility that other people live in the building or directly below.
            Parents are a dead end in this situation and management is a dead end as well. Management says normally we dont put families with small kids in the upstairs unit for this reason – yet somehow i find myself in the spectacular coincidence that the abnormal time they do it, its above my apartment. Now throughout the day and evening into the night, my entire apartment shakes like a turkish bellydancer getting the biggest tips of their life. my furniture shakes, the ceiling shakes so hard that the floor beneath me shakes,. Ive spoken to the parents, i gave them a letter letting them know how loud it is for us under them, i spoke to them directly letting them know how loud it is for us and that they should invest in a carpet or ask management to provide one to resolve this dispute and instead, their parents show off the 3×4 playmat they bought, insisting their kids only run and play on that at all hours of the day and night, despite obvious continuous earthquake in my apartment from running back and forth screaming crying and smashing toys on the floor – instead I get the parents calling me a liar, that they say the sound does not exist and they dont have to do anything to control their kids because they are too small to make a noise disturbance.

        • May 17, 2020 at 9:34 am, Justina harris said:

          > I'm going through this right now.ive had it.im not happy here anymore.looking for another place to have peace.i feel your pain..


        • July 04, 2020 at 6:47 pm, Sarah said:

          > If she's in her thirties, she's clearly no spring chicken and npo longer in her teens and twenties. Unfortunately she sounds like an old chav to me. i would go upstairs and sort her out if she doesn't shut the hell up. My neighbours are doing the same thing in the middle of the night. Cars coming up and stopping outside. I shouted out the window and it stopped for a while. Later ti started again and I'm on the verge now of dealing with it myself.


          • October 04, 2020 at 1:57 am, krishnan srinivasan said:

            > I have no hope on the management….
            People in the management called me crazy & even suggested to take therapy…
            Because I've complaining that people in the upstairs are a psycho . I live with my parents. I tried to make a living outside…. It's getting harder for me to live here…. I'm being targeted … that's what I feel. Upstairs people are just tenants. Houese owner has taken a huge advance . They are not moving out any sooner …. But my life is getting difficult day by day since November 2019 . I gave up.

          • April 10, 2021 at 7:23 am, Not a spring chicken said:

            Her age does not excuse her behavior but 30 is not old hun. Maybe your attitude has something to do with the response you get from those you speak with. Treat everyone with respect (yes, even your noisy upstairs neighbor…you may get a more receptive response). I know if I was talked about this way I may intentionally show you just how energetic a “non spring chicken” could be. No need to personally attack someone’s age (btw…age discrimination is illegal. Just address the actual issue) When you muddy the water with the other BS you bring up then you end up without as much fact and more animosity. Be kind to others even when you think they don’t deserve it. It will make you feel better about yourself.

        • November 22, 2020 at 7:37 am, Evette Lewis said:

          > Just move here to apartment in NC lady does same have heard no sex stuff yet hope not. Lady stump around like an elephant he not a big lady she watches everything you do she loud and she knows on my door ask can she talk to maintaince man I'm tired alrighty been here a month almost


          • March 10, 2021 at 4:22 pm, Helen Hutton said:

            > I live above students who stomp about that loud. It travels very loud through my flat. I don't want to live here anymore. I have a beautiful flat and a lot of neighbors are nice. But I've really had enough, the stomping is unnecessary. Environmental health won't do anything. They say it's classed as walking. They might as well laugh in my face. I'm 57 and want to live in peace.

        • December 03, 2020 at 4:47 pm, Ann Green said:

          > after MONTHS of my neighbor stomping like a horse from 5 – 7am daily, screaming kids all day, and unexplainable noises that sound like they are moving furniture until 10pm every single day, I've exhausted nice. I'm on to fire for fire. They can't keep under a decibel of a normal human being because of the kids. I make sure the kids have a schedule closer to mine. I make as much noise as humanly possible 10pm – midnight. Suddenly, I don't have a migraine by noon because the activity seems to start later in the day. I am no longer above using a swiffer to loudly dust my ceiling at midnight. Believe me I tried nice and they made zero effort. At the very least we can be on the same schedule. Being housebound sucks for everyone. Being a prick about it just makes everyone more miserable.


          • February 06, 2021 at 8:39 pm, Heyy said:

            This is absolutely friggin hilarious and a brilliant idea. I’m laying in bed listening to my upstairs neighbor stomping back and forth and trying to figure out how to annoy him too.>

    • November 02, 2018 at 6:58 am, Jason Delombarde said:

      > Write nice letter oon there door try keep in down little bit and then if that don't work just write letter too your landlord exact what goin saying very disruptive too that are being too loud.


      • December 20, 2018 at 8:30 pm, David said:

        Same here, moved into these apartments on Nov. 9th in disabled unit downstairs. 2 weeks later single mother and her 3 bebe's kids moves in above me and every evening they go wild. Stomping, Body slams, so much force it shakes me walls. Was polite the first time, 2nd time I was frank and informed them I would report further disturbances. I doubt management would do anything, but I have PTSD and cannot move anywhere for awhile. No idea what to do.


        • February 21, 2019 at 5:33 pm, KAREN Y BROWN said:

          I am having same problem. PTSD veteran. Family above me moved and they had small kids but they always apologized and thanked me for not complaining.

          I also have custody of my 6 yr old granddaughter and l understand….but the new neighbors are ridiculous. How come the don't realize that a family lives beneath them.

          The stupid apartments have hardwood floors upstairs too. Stomping so damn hard my pictures on wall are always crooked.

          I can't take it any longer and gonna leave a note on their door. Why in the hell would they rent an upstairs unit to be be kids anyway….greedy and dumb!!


          • January 19, 2020 at 1:59 pm, Lordrainman666 said:


          • December 22, 2020 at 8:50 am, Lacy Knickers said:

            I live in an impossible situation with the 13 yr old son who I think has mental problems and his mother I think encourages this nutty behavior of dropping something heavy, stalks me all over my apartment. I have tried the friendly approach to no avail. They’re weird and never leave their apartment. Even before Covid hit. I’ve been here 10yrs, they’ve been here 1 5 mos. I live in a pretty apartment complex that has garages and in door washer and dryer. I call it between a rock and a hard place. 😟

        • March 22, 2019 at 4:53 pm, J said:

          As for the people here defending children making noise: no, it isn't OK. Teach your children to be quiet enough so that they learn to become courteous adults, and quite frankly you've chosen to raise kids, not I– so why should I have to listen to their obnoxious noise? "Kids can be kids" playing outside or somewhere people don't care about this kind of thing. By the way, kids are not exempt from the law of quiet enjoyment (at least not in my state) and they don't even have constitutional rights. There are so many people complaining about noisy children b/c there are so many people who don't know how to parent properly and the noise from these children nearly drives some renters insane. This is why I support separate living complexes: those for people with families and those who want no children in the bldg. Yes, I know that's not legal, but it should be.


          • March 31, 2019 at 4:54 pm, Doreen Richter said:

            > I completely agree with you

          • April 01, 2019 at 12:39 pm, BeckyH said:

            I agree with you as well. I politely asked the lady upstairs to keep the noise down but all she did was make up excuses for it. She was in the middle of moving and she “can’t control them.” All I am hearing is “they’re just kids, ignore it.” People need to realize that kids need some discipline, some structure. If you’re letting your kids run around and make all kinds of noises in your apartment, take this opportunity to teach them some courtesy. Don’t get upset when someone calls the cops. Usually it’s because they have reached the end of their rope and don’t believe anything will get resolved. The bottom line is this: YOU chose to have kids. It shouldn’t be everyone else’s problem if you can’t control your kid.

          • April 05, 2019 at 4:31 pm, Dray said:

            > I agree whole heartedly about this and I have kids. I teach mine to be respectful and quiet. It's not hard. My neighbor upstairs let's their kid run, scream and jump all day and late at night. I've asked nicely and they responded hes a kid what do you want us to do. Like parent your damn kid. Get off your lazy ass and stop him.

          • December 30, 2019 at 7:15 pm, Michael Bassett said:

            > I concur.

          • January 17, 2020 at 10:24 pm, Jones said:

            If your single get a house! I can’t stand to see people complaining about apartments! Go live in house! To the person that used Bebe kids that’s file! I hope you don’t have kids.>

          • January 25, 2020 at 12:31 am, Heidi Kobulnicky said:

            > i definitely agree. I am dealing with the tenants from HELL to a point where I now have a stomach ulcer due to the stressful situation.
            I have a husband who had a heart attack from this situation also.
            Plus my husband is on dialysis 3x/week.
            Not a good living situation here.
            I did try to let the landlord know about this but he states he cant evict them as he has to have proof that they are doing anything wrong.
            What a joke!

          • January 30, 2020 at 7:08 pm, Jacqueline Hall said:

            > I so agree and I think it's always best for management to put families with children on ground floors. I'm recently dealing with be be kids and parents who have allowed their children to not have discipline or structure.They are above me so it's been a nightmare! I am praying they take the recent offer for a recent available ground floor APT. I will jump for joy!!

          • January 30, 2020 at 7:15 pm, Jacqueline Hall said:

            > 100% agree! I had children who are adults and I would not tolerate any over the top playing or noise in the home. If you have kids! You should try and buy a home! If not able, then you must teach your children to keep the noise, running ,and stomping to outdoors. As they must be mindful dual there are others living in building and be quiet!

          • March 12, 2020 at 3:01 pm, Hawa Contee said:

            > WOW!…I finally found someone who spoke what I was thinking, I also have noisy upstairs neighbors who have 2 children, and are a constant pain in my butt with stomping, running and pounding noises on a daily basis!…Spoke to my landlord about the noise because I wasn't getting through to them, and they totally chose to ignore my plea for them to try to be more quieter!…I also believe that families with small children should be living amongst others who have children!

          • March 27, 2020 at 3:34 pm, Annoyed tenant said:

            💯 agreed I live in a 3 family apartment which on the 3rd floor is all adults and I am n the first flr all adults so now on the 2nd flr you would think it would be the same no five children two adults and a dog they never leave the house we never take the children out they’re very heavy footed and they let their children do whatever they want I moved here in June so excited and happy August they moved in everything turned upside down I just don’t understand why they would put A family of seven with kids on the second floor it does not make NO SENSE My ass I’ve ever sensitive I’m a sensitive person my head I have chronic migraines I’ve talk to them on several occasions they do not care they will not put rugs down it’s all hardwood floors and nothing is being done about it remind you what I pay for this place> WHAT CAN I DO

          • March 30, 2020 at 3:52 pm, Manuela said:

            > I agree with you!!

          • April 28, 2020 at 9:00 pm, Carol said:

            > I agree… Lol. What about a grown men.

          • June 30, 2020 at 6:09 pm, Lucy said:

            > Try having a 3 year old child who has a sensory processing disorder and Autism Spectrum Disorder. My son has both of these and sometimes he has stomped loud. So loud my downstairs neighbor did come up. I apologized profusely and explained his disorder, she said she understands (probably because she has a young child also) and went on her way. We try really hard to help him when he is having a hard time regulating his senses, but I am also working from home because his daycare is closed due to the pandemic and I can’t stop him in time. Instead of judging the parents and assuming they aren’t trying, get up and go meet them. If you already have and it hasn’t worked, sorry. I truly feel bad when my kiddo runs or stomps. He is also speech delayed, so it has been a challenge trying to get him to fully understand that we have to be gentle with our feet. I have been at my apartments for over 6 years and his disorder just came to light in January on his 3rd birthday. He never use to be loud until just recently. So with him, it’s not about a respect thing. This is something his body makes him do that he unfortunately has no control of. My son is such a sweet and happy child (all 3 of my kids are). It’s just my special kiddo is the one that has happy feet and I can only help him so much. We did talk to his Occupational Therapist about it though, so at least all of us are working with him. Anyways, I said my peace, but only because some of your neighbors may be going through the same situation and are not just being assholes. Stay safe and healthy out there!

          • July 31, 2020 at 7:20 am, Derek Edwards said:

            >OMG… I so agree with you!!!!

          • September 25, 2020 at 7:45 pm, Christine said:

            > What? Minors most certainly have constitutional rights. What kind of school did you go to?


          • February 25, 2021 at 7:19 pm, dug said:

            @Lucy> ur stomping handicaped kid can go to hell move to a bottom floor apartment

    • December 22, 2019 at 11:47 pm, Sam said:

      I live in an upstairs apartment with just my husband and I. We work both 50 hours a week each. I work days and he works which means we live and sleep opposite schedules. We have such thin walls and feel on edge just walking around the apartment. Our apartment manager even warned us towards finishing up signing our contract that this apartment complex had unusually thin walls. I constantly feel bad for just walking around, turning on the shower, or opening the bathroom door. Does any one know any apartment rights for upstairs tenants? Because I always feel guilty and am tip towing in my own home.


      • July 19, 2020 at 6:04 pm, Eric said:

        That is what you SHOULD do, its not anyone else's fault that you choose to work unusual hours. That doesn't give you the right to keep your downstairs awake or wake them up constantly after quiet hours. So after 11 PM you SHOULD be tiptoeing and NOT cooking or doing laundry or vacuuming the floor, etc. >


        • October 19, 2020 at 5:54 pm, Annoyed said:

          > agreed 100%


    • December 23, 2019 at 12:08 am, Sam said:

      >I live in an upstairs apartment with just my husband and I. We work both 50 hours a week each. I work days and he works nights which means we live and sleep opposite schedules. We have such thin walls and feel so on edge just walking around the apartment. Our apartment manager even warned us towards finishing up signing our contract that this apartment complex had unusually thin walls. I constantly feel bad for just walking around, turning on the shower, or opening and closing the bathroom door. Does any one know any apartment rights for upstairs tenants? I feel like I am sneaking around in my own home. I can hear my downstair neighbor having a normal conversation and am tip towing in my own home.


    • April 24, 2020 at 1:55 pm, Mike desperately seeking relief! said:

      My upstairs neighbor just above my bedroom seems to be pacing back and forth over and over for hours. He is about 6’4”, heavy set and walks in the balls of his feet so every impact makes the walls shake and in my head feels like Japanese water torture. As many of us are working remotely, hearing that while I’m working, consistently over several hours makes me irritable 10/10. I’ve spoken with the neighbor who never really agreed to stop or alter his behavior and the Building Manager says they can’t really control a persons walking in their apt unless it’s after bedtime hours or extremely out of the norm (whatever that means).

      During this lockdown, looking for another apt is out of the question and that neighbor has only met my Dr. Jeckel and I fear the day he meets my Mr. Hyde. Help!


      • April 27, 2020 at 6:12 pm, Brittany Johnson said:

        > We have the same issue with our upstairs neighbors. In addition to moving around what seems like unnecessarily heavy furniture all the time, they also have a dog who somehow manages to play with a giant bone at all times. It happens for literally hours on end… super early in the morning (before 7 a.m.) and also really late at night, sometimes after midnight. We cannot make it through even an hour without this noise and depending on the day, goes on for about 30-45 minutes at a time, if not longer. WE NEVER had this problem before this and we just resigned our already too expensive lease during the corona pandemic and they raised our rent on us $50/month. I've called the property manager, asked him to tell me which upstairs neighbor it is (there are 4 units clustered in 1 corner) so that I can address the issue myself and he hasn't responded. As I sit here right now and write this, this noise has been going on for almost 2 hours off and on, but consistently for about 20-30 minutes. We bang on the ceiling now to try and let them know they are being loud, which does no good. At this point, I am so frustrated I'm not sure what to do. This place is not worth the amount of money in rent if this is going to be a consistent issue (it's more expensive than average rent in our area).


        • October 19, 2020 at 5:57 pm, Annoyed said:

          > I can't take it anymore either. I feel your pain


      • April 28, 2020 at 5:51 am, NNFH said:

        > In the same situation here. Can't do anything due to lockdown. One of the tenants cant be heard walking, the other one sounds like shes deliberately thumping on the floor with her heels. Then there is the furniture moving
        or dragging of something late at night and the thumping going on until late at night. Funny thing is they just say they are not doing anything.


        • April 29, 2020 at 9:32 am, Lashuan Smith said:

          > Hi I'm so glad that I'm not the only one dealing with this issue (and my heart goes out). Like many I'm working remotely from home due to this whole COVID-19. I've always known the upstairs neighbors to make noise but never like this before. There is a 2 year old and possibly a 11 year old who constantly runs and jump over my head all day and night. The funny part of this is that they stay up all night until 4a maybe 5a and sleep until 11 or 12p and then there they go BOOM BOOM BOOM! I knocked on the door once nice and polite asking if they can please keep it down because my pictures are falling of the wall. The mother replied" I'm sorry that's him" and pointed to the 2 yr old of course he's not an average 2 yr old because he said "mommy who is this?" As if he was 5 or 6 yrs old. I'm a long time tenant and love my apartment but this has gotten to be simply ridiculous! I'm starting to feel like a prisoner in my own home. It's sad because I rejoice whenever they are sleep or are not at home YAY!. My lease is up soon and yes I can move but with everything that's going on who's to say I want run into this very same PROBLEM again (and yes it's 12:11p CST and they are woke and right back at it) It makes you wonder if the kids have any other activities besides running and jumping like logging into E-learning since Illinois schools are closed for the remainder of the year? I'm PRAYING on a daily basis that something good will become of this. I'm not the one to care about what people do in their units but COME ON NOW have some type of decency for your fellow neighbors.Does anyone have any suggestions other than contacting the landlord or police? From reading all of the comments it seems as if that's a waste of time. Thank you for listening signed "drowning in my on unit"


          • May 15, 2020 at 11:25 am, CJ said:

            Spoke to tenant in person at 7:50am after had enough times being awakened middle of night, 6am, etc. Ran into tenant a few days later, said she is “concerned” for my health, is noise better? It was a little better but that was only three days later.
            Since then I have reported them to landlord so they stopped walking me up but continued to shake my ceiling, run back and forth, run throughout apartment, throw shoes on floor, basically stomp, thump, pound continuously throughout apartment. Does anyone really move furniture constantly,
            scrape chairs, bang and clang things numerous times day and night, Just now heard one of three, parents and adult daughter, stomp into kitchen. So loud that with bedroom door shut, them a floor above, I hear them move from room to room literally hundreds of times a day. Once today I ran and stomped to meet the fool while she was running. She was briefly quieter but not for long. It is stressful, intrusive, invasive. It sounds as if they are living and moving in my apartment. The second time I spoke to the landlord she claimed they said they were”polite and respectful .” Really? Does that include lying?Knowing what they do is keeping someone from sleeping? Shaking ceiling as I write. Third time I sent landlord email with times and dates woken up. Reason email because landlord preference, better to have written record but she was also putting me off.
            Landlord responded tenant asked for “specifics” of noise.
            Really!!! Can she send them my email? NO. Now COVID-19
            am inside. Latest excuse is that it is now too hard, they are not working. It continues as bad as ever, Nerve-wracking.
            At times unbearable. Sometimes think they are intentionally noisy. Can only react so much to try to make my apartment livable but no long term solution. Sound machine and music mitigate noise but the pounding and stomping is not easy to mask. At point of headphones. Earplugs eventually hurt my ears. Will move. Very angry, frustrating situation. Powerless to change and obvious tenant does not care. Sounds like a stampede, dig heels, feet into ceiling, ceiling shakes, reverberates. Sounds like someone fell out of bed, or off couch, lands with loud thud. Endless except when they are asleep but then you never know if they will wake me at 3 or 4 am. The noisiest most unpleasant people and apartment ever experienced. Sad really that even KNOWING am staying indoors they may be worse than ever.

          • May 26, 2020 at 9:12 pm, Jessy said:

            > I have the SAME problem right now! Except my situation is different in that WE are the upstairs neighbors and a very young mother and child moved in downstairs. The noise is absolutely out of control! We live in a 4 unit and the neighbors across the hall from me(also upstairs) are complaining too so i know I'm not being unreasonable about this. My husband is an essential worker and since the pandemic he's been working 7 days a week 10-12 hours a day. The kid downstairs is clearly jumping off furniture running all over the apartment getting the dog worked up and barking and it goes on until 2AM!! She never takes him or the dog outside which I'm sure is why he's so hyper. Its completely ridiculous. This building was PERFECT before they moved in. A total dream. Now i just wish i could afford to move. I feel like a prisoner in my own home.

          • May 28, 2020 at 8:32 am, SD said:

            > My family and I are dealing with the same thing. Ever since quarantine started, the guy that lives above us has started to stomp around his home all day. He drags furniture around his floor and drops tools on the ground all the time. Then he likes to invite his friends over so that they can also stomp on the ground and bang on the floor. We have tried politely tapping on our ceiling so that he can take a hint to quiet down. But he just bangs back and much harder. He is only one man. He doesn't have kids or pets, yet he makes more noise than anyone I've heard. His favorite time to stomp around is 5 AM – 8AM. He has woken all of us up every day for the past month and a half. He stomps during the day on and off. But it is all day. What do we do? Management doesn't help. They say, "we don't get involved with tenants." They are no help at all. I am always tired because of this one guy.

      • February 03, 2021 at 1:44 pm, Gracie said:

        > I am having the same issue in my building. I've been working from home 40hrs a week, as most of us have, so I get extremely irritable whenever there is excessive trampling. I feel like this is deliberate now because since I've complained to the management, the trampling has intensified.Literally sounds like a horse or an elephant living above me. The walls shake. All wall hangings that I have had to be strategically repositioned throughout my apartment since this tenant moved in. I've continuously brought this up to management. The response was "She a very nice lady", as if someone being a nice lady is suppose to warrant the deliberate trampling. I've honestly resorted to cussing the person out through the walls, throwing things at my ceiling and ultimately making sure that I disturb them as much as they disturb me. This isn't the best relationship to have with your neighbor, I know, but I think she gets the point. She now knows very well that my disturbance to her can be more of a problem than here disturbance to me. I'm no longer being nice or cordial about it. She likes to blast music, so I blast mine louder. I've never had an issue with the tenant that lived above me before she moved in…NEVER. I was nice at first, but she brought the petty out of me. The way I feel is, treat others as you wish to be treated. If you have to live in an apartment, try to be considerate enough to fully understand that you reside in a community living space. Being a horrible neighbor is never going to turn out well. If you have children, still consider that other families are living under you, and train your children, if possible, to understand that. Sometimes that's not the easiest thing to do but simply acknowleding and showing a level of respect for your neighbors is appreciated. As an adult, if you're deliberately being a nuisance, you should be held accountable.


    • May 15, 2020 at 10:26 am, Tricia said:

      The apt manager has spoken to the obnoxious man who lives above me on numerous occasions. He’ll chill for a month then start back up. It’s worse now with the Stay at Home order. He slams his cabinets, drawers, doors, and goes out on his patio at all hours of the night and slams that door too! He came in drunk one night fighting with a woman. I called the police. He admits to being drunk. He’s a tool. Earplugs are uncomfortable. Anyone know of ceiling sound blockers that aren’t UGLY and expensive?


      • July 01, 2020 at 4:31 pm, Tired of the noise said:

        It’s sad the management is telling me it’s nothing they can do. When I ask the office to ask the neighbors to consider The noise I can tell when they call as they get louder so I’m to the points I don’t want to complain because it get worse previous managers would not tolerate it. The don't have to worry they go home and get rest. I wish it was something to be done. My lease is up soon I love my apartment but love a peace of mind a good night sleep as well I work at home things fall from my wall ect.


      • February 23, 2021 at 7:48 pm, Jean MacLean said:

        > a good friend of mine was renting his old family home… apartment upstairs and downstairs…he was good landlord…to solve the noise complaints he was getting he found a method to make downstairs renters as happy as he could,.he collected lots of egg cartons and crawled in between the space between upstairs and downstairs and layered them in the space…he told me that it made a huge difference


    • July 13, 2020 at 3:03 am, cheryl parkinson said:

      People have the absolute right to "live" in their apartment…walking, flushing, cabinets TALKING…whatever it is, they have that right. Their children certainly have the right to walk and run and play and cry and yell and scream…theyre children. Look it up…they have the right. If you dont like it, move.


      • July 27, 2020 at 7:01 pm, SK said:

        > So you are saying that selfish people can just do what they want and everyone else needs to deal with it? NO!!!! People should have respect for other people. There is no reason for kids to run around non-stop and for dropping heavy things on the floor all day. I have a neighbor that doesn't even use felt pads on their chairs!


        • January 30, 2021 at 2:45 am, MamaBee said:

          As a single mom who went from living in a HOUSE for 10 years in the country to an apartment 3 months ago with 2 kids (ages 7 & 9, both in gymnastics), I have tried my best to explain to my kids that we now live amongst other people and therefore need to be courteous. We live on the 2nd floor and the very first thing I asked my now landlord when we were prospective tenants is, “will people complain that I have kids?” Because I know how loud kids can be and living in a house I have left them BE KIDS!! And when I say ‘be kids’ what I’m referring to are the tantrums that are out of a parents control. 3 year olds much less even 5 yr olds aren’t able to control their emotions the way adults can. Most adults are questionable with that, too.

          We are as quiet as possible and I only have my kids half the months as I share custody, but My 7 yr old still melts down in the early mornings when getting ready to school. We have tried laying out clothes out at night to avoid me having to yell at her in the morning since getting dressed seems to be a huge battle with her since the age of 2……but there are times when she gets angry and slams her door. I feel bad for my neighbors downstairs as I try REALLY hard to be quiet and teach my kids to be light footed but we aren’t perfect. Our floors are hardwood and I’ve put a thousand plush rugs down in hopes it will drown out most of the noise…. but please just know there are parents who ARE respectful but sometimes even WE can’t control meltdowns or tantrums….


    • December 24, 2020 at 5:23 pm, Moon said:

      They are dancing,running, moaning at nights like a dog getting killed, crying during fighting


    • January 24, 2021 at 4:00 pm, Alicia said:

      Guys listening up sometimes people are not at peace with themselves so they have to call them selves trying to take you out of your peace. Listen up if you can ignore them. Pray for them.


  2. December 23, 2009 at 9:58 pm, Art of Noise said:

    The comment about neighbors talking too loud just seems a difficult one to apply. People do have a right to speak and exist in their own apartments, as do you! Why not try a bit of a “live and let live” approach to such harmless behavior? Our neighbors have loud small children who wake us up at all hours; our other neighbors often have friendly gatherings which can go late. This is all just part of apartment living.

    If the concern is just conversation, there is really no grounds for a complaint. You could try a friendly joking comment about it to the neighbors, but otherwise there is not much else you can do. Earplugs might be the best solution.


    • November 14, 2016 at 6:05 pm, Alisa Bruner said:

      > I have a white noise machine as well as earplugs. Sometimes the kids heavy footfalls upstairs still wake me up as I sleep odd hours but the white noise machine placed under your bed is something you need to get asap. It should drown out the noise. If you need more help, get some soft earplugs (you can find them at any music store). That should do the trick.


      • January 16, 2019 at 2:38 pm, Rose said:

        > wear earplugs to bed? Thats friggin insane!!!!


        • February 03, 2021 at 2:06 pm, Gracie said:

          > I have to wear earplugs to bed because my neighbor is an unwarranted alarm clock. I cuss her out DAILY.


      • February 21, 2019 at 10:53 pm, KAREN Y BROWN said:

        > ..but l don't wanna wear earplugs to bed


        • November 04, 2019 at 1:16 am, Bee said:

          > Ear plugs could be hazardous. If there was a fire, someone breaking in or a family member calling out for you, you wouldn’t hear it.


          • January 25, 2020 at 12:42 am, Heidi Kobulnicky said:

            Try being completely deaf (no hearing at all) while living in this evil hateful world of sinners. I was born with a hard of hearing impairment but am now completely deaf. I cant hear anything. So if anyone tries to break in, I wont hear it. If a fire breaks out I have a smoke detector that has a flashing light on it to let me know if there is a fire.
            You only wear the earplugs to bed, it is not like you gotta wear them forever.
            My deafness is forever.

      • December 22, 2020 at 7:20 am, very angry downstairs neighbor said:

        > yeah how am i suppsoed to wake up at 8 am to feed my cat with earplugs on. why should i ahve to sleep with earplugs besides my upstairs neighbors are intentionally stomping on the floor at 6 am to wake me up. this shit needs to be punishable


    • November 30, 2018 at 9:09 pm, Liz said:

      > Yes people do have a right to speak at night but if they are talking to loud and are being a disturbance to their neighbors than maybe.it is time to bring the landlord in on this situation and or call the police especially if it is after hours that the noise is occurring….. Because that is very disrespectful and those noisy neighbors should now better than to act noisy.


      • December 29, 2018 at 6:37 pm, Justina harris said:

        > I have neighbors who just moved upstairs over me..2 kids..i have extreme migraines I just can't do this anymore..so disrespectful to let yours kids stump around.dont know what the noise is about..looking to move as soon as possible..


      • June 24, 2019 at 1:10 pm, patricia hanson said:

        > I have a neighbor upstairs that moved in with her 12 year old son about 2 years ago….what a living nightmare its been… I believe the kid is a psycho..he screams at his mother at the top of his lungs and smashes things down on the floor sounds like bowling bowl…I actually jump!…that's just the beginning…she vacuumed all hours of the night and also sounds like she's moving furniture around up there!….I've complained about this issues to the manager on several occasions…I don't think they're doing anything about it…..I don't know what to do…I've been here 15 years I'm 72 and I'm at wits end!…any suggestions?….


    • January 23, 2020 at 4:38 pm, Beth Shaffer said:

      > Just because you have the constitution to be a live and let live person who is not bothered by loud stomping above your head does not mean everyone else does. Some people have physical or mental disabilities which make noise impossible to filter out – these people literally cannot sleep or focus on anything if there is too much noise. Often these people are surrounded by noise and activity all day and need somewhere at the end of the day with some peace and quiet to recharge. And for many people, especially those in major cities, moving into a house is not an option. A three bedroom house in my city is $500,000. Anyone willing to help me pay for it so they don't have to be mindful of my rights to peace in my own home??? I didn't think so. I have a daughter and she doesn't stomp around like an elephant. How about this – if people don't feel the need to teach their children to respect neighbors, they should be the ones to go get a house.


      • February 09, 2020 at 3:17 pm, Jacqueline Hall said:

        > I agree! ! I have nothing against children. It's all about discipline and structure. Unfortunately, most children have none of that and the parents are terrible examples too.


  3. January 19, 2010 at 3:09 pm, Lisa said:

    I’m having a difficult time with my upstairs neighbours with their “amorous personal relations”. While I do understand that they have their personal rights do I have any of my own when it comes to these delicate matters. The “romps” that begin at 1 in the morning in the middle of the week are leaving me with sleepless nights. I have left a note for them kindly advising them of the noise, but there has been no success. Do I have any rights? and what should my plan of action be?


  4. February 02, 2010 at 10:48 am, Shell said:

    I, too, am having trouble with the “personal relations” from the neighbors upstairs. They were arguing until midnight and apparently made up around 4 am when the very loud squeeking of the bed woke me and my daughter. Yes my daughter has asked me numerous times what they are doing up there. I’m going to try leaving a can of WD40 at their door and asking them to oil the springs….maybe they will take a hint.


  5. February 17, 2010 at 3:31 pm, Chris said:

    Sometimes it isn’t the fault of the upstairs neighbor. Unfortunately, sometimes it is poor upkeep.

    My downstairs neighbors called the police, the city, my landlord… it was a nightmare. Their complaint? They could hear me walking around my apartment at night.

    When that failed, they blamed “machine noise”. Which, of course, nobody could hear including the police. Finally I had to pin a notice on their door demanding that they either provide proof or that I was going to seek legal action.

    They were eventually evicted. I’m moving out… since the apartment is not being fixed up in this economy.


  6. March 13, 2010 at 2:15 am, Zissy said:

    The problem with my upstairs neighbors is a bit difficult. They have one little girl and a chihuahua. The little girl chases the dog across the apt. starting at 8am until midnight most days. Tonight it has stopped at 11:10pm. When I have tried to speak to them they say they don’t understand English. I don’t like to complain because it’s just a small girl and her dog but it’s hard for me to work from home when she is constantly running and running. I’ve told the landlord and he has spoken to them and now all I get is dirty looks. 🙁


    • July 18, 2018 at 5:37 pm, Joann said:

      > evening complainant I understand exactly what your going through I am having the same issue just a little girl and sometimes two girls I try to deal with it but now that I get up at 5 am for work it gets harder not to get disgusted I tap on ceiling they stop for 5 minutes and tight back at it .It sometime go on for days in the late evenings up. Until sometime midnight or 1 am. Don't wanna be a tattled what can I do HELP


      • July 21, 2018 at 4:48 pm, tima said:

        Wow I am dealing the same thing I talked to them nicely even give them food 2 times and have talked with them nothing works >


        • January 08, 2019 at 11:27 am, Mary Hunter said:

          I have same problem for a year now with people banging on floor over me & draging furniture every evening. I suffer from high blood pressure & it's doing my head in. I don't know what to do. I don't know them.>


    • January 21, 2019 at 1:58 pm, Oly said:

      I'm having the same problem except it's "two small ankle biters" so my property manager told me. They run back and forth ALLL day, EVERY day for the past five months. My fiance doesn't mind, hes says they're dogs, your asking them to not have their dogs do what dogs do. No, I'm asking them not to have it happen all day! Everytime I call the leading office, and she comes over to my apartment to listen she doesn't hear anything or it's a light pitter patter. I feel she calls, the people upstairs before she comes to me and tells them to keep it down. So that when she comes over she hears nothing. I've told her I have to wear ear plugs until 11 at night (cause that's when my other half goes to sleep) once he goes to sleep, I bring the broom out and tap the ceiling and turn the TV up loud. When he's awake, he'll ask me why I'm turning the TV up so loud, so I wait until he goes to sleep. I just feel like nobody is willing to help me, or do nothing about it. I'm so close to calling animal control or the non emergency number. I'm ready to break my lease and move somewhere else, and I'm gonna be on the top floor, I don't want to be on the bottom floor again.


      • January 28, 2019 at 7:34 am, Mama Cindy said:

        I have same problem. I have idiot above and idiots below me who wake me up at all hours at night. I am a light sleeper. My idiot has to bang pots and pans at 4 am in morning and to make it even worse she has a hyena laugh that drives me crazy. She has to pace back and forth ten hours a day and she stomps to annoy the pudding out of me. My ceiling above me squeaks and I try to drown her out with a noise machine which helps drowns out her ugly voice. It does not however help with the incessant walking. I live in a flat so I can not do any permanent repairs as I need permission from the landlord. I had to move my computer so I would not have to be under her. I literally have to sleep on my couch because she blasts her tv on at all hours of the night which causes me to have murderous thoughts about her. Lol. I can't get anywhere with the landlord as he is unwilling to do anything as I live in a lax building. I had landlord talk to her which went in one ear and out the other. It used to be so peaceful for me and I am sick and tired that this idiot has so much power above me to make my life a living hell. I bang on her wall which she ignores. I cant do anything else because she had a mental breakdown in flat with loud screaming for 20 mins.


    • January 25, 2020 at 12:48 am, Heidi Kobulnicky said:

      I get woken up out of my sleep at 3am every morning with my neighbor's kid upstairs running across the floor and slamming doors so hard that my walls shake.
      I have opened cracks in my ceiling from the kids doing that.
      The landlord doesnt do anything about this situation. The landlord states that he cant evict them as he has no proof.
      What proof does he need?
      I am taking legal action against both the neighbor upstairs and the landlord very soon.


  7. May 01, 2010 at 10:46 pm, Kali (Houston,TX ) said:

    I as an apartment resident have experienced all of the things I am reading about on here. Good to know that I am not the only one who has had noisy ass neighbors upstairs. But, it many cases it’s not really that your upstairs neighbors are excessively noisy. It is really poor construction of the apartment building. The building you and I are living in is not really built for our comfort, it is built for maximum profit for the apartment developer and his investors.
    The only ways to escape the noise from upstairs neighbors is to find yourself a townhouse style rental unit where you are in control of both the bottom floor and the 2nd floor; A rental house;
    or Earplugs. The point I wanted to make is that apartments basically suck, but they do provide low cost, low maintenance housing for people like you and I. It is definitely true what I have heard all my life “You get what you pay for”. Good luck to you all.


  8. May 12, 2010 at 8:39 pm, ACL said:

    I’m having the same problem as Lisa, except for my case it’s a single, male. In addition to the heavy walking, his “successful dates” are also a bit of a problem. It’s random, but when it occurs the entire bed moves, hitting the wall. I haven’t taken action yet, but for a topic as personal as it is what can I do?


  9. June 13, 2010 at 1:18 am, trodupon said:

    I have similar issues with noisy neighbors. They own a large dog that bounds across the floor at all hours of the day and at night, the human neighbors sleep most of the day and don’t “come to life” until late in the evening when they begin stomping, slamming, banging and crashing around.

    Unfortunately, their bedroom is directly above mine and that is where they make the majority of incessant noise. The great part is that the property management of the complex where I live refuses to do anything about it. They are going to relocate this resident when another apartment is available but they are doing nothing about the noise made by them while waiting for another apartment to open up.

    I have been all over asking for help and advice and everything seems to point to what has already been pointed out here: living in apartments is awful.
    If you cannot afford to rent a house then invest in earplugs, a white noise machine and see what type of soundproofing the complex you live in will allow you to put up as a noise-barrier because asking for help seems only to result in YOU ending up being treated like you are the one causing the problem…


  10. October 29, 2010 at 10:34 am, Sadie said:

    My upstairs neighbor is unusually noisy. I can understand coping with the loud stepping but constantly dropping heavy stuff on the floor almost every day at dawn gets really annoying. So, this morning, after being awaken by what sounded like dozen of dumbbells hitting the floor, repeatedly, I decided to go pay the neighbor a visit. Mind you, she simply shouted from behind her comfortably closed door “what do you want?”, thus responding to my knocking on her door (hinting that she knew exactly why I was there). I kindly asked her if it would be possible for her to be more mindful in the morning because there are people living below her. Her reply was : “how about that party last night, huh?” Apparently, she was doing it purposely that particular morning because someone else on the second floor (she’s on the 3rd) was having a party last night. Who has to pay for it? Me!! It was her responsibility to go look for the party and kindly asked the people involved to quiet down. Instead, she decided to take revenge on the wrong people. Being unresponsive and quite rude about the whole thing, I immediately called management to report the incident. If it continues, I am afraid I will simply call the cop!!


  11. October 29, 2010 at 10:38 am, Sadie said:

    Please read “after being awakened” in my 3rd sentence.


  12. November 02, 2010 at 10:05 pm, Darryl said:

    I have been dealing with a family of three who have a 4 year old child with asthma. The child runs, jumps, stomps, bounces ball, drops toys, screams and throws tantrums all hours of the day and night. The parents don’t do anything about it or try to discipline him at all. Now, we don’t blame the child, we blame the irresponsible parents. We have talked with them and they always say yeah, yeah we will keep it down. I’m sure you all know how much that worked. We have a two and a half year old son and my wife is a full time student who has to study till sometimes 3 or 4 in the morning. Guess who is up and throwing tantrums and running wild? We have talked with the landlord who always hangs up on me. BTW, we own our condo. I told him that I will call him everytime they wake me up no matter what time it is. He gets really mad but, we have tried everything. The father now blames all the hyper activity on his son with asthma. He said he won’t discipline his son and now we have to find a way to stop all of this. I’m going to find out what the noise ordinance is for our city and try to take the renters to court. They say if you have enough proof of the noise, you can get the Judge to fine them everytime they are out of line. That’s why i’ve been documenting every minute of everyday the we are home. I write down dates and times. I email it and mail it to the landlord just to show the courts that I am trying to go through proper channels first. Next, I hope to see them in court.


  13. November 14, 2010 at 9:32 am, Tony said:

    I am a musician, I play the electric guitar but very rarely at home as I live in a studio complex. My upstairs neighbors have a stereo with a powered sub woofer which sits on the floor and is connected to their TV. They have the sub woofer up too loud and they turn it down when I complain BUT I suffer from arthritis in both knees so climbing the stairs to complain can be a real chore, they should know by now when it’s too loud and I shouldn’t have to remind them SO:
    I’ve decided to fight fire with fire. Whenever their sub is excessively loud I warm up my Marshall amp, plug in my ’56 Gibson Les Paul and let it rip with a few power chords.
    Now this Marshall is LOUD, so loud that you can hear it 500 metres away, so loud that the walls shake and windows break, so loud that I have permanent ear damage from the years of playing. so loud that my little dog has learned how to drag large cushions off the sofa and stick his bleeding little ears underneath to avoid the noise (he likes my company that much rather than just run away).
    SO LOUD that they turn their chintzy little sub woofer OFF not just down, for the rest of the night.
    It works every time.


    • January 29, 2017 at 12:59 am, Can't get no rest said:

      > Right On !! Best one yet, revenge!!!! Play away dude… I need you over here. Got a tweek upstairs that goes for days!! I cranked my whimpy but loud enough put some ac dc high way to hell on and held it to her ceiling. I should do it when she finaly falls to sleep.


  14. November 26, 2010 at 9:53 pm, Dwayne said:

    I live in a two family condo with a unit on the second fllor and my unit on the first floor. Ther is no insulation between the floors and even simple conversations are clearly heard downstairs. I have grown accustomed to some noise as it comes with living in a condo bu when the noise becomes excessive I too have resorted to tit for tat as it seems to be the only thing my neighbors understand. They have no children but three dogs and they are heavy as hell when it comes to walking around. The wife also seems to enjoy walking around in heels. When the noise becomes too loud, I turn to the local rap music station and let it play until three in the morning. This seems to work just fine.


  15. December 17, 2010 at 1:51 pm, jay said:

    it’s all about the rent money..nobody gives a shit about you..I have learned this the hard way.


  16. December 22, 2010 at 3:03 pm, Kikyo said:

    I have the same problems noisy neighbors upstairs, it sounds like an elephant is walking upstairs, have a lot of company coming every night noise, music, tv loud till 3am. I try talking to the owner of these apartments, it gets quiet for a night, then the noise persist over and over again. I ALSO CALLED THE POLICE SEVERAL TIMES BUT STILL THEY DON’T CARE AND CONTINUE MAKING NOISE!!! I TRIED CALLING THE OWNER AGAIN AND THIS IS WHAT SHE SAYS TO ME: YOU’RE SENSITIVE TO NOISE! SHE MADE ME SO MAD WHEN SHE SAID THAT TO ME, THAT I SAID WHY DON’T YOU COME OVER AND SPEND THE NIGHT OVER AND SEE HOW SENSITIVE I AM!!! CAN CAN I DO ABOUT IT???? PLEASE HELP!!!


  17. December 22, 2010 at 5:33 pm, Roz said:

    I am an amputee in a wheelchair and live downstairs from some really rude and noisey neighbors.They stomp and pace from room to room stomping all hours of the day and night!I have contacted the manager several times and the police about them. The police talked to them and the manager did too but they still slam things around,stomp,and if I say anything to them they yell profanities through the floor at me.I am kept up until 3 and 4 am most nights and have to go to dialysis at 5am 3 times a week!! This is starting to affect my health as I need sleep but they obviously don`t!!My manager said they aren`t awatre of what they are doing but they yell at me if I say anything,so that`s a bunch of you know what…My next door neighbor has also complained to the police and manager as well but to no avail.Please help me as I am on my last nerve here and my health is getting worse from no sleep!I have a 13 month lease and cannot move until May of 2011..This has been going on for 3 months now..What more can I do?? Thank you for your time..


    • January 10, 2019 at 8:58 am, Maxx said:

      > You must move as soon as posdible


    • November 17, 2019 at 3:48 pm, Taylor said:

      Break your lease as you have every right to do that if the leasing office and landlord isn’t doing his/her job, then you can break your lease. I am living below a group of people, there are 3 of them, and the noise has been getting worse and worse over the past 3 weeks. They are moving thank the Lord, in one month, and I’ve had a lot of support and help from the leasing office. I am definitely moving when my lease is up in 6 months and looking for a house to move into , to give me peace and quiet. This was never such a severe issue before as I’ve lived in my same apartment for 5 years. 4 out of the 5 years the upstairs tenants weren’t too bad. Sometimes it would get loud but never super early and late at night consistently. A lot of people have no idea how loud their walking and movements are to people living below them. This is the worst experience I’ve ever gone through and can’t wait to move and for the upstairs tenants to finally leave. I recommend not moving into a floor level unit. I am trying to avoid apartment living going forward because of how bad the noise has been that is ultimately negatively affecting my sleep and my health.


  18. June 07, 2011 at 12:49 am, NT said:

    I have a female neighbor upstairs. She just moved in last month. Last Friday I came home from work and whoever she had up their with her were playing drums.. and the bass was loud..now mind you when I had moved in my apartment a year ago, I was assured that you would not be able to hear the neighbors, because it has cement walls. Not true. I had went upstairs to ask them could they not play the drums.. anyway who has drums in an apartment complex. That is just not right. Anyway, I had knocked on the door, several times. Once they did stop, they must have looked out of the peep hole and thought so what and got louder, so I had knocked on the door louder..yes I had yelled because they were ignoring me and I only wanted them to stop. Well now ever since that incident .. she walks real hard, purposely drops things, and this will go on until 2am . I mean the apartment is only so big…I do not want to call the police.. but if it continues I am going to contact the landlord. I can’t move out, because I had just signed my new lease in April… I have to be at work at 7:30am..I don’t know what to do


  19. June 27, 2011 at 10:40 pm, DJM said:

    A broom handle tapping on the ceiling once in a while might help. Of course it caused one Neandertal electric bass playing SOB who lived with his “estranged” wife to rood rage at us, and the police started coming by on their own to check on things and he ended up getting arrested for thugging up to one, but hey it took care of what the complex could not. He wasn’t even a lessee, as in wasn’t on the lease.

    We left that apartment to buy a home after Our apartment flooded for the umpteenth time when it rained and black mold was everywhere and my work suits / clothes in the closet were ruined all because they “fixed” a balcony over our bedroom… We lived with huge garbage cans in our bedroom because the ceiling was a seive.

    Now, I love having a home in a quiet neighborhood where the cops are serious about the noise ordinance. I will be sad if we ever have to move. The only thing I don’t like other than our mortgage serviced – who is the spawn of Satan – is having to pay for all the upkeep and repairs. It wa nice having a handyman on call that I didn’t have to pay. And taxes.


  20. February 18, 2012 at 9:52 pm, Cami said:

    Well, I’m dealing with the same situation–times six. A husband, his wife, and their 4 (younger) daughters). For the past few days (though they claim that they’ve JUST started moving in today), they’ve created noises such as stomping, loud footsteps as their girls are running, etc. I talked to them today and the wife was very understanding and explained that she has been a manager of an apartment complex before and she understands what it means to be considerate to the downstairs neighbors when it comes to noise. The husband seemed a little…ticked. He acted like I was yelling in his face and was very rude to me–even though I was on my nicest behavior. I explained to them that the noise is very loud and very obnoxious and that if they could keep it down just a tad, that would be awesome. The husband walked away, shaking his head, while I said to him, “It’s just a part of being considerate towards the people downstairs…”

    Today is Saturday, and I’m going to speak to management on Monday if the noise has not subsided in the slightest bit.


  21. March 10, 2012 at 10:09 pm, Chase said:

    Last year I rented my 1st floor apartment and my only complaint is the occasional noise from the neighbors upstairs. I’m able to ignore the normal sounds of walking, stuff being dropped and the Sunday exercise machine. But since my apartment is a duplicate of the ones around mine, their bedroom is square above mine. That said, the couple upstairs make the most noise at around 10:00 at night in a joint session.

    Once I had decided it wasn’t a noise I was going to tolerate, I knocked on their door and politely explained the situation. They seemed genuinely shocked I could hear them and, for the better part of a month, their escapades ceased. But as time passed, they started up again. Particularly one night when they both came home drunk and fucked like overweight rabbits at 3:00am. Woke me up as well as the neighbor that shares their wall, I later found out.

    That following morning I knocked on their door and was, unsurprisingly, met with no response. Hangover or just dead asleep, not sure which. I decided to go a different route after that. The job I work at sells greeting cards. I bought a “Congratulations on the baby!” card, addressed it to their unit and dropped it in the mail. These two don’t have a kid and are at that young age where the thought of popping out a child is a terror worse than death.

    I haven’t heard them having sex since.


  22. March 15, 2012 at 12:23 pm, latrice said:

    My upstairs neighbor have an alarm that vibrates every 20 min & it goes off for hours!! It sounds like its vibrating in my room. I asked them to move it or turn it off they said they would but never did. I think I am going to write them a letter because I cannot live like this!!


  23. April 06, 2012 at 10:26 pm, Lying neighbors said:

    I feel for everyone who has written. I am in a battle with my upstairs neighbors as well. One walks like a baby elephant though banging the wall to match the footsteps noise has helped curb that.
    Then, last month, they started running an air purifier or some such device all fricking night and day in their bedroom which is right above mine.
    You try sleeping with whu,whu,whu,whu,whu,whu,whu,whu noise all night long. Sometimes they move it to the living room too. The whu,whu,whu,whu noise and then the high pitch whine of the device is so annoying. I went up and talked to the wife who, with fan noise audible in the background, lied to my face about having a device running. I called the next night and asked her to turn off the device. She denied having one on, but magically the noise stopped.
    The next night I’d had enough and phoned and read her the riot act about the noise by-law in the building.
    I’ve resorted to turning on the bathroom fan all night for “white noise” to drown out their device noise at night but am worried about disturbing other owners.
    Today I’ve played music in the bedroom all day and into the evening. I don’t think I can sleep with the music on but maybe it will get the message across.
    The building management are going to send them a letter also.
    My next step will be talking to the neighbors to see if they are also being affected and encourage them to complain.
    I just purchased this place and have only been here for 7 months.
    I first comlained about their noise when I moved in and they wrote this bull-crap note lying about having kids running around upstairs and on their balcony – unbelievable.
    I’ve started looking for a new residence while continuing to work to correct this issue.
    Luckily I am on the strata for this building, so hopefully can have it resolved soon.
    It still amazes me that people think they can lie to your face and behave inconsideratley towards their neighbors without any accountability.


  24. April 08, 2012 at 9:03 pm, Inconsiderate Neighbors said:

    I can’t believe that so many people are having the same problem as I with the most ignorant, inconsiderate upstairs neighbors. I have been nice, patient, angry and even generous towards these people and yet nothing has changed. The more I complain, the worse they get. I have given them a total of three rugs, yet they drop barbells on the floor daily, play loud music and wake me up from my sleep and every time I call the police, they stop for a little while and then they deliberately tap on the floor every couple seconds, like a dripping tap, the landlord refuses to address the problem and tells me to find my own house if I don’t want to be disturbed. Well after so many police calls and attempts to make peace with these idiots, I have taken the landlord to court for disturbance of peace and I hope that the judge will grant a solution. I can’t believe that people can be so evil, inconsiderate and ignorant.


  25. April 30, 2012 at 11:19 pm, Johnny patient said:

    Just purchased a condo in Ca. Bottom unit of a 4 plex….I understand dropping crap and creeky floors even the occasional party on weekends. My problem is my upstairs neighbors thought it a good idea to buy and use a treadmill on an upstairs condo built in 1968. My pictures rattle, and it thumps like a raped ape. My girlfriend works afternoons and into the night so she likes to sleep until 10-11 am but 9 am every morning rowdy piper and macho man randy savage are having a cage match above us. It’s so loud my iPhone pics it up when I record. I left a note giving ok times (never in my opinion should someone use a treadmill full bore in an upstairs unit) but gave times 12-5 pm and we will see what happens. I’m extremely tolerant to everyday noise even loud walking and such but to get out of bed and have a cup of joe on sunday morn only to hear that and have every picture on my wall rattle like crazy is lame.


  26. June 14, 2012 at 7:49 pm, hate mean people said:

    I live in apartment downstairs alone and above me are a young mother (without a clue) and 3 young kids and visiting family and boyfriend (all in a small 2 bdrm apt); She is thin but walks as if she has cement attached to her feet, sounds like bigfoot, and kids jumping on beds and landing on floor (my ceiling), bouncing balls, throwing things on floor (my ceiling) and running up and down the hallway above me; sometimes awake all night until 5 in the am stomping around, etc; I’ve talked 4 times to apt manager and he now says the young girls father helped her get this apt and he lives here in an apt too, so the Mgr is now taking it easy on the upstairs tenant because her father has an apt here too and he does not want to have 2 empty apts if he evicts her; I’ve called police 4 times for noise complaint and does no good; Kids throw everything in the sun off the balcony, broken plastic, pooper scooper, pennies, clothing, bread bags, trash and half of it lands on my patio; they have a dog and I have NEVER EVER seen anyone walk the dog outside; very sad for that poor dog; I know I should not make negative comments about trailer parks but it just seems to me like they need to get back on that turnip truck they fell off of and go back to their trailer park and fry something; I’m about to move out and I’ve lived here over 10 years and do like it here.


  27. June 14, 2012 at 8:39 pm, hate mean people said:

    Bought some Bose Noise Canceling Headphones at Best Buy; cost $312.00 but the best investment ever in maintaining my sanity; Tempted to move to an apartment complex that has only 1 story apartments with no one above you; I don’t hear neighbors beside me, just above me and if you get some idiots who just fell off the turnip truck moving from their trailer park, you’re in for some very interesting life lessons. They share a truck with their other family members that is old and is mostly gray with a red hood and one white door and on the other side a white fender; I can’t help but feel sorry for them but the noise makes me crazy until I put on my Bose Noise Canceling Headphones and then I’m fine. I could probably make some money writing a story about those people above me and then afford to buy my own house.


  28. June 14, 2012 at 8:45 pm, hate mean people said:

    A long time ago I had guy living above me in an apartment who I discovered was having prostitutes come over upstairs; I could hear everything; sometimes he would call one to come over in the am before he left for work, one day the girl left her car running outside and was in a hurry and left keys in her car and locked door and when she came out of the apartment 15 minutes later and discovered she locked herself out of her running car in the road she kicked her tire and the guy upstairs had to come down and pry open her car door. I think I’m about to move to a 55 and over retirement community. . . this kind of thing certainly would not be happening there.


    • January 02, 2017 at 3:15 am, Som Nikto said:

      > You think so? I live in a 55+ senior complex and my upstairs neighbor is just as noisy, if not noisier, than those reported here. The manager does nothing as she gets kick backs for allowing these creeps (most of whom, like my upstairs neighbor, have extensive felony criminal records) to move in. So, don't think a 55+ community will solve the problem — it won't.


  29. July 10, 2012 at 5:22 am, tony said:

    ignorant, inconsiderate upstairs neighbors, they also stomp at 3 am and finally the noise die down at 7am, but this noise keeps me away, the lady walks like a elephant, and I know she is doing this on purpose after I complained on her, but the manager she said she cannot control people’s life, but what about my peace? and my little kids, I’m fed up with this situation, I want to end my lease but the cancellation fees are outrageous $1350, I don’t have this kind of money, what can I do, I still have 8 months of my lease.


  30. July 14, 2012 at 7:05 pm, sick and tired said:

    I have some Einsteins above me here in Plainville. I wonder why people in general just dont get it. Is it education? Upbringing? Or they lived in a house before hand and have had a silver spoon yanked from their mouthes. I have written 2 letters. I dont mind normal living,thats expected. But these air samples let the kids run free from 6AM to 11:45 PM. Bouncing basket balls,jumping off the couches and chairs, running up and down hallway at full gallop. I know kids play,thats fine,,this is a joke. Last week the 3 year olds were walking on their SUV roof in the rain,sliding down the windshield…while dumb dum daddy was on phone inside basketball court.Kids are never guided,always trailing behind the mother,bouncing to and fro,running in all diections.Even my 2 children ask me whats wrong with them. I just say we have rules and abide by societies guidelines for behavior. While some people just dont get it, nor care about others. I see now these parents are seperated…he isnt a salesman on long trips. hes a duh….duh duh. childish message to him and his blond dummy…phugh you!!!


  31. August 15, 2012 at 3:00 am, The 2 S.P's said:

    I understand & sympathize with all who’s written here.. We too have neighbours from hell..
    however we are blessed with 2 apartments : 1 above us & 1 below us. 🙁 who are new immigrants, with 2 elderly parents, their daughter and her husband and their 4 kids living in a 2 bdrm apartment, in one.
    While the new immigrants who moved in below I think are related. they too have an old couple, their son and his wife with 3 loud screaming kids.
    I don’t believe they have phones so they yell to each other from upstairs above me, to downstairs below me in a high pitch language, but they always yell over one another so it sounds like they are always fighting or something..
    They never attend to their screaming crying kids who pound, slam doors, cry all hours if the day and night.. it sounds like a bloody bowling alley above me and below me.. Day and night.
    6 months ago I received a letter from property manager saying I was to stop all the loud noise and screaming…???? huh?

    So I proved the property manager wrong as it wasn’t me making noise it was upstairs and below me.. I recorded everything to prove myself innocent.. then I started complaining about all the excess noise because It was horrible, day and night.
    But then the property manager tells me to stop complaining. I have to let kids be kids and not to complain… yet this all started because they sent me a letter to cease and stop from all the noise..
    Now this summer the tenants above have started pouring bleach down on us saying they are cleaning bird crap from balcony.. but they killed all our plants, tomatoe plants, house plants, ruined our balcony with dirty bleach and bird poop..
    Yet cops say they don’t speak English … so what we going to do?? They say talk to landlord, who do sent give a dam, because we just have to deal with it.
    They community lawyer even said noise complaints are so hard to prove and fight in landlord tenant board. Even with all the proof I have.. it will be me who will have to move.
    It will be me who will have to pay for movers, because tenants who are new immigrants to Canada, especially with kids can get away with SO much more than me, a person with severe disabilities.


  32. August 15, 2012 at 8:41 pm, Upstairs Crazy Legs said:

    Someone moved in above me and has loud feet. I’m gonna give them one verbal warning and then I’m gonna either fight them (if it’s a guy) or bash their car/property in (girl). The end.


  33. September 03, 2012 at 10:18 pm, rex said:

    Crazy Legs, I wish we could do that & get away with it. Some people in this world truly deserve a severe beating.


  34. September 09, 2012 at 7:53 pm, cindy said:

    I’ve got the same problems; family of four with two kids aged 3 and 5. They chase each other all day, running, jumping, diving. Landlord has twlked to them twice with no help. Now I think they are doing it on purpose because they know I complained about them. I found a different place to move to but unfortunately I am still under lease. So I’ll make some recordings as proof of what I’m dealing with and HOPE my landlord wont sue me for breaking the lease. Coincidently, they put this 2-family up for sale immediately after I started complaining. I bet anything that’s why the lady who lived here before me moved. If the cheap landlords would just install thick pad and carpet, it wouldn’t be so bad but no… they like the “charm” of hardwood floors. Well their charm is going to cost them!


  35. September 29, 2012 at 8:30 pm, kathy said:

    I have an upstairs neighbor with an 11 year old son The kid NEVER goes outside instead he plays indoors all day..is room is directly above mine and his favorite thing to do is jump off his bed and on to he floor …alllllllllllll day running around jumping..After reaching my breaking point I composed myself thinking maybe the mother just didn’t realize how loud it actually is..sooo I went up and told her “Hey I understand you have a kid and kids will be kids but I work at 4a can you plz just stop him from jumping?” her response was ” No he can do whatever he wants he is a kid and I am not going to change who he is.” whaaaaaaaaat???? I said “I don’t want to change who he is I want him to be respectful of the fact that people live below.” she said “No.” in fact she from that point on began jumping up and down eith him yelling through the floor “is that bothering you?” and laughing this goes on for hours…Today I came home from work walked into the building as she was leaving and her son was staying home as she got into her car she yelled to the kid “make sure to make as much noise as possible.” WTF??? I have left email and phone call complaints with the landlord I am currently waiting for a resolution…I am at my wits end


    • September 29, 2019 at 7:51 pm, Mike said:

      > Does this kid have some kind of disability? He is much too old to be acting this way. If he has a problem he should seek professional help effective immediately. If he has a behavioral issue he needs to seek professional help before the problem gets worse.


  36. October 02, 2012 at 6:39 am, This is insane! said:

    This is some bullshit! I have the most irritating upstairs neighbors ever! Three very overweight women, one average sized man, and two kids (5 year old boy and a 6 month old baby) in a two bed apartment. The family is a little odd and I tried to ignore the noise for a time. About a week. But its so unbearable I can’t take it anymore. I have tried talking to the landlord, but the noise continues even though the landlord has left notes on their door, informing them in person. Nothing has worked. They let their kids pound and bang and run a muck until like four or five in the morning. Their older child screams, runs around, goes back and forth from loudly playing inside their apartment to loudly playing outside. All of this happens the same time each night for countless hours. I have a two year old toddler who is constantly being woken up because ether people upstairs have no respect. I tried talking to them once, but these people just blankly stared at me like I was speaking a foreign language even though they speak fluent English. They play dumb, though, so i’m not sure what to do. One of the three women works late, so I can understand that, but the noise lasts for hours. It sounds like a stampede up there and they don’t seem to care. Their five year old is so unruly, and their infant isn’t that loud, but the infant is allowed to play with toys that are dropped at all hours of the night and i’m just fed up. If you’re going to let your kids play at ungodly times of the night, at least make them play at a tolerable level. Kids pay, but wtf do they think this is, a McDonalds 24 hour play place! ! ! They don’t even try to make their kid listen, they just scream at him from their window. Omg, I can’t take this anymore. It is now almost six in the morning and these people are showing no signs of stopping. Why can’t they just STFU, DAMN!


  37. October 02, 2012 at 9:15 am, Tyler said:

    Mine is a fat old mental patient who walks around like a herded cow at all time of the night, and vacums at around 8-9 in the morning to 10-11 at night, how do you deal with this mother—–?


  38. October 21, 2012 at 1:42 am, This is insane! said:

    @Tyler……. Lol, I know right! I would demand that the landlord either move you or him! I would be livid if I was put below a mental patient. Oh the humanity.


  39. November 14, 2012 at 9:10 am, Tearingmahairout!! said:

    You know the thing is these a holes upstairs must have just moved in about three months or so ago because I don’t ever remember it being like this. I moved in about 7 months ago and every thing was fine…..Now all I hear is chairs being dragged back n forth back n forth..I actually think the sound is going to put me in the nut house!! And not just that, there little kid (about 5 or so ) runs back n forth thumping as loud as she can, they drop things over and over’ I don’t get it, do these people constantly have butter smothered all over there fingers? I mean y? Y can’t u hold on to something for less than a Minuit at all times????
    I have went upstairs to talk to them twice so far, the first time I was very nice and asked if I could buy those little pads to stick to the bottom of there chairs and got a reply of ” oh… Da bang bang?”
    Ya the freakin bang bang lady!!!
    The last time I went up and she did not even answer the door,just a ” who is it?” Well,we’ll I thought u didn’t speak a no engli?
    Anyway I don’t know what to do as I have a very hard time ever telling on anybody or epically calling no damn cops but I donno, it’s getting pretty bad.
    Help 🙁


  40. November 29, 2012 at 7:13 am, Sleepless in Seattle said:

    I’m up at 4:00am, researching what I can do to have my neighbor evicted, as he is destroying my health by deliberately waking me up several times each night. He doesn’t like my snoring, which is the result of my severe obstructive sleep apnea (which is untreatable), and is totally involuntary. Rather than take reasonable measures of his own, such as moving his bed away from our common wall, or wearing ear plugs to bed (both of which I have done, in an effort to escape being awakened by him), he instead bangs on the wall and wakes me up. He is in violation of the laws against disturbing the peace, as well as the terms of his lease agreement, yet I am unable to get the offsite management to do anything, nor will the police take any action. The police have told me they can’t do anything unless he is “making noise” when they arrive on the scene. Well, of course they would find no one making any noise because they guy isn’t playing loud music or anything of that nature. He beating on the wall, and this only occurs once every few hours or so. In order for the police to witness it, they would have to be here in my apartment with me while I’m asleep in order to hear it.

    I have checked the local and state landlord-tenant laws, as well as the nuisance and noise abatement laws, and the latter seems to be aimed at complaints of on-going noise from stereos, etc. Not a word about this sort of activity.

    The walls here are like tissue paper. I can hear him sneeze! He just banged on the wall as I was typing this, because he could hear my laptop keyboard!

    I have lived here almost 3 years, now, and he only moved in a little over a year ago. I have never had this type of issue with anyone in that apartment before, and he is the third neighbor I’ve had on that side since I moved in. At first, my only complaint about this guy was his coming in late at night, slamming his door, bringing his friends in with him and partying until 4:00am. I contacted the management and they got him to stop that. Since then, the management has changed to the present do-nothings, who won’t respond to my letters, emails, voicemail messages or anything else. I have researched trying to sue them for non-performance of the lease agreement, but the laws tend to favor the landlord, not the tenant.


  41. December 17, 2012 at 1:13 am, I Hate My Neighbor said:

    @Sleepless in Seattle, I would be pissed too if I could hear someone snoring all night. That is YOUR issue, medical or not. Your neighbors shouldn’t have to listen to it. Get some Breathe Right strips or see a doctor.

    My upstairs neighbor has a fat little corgi that barks constantly when she isn’t home (which is most of the time) and when she is home, it runs back and forth at all hours. I have a 9yo daughter who is constantly woken up in the middle of the night by this miserable creature and there is little I can do. Management doesn’t care. I’m going to have to find some creative solutions.


  42. December 31, 2012 at 6:59 pm, Tenants Above Me Don't Care said:

    Reading all these comments, I now know, I am not alone. I live in an muti-family apartment building with 69 apartments. There are only one bedroom and studio apartments in this building. The building is overcrowded and the landlord or Property Manager have to know this. I live in a large studio apartment. The tenants above me moved in about 6 months ago at 1 a.m. I knew then, this was a bad Omen because a well managed property wouldn’t let tenants move in at this late night early morning. It’s a young guy and girl with a child. I had to go upstairs 3 times when they first moved in because they were playing ball with and running in the apartment with their child like wild ‘savages’. The last time I went up there, the young woman stated to me, management knew she had a child and the tenants about her sometimes made noise. I told her, this had nothing to do with me and she should complain to management. Last night during the Washington Redskins and Dallas Cowboys game, the tenants above me starting dropping hard objects on the floor and they have carpet. I hit the ceiling hard with the broom several times. In retailiation, they stomped hard on the floor. They did it twice. I didn’t want a confrontation with these animals because I don’t want to get into trouble. I call 911 and the police came and went upstairs. I also sent an email to the Property Manager and landlord. They were quite the rest of last night. Guess what, they started the hard walking and stomping tonight, New Year’s Eve. There 2 or 3 year old kid have awaken me at 2 a.m. in the morning screaming and crying or the couple have woke me up fucking so loud, the bed was banging against the floor. To all on here, thank you because I had become depressed thinking, I was alone. I’m 57 years old on disability. I am going to see if I can move into a senior citizen building in a nice area. I pray that I win a financial blessing to move the hell up out of here. Rents in Washington, D.C. is very expensive in Northwest and apartments start around $1,800 up to $7,000.

    Happy New Year!!!


  43. January 04, 2013 at 3:31 pm, Cara Thompson said:

    I am the upstairs neighbor and I’m looing for advice. I am sad because I had no idea how noisy my four year old and I are until my downstairs neighbor posted a nasty mean status update calling us degenerate trash and so on bc she has to work long shifts and has a baby herself and gets up at 5 am for work. The thing is I work late at night and simply walking up my stairs after work disturbs her apparently. When my daughter and I get home from school, I go to work and her heavy set dad watches her. They both walk so loudly even though I tell them every day to stop!!! Now my neighbors hate me. I am trying to find an apartment that is one story or something because I have lived here for three years and I have noticed that the walls must be very thin. I am scared to live! I have no privacy and bad anxiety. I don’t want to be on bad terms wth my neighbors! I try to gt my four year old to stop walking like that by putting her in time out and taking away tv, or toys, but it is like beating my head with a brick.


  44. January 14, 2013 at 1:08 pm, Fed Up With The Scumbags Above said:

    After reading all the other comments on here my neighbour issues don’t seem that bad but they are really because I am here writing this. I have an oldish couple above me who walk like they have bags of coal strapped to their feet, stomp stomp stomp. They cannot shut doors or windows they have to slam them and loud (I guess this is to let the apartment block that they are home maybe?) But the worse is every weekend from Friday to Sunday they have visitors who stay over which consists of their son and his missus, their 2 or 3 year old kid and a large dog – all in a 2 bedroomed apartment! The kid runs about squealing and shrieking all weekend until after 11pm which isn’t right as he should be in bed by then. This noise has done me right in and totally stressed me out over the past few year or so. I work full time and hate my weekends at home which isn’t how life is suppose to be. I complained to the landlord and things did calm down a bit but its esculated again and i am peeeed off. I can’t continue to shout shut the f*** up you scumbags at the ceiling or bang something to vent my frustration. So, in my living room i have 4 ft speakers to my music system, i don’t like to play these (daft i know) as i have a nice neighbour below me and i don’t want to upset her with the music. So on top of these speakers each weekend when the kid starts running wild i place a very large pile of books and on top i place my little stereo and point it at the ceiling and i let the music play, normally drum and bass or heavy dance music and boy they don’t like it. At first they get the kid to run faster and harder but i just make sure the volume is on high and i go and do something in another room. Ok its not fixing the problem but i am fed up of putting up with crap from them so i let them have it and loud! I have even gone out to the gym and left the music on – i have had enough of playing Miss Nice. So to everyone who has noisy neighbours above – no its not you, you are not being unreasonable as not everyone is as considerate as you are. Yes it does get you down and make you feel like you don’t want to go be at home but unless you can move or you have confidence your landlord will sort it then you have got to give as good as you get. Invest in some heavy music and get the speakers as near to your ceiling as possible and let them have it……….worth a try anyway.


  45. January 24, 2013 at 2:05 am, worried said:

    I have upstairs neighbors who are Hispanic. I smell pot coming from my air vents every once in a while, but that’s not even the worst. The man shouts profanities at the woman at night when I’m sleeping and threatens her physically. Tonight it escalated and he beat the crap out of her. She was screaming bloody murder as I could hear each pound. I did not hesitate and called 911 immediately… they came and knocked on their door about 20 times but no answer from them. Unfortunately since they got dead quiet almost immediately after the first knock the officers could not do a thing. Tomorrow I am going to complain with apt management and hopefully get what this bastard deserves. I only hope the woman has some sense to stand up for herself. Although I am still worried because I have not herd a peep out of her for 3 hours now. Ive only heard the man walking around… I hope she is ok and praying for her.


  46. January 24, 2013 at 3:50 pm, Sam said:

    I have stupid neighbors, they yell and fight, and jam country music. My husband has a night shift job, and im tempted to go out there and set their asses straight. I may be short and stalky and not intimidating, but im tired of the shit.


  47. February 03, 2013 at 11:06 pm, Peter said:

    Noisy upstairs neighbors are all a part of a growing number of people in society who think that “it’s all about me”. These people do not acknowledge the rights, needs, or importance of anyone but themselves and it goes way beyond the apartment problem. These are the same folks who hog parking spaces (parking in two and not one), they spend an hour texting on the weight machine at the gym (while others wait in line to use it), they engage in social conversations with people behind the window/s at the Post Office while there is a long line behind them, they do the same at the bank (with the teller), they weave from lane to lane on the highway, but push you aside without saying excuse me on the subway, they talk loudly on their cell phone in the restaurant so all other customers can hear it, they simply do not consider anyone but themselves. In their minds, nothing is justified unless it’s to their benefit. Many of these folks are commenting on these forums about noisy neighbors as well. If you turned the tables, however, and they were downstairs, they would react as any human being would.


  48. February 05, 2013 at 6:08 pm, Kiki said:

    I have an Asian family of four that live above me. The noise has
    been going on for a year now. The kids jump and run constantly, 24/7, they never
    Sleep and the parents don’t discipline them. I have complained
    To the management three times now and each time they said they have left a message on my neighbor’s machine telling them there has been a
    Noise complaint. If anything, it’s getting worse. My grades are suffering because I can’t concentrate enough to study. I’m becoming anxious and depressed. I’m at my wit’s end. My next door
    Neighbor found out I complained and scoffed at me, telling me I should let children be children. Yes, but at what cost?


  49. February 07, 2013 at 2:52 pm, Shelia said:

    I just moved into an apartment 2 weeks ago. The neighbors who live above me are foreign exchange students around 20 to 22 years of age. I have spoken to them on 3 occasions about how loud their walking is to me. They apologize and claim that they will be more cautious but then turn around that same night and continue. They are in and out of the bedroom above me constantly til 2 and 3 in the morning. It is so loud that it sounds as if they are about to come through the floor. I counted several nights they made 30 trips in and out of the bedroom within an hour. And these were all after midnight. They have an outdoor table set up in their dining area for beer pong! Mattresses on the floors with no frames or anything. Dorm room living in what is supposed to be a “family-oriented” complex. I have called the office about it and they keep telling me to call the courtesy officer. Well how is the officer to approach them with an anonymous complaint about walking too heavy and too late at night????? So I called the courtesy officer last night at 11:24 pm and left a message. The greeting states that the officer will return my call. So I left a message with my phone number and he’s never called me back.

    I called the management companies corporate office. Spoke to the regional guy and told him that issue among others. He said unfortunately there’s nothing they can do about the walking. Then proceeded to ask if it’s an option for me to move to an upstairs unit would that be ok. I asked how would my stuff get moved and he said that I would be responsible for the move. I told him that I didn’t feel that it was my financial responsibility to move myself to another unit since I have not broken any rules nor disturbed anyone. And that maybe they should move the tenants above me to a first floor unit. It doesn’t matter who moves in below them, they are going to have the same complaint and the leasing office will still be dealing with that tenant.

    What are my options? I do know that I have my rights to peace and enjoyment along with quality of life. My quality of life is being ruined with only able to get 4-5 hours of sleep every night.


  50. February 17, 2013 at 9:57 pm, Fed Up said:

    Let me start by saying that my mother, brother, and I have been living in a bottom floor apartment now for almost 6 years. The neighbours above us before these hellions moved in were so quiet, I didn’t even know they had moved. Now i’m wishing they hadn’t.

    A family of four moved in upstairs the day before Thanksgiving (so about three months ago) and it’s been the worst three months of my life. They have a four year old son and a one year old daughter, who both run, jump, shriek, and tumble around on the floor from 8am til sometimes midnight. At first, we tried to talk to the parents. They are both passive-aggressive, and make it seem like we are the ones being unreasonable. The mother seems to be a bit more understanding than the father, who has basically told my mother off and said it was perfectly fine for his children to run around all day. Their parenting skills are atrocious. They scream at the kids (which other people in the apartment building have also complained about) and claim they “can’t control their children”. We should not have to deal with noise that wakes us up every single morning because they are terrible parents. They also play their music with the bass turned way up early in the morning. It’s ridiculous.

    My mother has complained the the landlord twice, and we have found out the father isn’t even on the lease. I have severe anxiety and also wrote my own letter to the landlord, and she has told us there are “floor problems” in the apartment above ours that will be fixed in March. Somehow, I doubt it will help, but I can keep an open mind, and keep using my ear plugs.


  51. May 05, 2013 at 9:57 am, kerrie said:

    My neighbors been so loud for months the girl can’t weigh more then 90 pounds but she walks like she weighs 500. On top her walking she love to pace her floor wearing high heel boots so the heavy walking is 100% worse. Then they fight all hours of the night everyday and their pot smoking is so thick I have gotten headaches from the smell from it coming through the vents. I have did little complaining to landlords since they moved in and now this last month I finally told the landlord everything and they put it all on me and my husband saying they never fight its us. We sell drugs, etc and landlord actually don’t know who to believe now even though I’ve been saying stuff for months now. Ready to tear off their heads next time they wake my child, or he asks what’s that smell again. I had to start calling the cops all the time to get proof who is doing what and I did and landlord still don’t know who to believe when they never had to call the cops on me. Grrrr so fed up can’t wait lease is up in two months I’m gone they can listen to the next people complain now


  52. June 17, 2013 at 10:00 pm, Precious said:

    I have been living in the same 3 family home for the last 7 years. They have never raised the rent since I moved in, it was quiet, peaceful for 7 years. The first floor was an older lady, the second was the owner/son and me on the third, we all worked and were quietly home at different times of day or night. We all saw each other so sporadically, I only saw the son to give him the rent money.
    Unfortunately he moved to Europe to get married and live there. Sadly a few weeks ago the older lady passed away suddenly.
    First I absolutely hate his sister in the 7 years I have lived there I have seen her less than 4 times, he always handled everything and there was nothing to handle. I am an excellent tenant, rent on time, clog drains, old smoke alarms, painted and polished hardwood floors I did it myself. She does not know what she is doing, she is a liar and hypocrite. I can’t stand it.
    So a month ago this flamboyant, ignorant queen moved in on the second floor. I have no problem with gay/lesbian/black/brown/yellow people. I don’t have issues with who he is I have a problem with his behavior and thinking he moved in a minute ago and can change the rules and just take over. I have always taken my shoes off down stairs and leave them behind the door, he her to tell me to move them because he will have guests coming in and this douche bag has 2 entrances and I have one because I am on the third floor. Not wanting to cause problems and being neighborly I did, so that gave him the balls to think he can do whatever. No ma’am. He has been moving in since May 1st everyday bring in furniture, dropping, dragging things around for hours on end and there are dogs and I was told no pets. When I called her to tell her she said oh they are moving in. One Monday morning I came back from work and there was crap all over the front porch covered in tarps. It’s ok for me or my guests to see that crap. I blew my fuse, I went in screamed and made all kinds of noise. I texted her she ignored me, later I called her she said she hadn’t received the
    texts. Pure lies, when I text her to get the rent money you respond.She is obviously for some reason stuck in his ass, she had the nurse to tell me he owns a store in the mall. I don’t give a flying hoot who he is or what he does we both pay rent and should be treated equal. He is gay he should know more about that. A week later the crap was still on the porch and I realized I was my own on this and would take the law into my hands.
    So what I do is in response to all the noise and bitch ass behavior I play my music so loud that it puts him out of the house or shuts him up. One day from 5pm to 11pm he dragged, dropped and stomped I waited until he was quiet in bed and my home theatre system is on top of his bedroom I blasted the music from 12am until it stopped at 3am. All I did was go into my bedroom shut the door, turn the AC on and went to sleep and I will continue to do it.
    This weekend it came to a head, for someone who has the house owners stuck in his ass he has no idea which mail box or door bell is his but quick to have them tell me to move my shoes instead of asking about his apartment and it’s operations.
    So I guess he ordered food and didn’t care to tell the delivery guy which door bell to ring. They have rang 2 times before and I ignored it but I am so tired of his BS. I went down stairs totally ignored him and told the delivery guy to ring the second door bell next time and proceeded to go back to my apartment. This short dumpy, old, bad skin had the nurve to ask me which door bell is his. I told him to ask the people that rented him the apartment not me, he got aggressive and told me I had a bad attitude and I was a bitch. Oh My God I let him have it, I called him all kinds of names under the son. A screaming match ensued, his dogs barking, his gay “cousin” came out to see. He tried to calm the situation but this flamboyant queen was so immature and he charged at me. I told him to go ahead, I will knock his head off and call the police. He quieted down some after that and the weekend but he is still acting like the ass hole that he is. I will be a bitch all day everyday I have been called worse by better.
    Thank God for my mom I called her she made me feel better and my boyfriend spent the weekend. I never thought that I would have this problem but it’s here and I am going to handle it. As long as I am home I he will never sleep or relax, I will drop, drag things and play loud music any time. To anybody who has a bad neighbor, don’t play nice. Give it right back to them, it’s your home too, you pay rent, enjoy it and fuck the slumlord.

    Thank God for my mom I called her and I felt better and my boyfriend came over to spend the weekend. Helped me forget


  53. November 24, 2013 at 10:53 pm, Kimberly said:

    I’m dealing with the same thing this woman has two kids and also married her 2 year old jumps off the couch I’m beyond pissed off and tired


  54. January 30, 2014 at 7:49 pm, Jon said:

    I have an Asian couple who lives above me. They don’t work, and if they are students it is online because they NEVER LEAVE. They sleep through the day and wake up at 2 in the afternoon, and from then until 3 in the morning they are constantly stomping, fighting, yelling, running garbage disposal excessively, and opening and slamming shut their sliding glass door minimum 20 times… It is ridiculous. They are obnoxious and disrespectful. The managers or police wont do anything. My lease ends in 6 months, so then I am moving to a different apartment and making sure it is upstairs.


  55. February 27, 2014 at 3:53 pm, James J said:

    I have an problem with the tenant up stairs who loves to blast music in the middle of the night. Every since she moved in in October i have had the displeasure of hearing her two children race around the apartment, drop, bang and cause all kinds of noise starting as early as 6 a.m. Recently that noise subsided with the replacement of her loud music. For the last week she starts up her music at about 11pm and carries it on until about 5a.m. I have reported her to management..it persist. last night i called the police..and as soon as they left she turned it back up. My next line of action is to go up there, which i’ve been trying to avoid because i know how angry i can get if disrespected. I’m short on options, patience and sleep. Anybody have a suggestion?


  56. March 30, 2014 at 6:54 pm, Lisa Schimpf said:

    I have a neighbor that blasts their stereo below me and I have a new neighbor above me that has a grandchild that she lets run wild nonstop and coming from someone with two children ages 4 and 5 i am about to lose my mind!!! I have asked both neighbors to one turn down the radio and two to please get your grandchild to stop running and jumping. I am respectful of my neighbors but obviously i got the short end of the stick cuz not only do i have one crappey neighbor i have two. I have called my landlord and made a complaint and she advised me that if this isnt happening after 11pm theres really nothing they are going to be able to do. I NEED HELP!!! Whats my next step from here without involving the police hopefully.


  57. April 13, 2014 at 4:19 pm, Karren said:

    I moved to the woods to get away from all the traffic & noise. I found an awesome job at the local hospital & thought I found the perfect place to live. After spending all my savings relocating, I find out that the guy who lives above me is unemployed & has no intentions of ever going back to work. I was told twice by the landlord prior to me moving in, that the guy had a full-time job and that he was very quiet. WHAT A LIE! Had I been told the truth that he was home full-time, I could of rented elsewhere. I had many options. But now I’m on a (1) yea lease & totally stuck. The landlord said I could buy out but I don’t have thousands of dollars to do that. I tried to make friends with the guy upstairs, hoping that would help, but he’s a total —- who wants to be left alone. He washes his laundry day & night, making the pipes clink constantly & he never sleeps. I have no idea why he walks on the ceiling so much since our places are the same size & tiny. It’s like he paces back & forth because he is bored or something. I feel like he is in charge of the entire place, not just a renter like myself. He walks around outside like he is the president or something. He hogs the parking spaces we share, he never leaves to go do anything so I can have the apartments to myself. It’s really horrible. I feel so depressed & sad here in my new place now. All the excitement of this new adventure is gone due to one very loud, selfish, asshole who lives upstairs from me. One full year of my life is now going to be wasted due to this stupid loser human being.


  58. October 18, 2016 at 5:30 pm, Land'sEnd said:

    I'm going through this nonsense right now. The woman upstairs is stomping around on a daily basis even after "quiet hours" have begun. All this started up maybe a month ago max but I've been here for a total of 5 months & never heard any of this BS before. She came back from a SHORT deployment fatter than she was but that's no excuse, she really seems to literally be stomping around only now.

    She has a very thin hubby whom I've not heard stomping around but I realize I could be totally wrong in WHO but I definitely hear WHAT is going on. The stomper paces back and forth from one end of the place to another and had the nerve to come to my door when I banged on the ceiling until THEY stopped their noise. She made every excuse possible saying her "guests" and their dog was driving them crazy (if YOUR GUESTS' dog is driving YOU crazy, what do you think it's doing to your downstairs neighbors?) but her "guest" has been gone for at least a week and the stomping continues. She never said she would minimize/cease/etc. she just made excuses.

    I'm in the process of buying a house but so many people are so rude but would want exactly what the other party asks for if they were in the other party's shoes. I will see her soon and I will make it a point to tell her to her fat face that I SEE why she is making so much noise as I give her the nastiest stare from head to toe! I see why things escalate to violence. I understand why there are "noise police" in some places. Some folks make it a point to be arses and they have no clue what the other folks are already dealing with yet they pile stress on anyway.


  59. October 29, 2016 at 8:48 am, mike said:

    In lue to all this i am a 2nd floor tenant. I can understand some noise. its apartment living after all. but you think the 1st floor single male is in the right to call my wife and 2 small girls "Cunts" and "Whores" through the floor from them just playing not throwing thing but normal day living. or bang on the ceiling when a bottle cap and yes this really happened 6 times at 6pm. when my kids go to sleep at 8pm. try thinking the other way around. No nose is made on purpose but the screaming he does is.


  60. November 15, 2016 at 8:25 am, Ambro said:

    Same situation here. Family with 2 kids outside. Running, screaming, jumping, dropping heavy things, my windows and doors are rattling.
    Happens day by day and night by night. Either they wake up at 6 AM, or finish the crap at 2 AM, or both.
    In weekends I can't stay in the house because the noise is unbearable.
    Tried knocking at their door, several times, they don't answer. Asked the owner of my apartment to pay them a visit, he went and found an adorable family with 2 lovely kids. I am the bad man now.
    In the last 2 months I haven't got a normal sleep during the night. Either wait until 2 when they decide to sleep or wake up at 6 AM when the party starts again. Sometimes in the same night.
    I have to move out, it was quite a bunch of money spent to live here and I feel 120% frustrated.


  61. November 19, 2016 at 2:06 pm, Lorraine Zheng said:

    Mine is to do with my 8 year old kept awake at night then not being able to wake up for school …I am ill myself they know I have a child but insist on clumping around on a non carpeted floor with high heeled shoes on and laughing and screaming at 11 pm at night they drink and take drugs and the woman opposite is a prostitute madam .the council put us here knowing this and they knew I had a 8 year old girl it's discusting …


  62. December 04, 2016 at 6:53 pm, Isabel yager said:

    I have panic attacks and depression it's so hard for me to sleep and live day to day living with the neighbors upstairs there kids run stomp ride there scooters jumping. I've talk to there parents they don't care all they do is smirk and shut the door on my face it's nightmare. I take 3 medications for my problems. Can anyone please help me.


  63. December 07, 2016 at 5:38 am, Ray A said:

    I have just been diagnosed with uterine cancer. I just moved into a Senior Apartment 62 and over. I get up quite a bit during the night because of the cancer. The person downstairs from me seems very upset that I am up all night. They' turn their alarm on at 3 a.m. and let it go for an hour they start banging their feet and have been banging under my bed several times…I do not know what to do so I don't make things worse. Thank you very much.


  64. December 25, 2016 at 7:52 pm, Frances Thompson said:

    I can relate i believe my new neighbors apt. is headquarters 4 all events in the U S Olympics


  65. January 14, 2017 at 8:39 am, Kimberly said:

    My husband, our 10 month old daughter and I live in an apartment that was built in 2015 and finished early 2016. You would think it would be a better structure or better construction as it is new. NO!

    We can hear every foot step. Originally, it was only a guy who was living there and my husband approached him first day we moved into the apartment (our daughter was 6 months then). He apologized and was compliant for 2 days ! We explained we have a daughter who's sleep training and needed her naps.

    Couple of months later, his fiancé moved in with a puppy ! You can only imagine how the noise increased!

    We had spoken to them, spoke to management, called the cops twice, and confronted them again, and it has not stopped. Their defense, the guy had said to the management and cops "it's apartment living". Given that it is, it doesn't give them the right to drop and drag their stuff across the room all day/night, bang on walls at 12:30am, and vacuum at 11:30pm. Unfortunately, the cops even had informed us that they've heard that the management in our development doesn't do anything.

    So we are stuck with these inconsiderate neighbors for 11 more months! UNFORTUNATELY!


  66. January 16, 2017 at 7:47 pm, fed up said:

    My neighbor upstairs has zero respect for any of the other tennents around here. He plays his death metal as loud as he wants disrupting not only me, but multiple other tennents as well. He gets bored and decides to try and master his skills at doing Ollys on his skateboard…ON MY CEILING!!!! He has a four year old that he lets run around all day. It's like this kid never stops running or stomping. I understand that hes a little fella but as a parent, the guy should tell him not to run, especially in the house. This guy does not care if he is disrupting other people or not and he's friends with the manager, so am I…so he feels like he can do what he wants with no reprecussions. My husband and I are ready to move. I h ave the right to peaceful enjoyment and I'm not getting it by living here and that rule is not enforced…to him anyway.


  67. January 21, 2017 at 8:35 pm, blacprl56 said:

    I have 73 year old vindictive neighbors took every channel necessary well now we are going to trial I have 13 recordings of their vicious stomping, and the judge said they could face of up to $2000 dollars in fines, keep a noise log if you can record the noise then file a complaint of excessive noise, my husband and I been dealing with this for a year well because we have proof won't be going through it no more.


  68. January 27, 2017 at 12:33 am, Laura Knight said:

    OMG I have the same problem.. Th building has wood floors so when they walk, its like 3 yrs old running around. In the last 2 weeks it has gotten bad. The guy upstairs did live alone. But NOW he has a GF(House Mouse) an another male friend that moved in. Well it so thin the ceiling, there floor that I can hear the text going off on the phone. Its bad!
    So I contacted the Landlord an told him whats going on. He went upstairs an talked to the dude. It was quiet for 2 days an then BAM!.. Same sh*t. Well I told my landlord that I will move bc I need quiet. So I will be breaking my lease an moving OUT as soon as I can!


  69. January 29, 2017 at 11:03 am, Condo Owner said:

    There is a fine line. I own a condo above another person. In my condo I have a loft – to make this short: I live solo (no kids/pets/sig other), I use headphone 99% of the time for tv/radio etc.., I use my washer/dryer when the person is at work (85% of the time), I've never had someone over when this person is home, I don't use the shower past 11PM. I use the dishwasher when the person is home but never after 8PM…. NOW – I manage a computer network for a 12MM company – not huge – but big enough – I work weird hours both remote and onsite. The person below is a 9-5 type mf – okay… The person below takes issue when i walk downstairs at 2AM to go to bed – now I'm not stomping down the steps or slamming doors. The reality is – you bought a first floor condo – based on what I outlined above – there really isn't much more I can do and I'm well within my legal rights.


  70. January 30, 2017 at 4:02 pm, Katie hull said:

    My neighbor is selling amphetamine and heroin, as can sometimes go days without sleep,making him unpredictable only tonight he offered me out in a fight!!!! That is the third time,but tonight he threatened to stab me.as he selling drugs people are constantly pressing my buzzer asking for him I'm the only female in this building,I'm dickvof feeling scared and intimidated there noisy ad there up all night.my landlord say go to the police, how can I do that, I'm a grass then and will get even more shit,I am classed as vulnerable,I was in a 10 year relationship where I was battered at least twice a week,strangling me until I would pass out,that's just one example.my neighbor who is threatening me all the time.has been to jail twice for domestic violence, I feel really scared and I don't no what to do any advice please x


  71. February 02, 2017 at 8:12 pm, Alexandria said:

    I've been living in hell for the past month and a half thanks to my upstairs neighbors. Four college guys who have absolutely zero respect for anyone besides themselves. The only thing they do is leave for class for a few hours, maybe 3 to 4 times a week, but other than that, they NEVER leave–never. I get home from work late and all I want to do is sleep, but it's near impossible with these guys and their large dog that literally runs laps around the apartment until 4:00 in the morning sometimes.

    I've confronted them 3 times, the manager twice, and even called the police after one night where it sounded like they were actually playing basketball in the living room. They're extremely rude, stubborn and even told the manager that it "wasn't fair" that I was complaining because, according to them, they're perfect angels who make no noise. Pff, yeah, tell that to my sleeping pattern.

    I can't wait to move out of here. Take my advice and never move into a downstairs apartment.


  72. February 04, 2017 at 9:44 am, Gwo K Chen said:

    With nowadays technology, if I made a recording of the noise level, with stamped time, and if it exceeds certain decibels at certain time, could I make a case out of it? Noise is actually considered a trespassing in real estate laws.


  73. February 07, 2017 at 4:44 pm, Doreen said:

    I have lived in my apt (duplex and I am on the 1st Flr) for over 20 years. Never ever had a problem with noise, I also made sure we did not do anything to disturb whomever was living upstairs. Now, 1 week ago the single guy who was living upstairs and would tip toe up and down the stairs so as not to disturb me (this was per the landlord not me), he has a female with a 7 yr old girl move in and every dam night and day company up and down the stairs, stomping on the stairs, the kids running through the rooms non stop (no carpeting)!! I am going crazy. I politely asked them twice to please try not to run so much because it is loud down here, however they are ignoring me and running twice as much. They will not even answer the door bell if I ring it to try to talk with her. The landlord (who normally kisses my butt as I am an excellent tenant) well now he says, what can I do??? And no, I cannot afford to move.


  74. February 12, 2017 at 1:58 pm, Madison said:

    Tenants living in a building where there is excessive noise do have legal rights. Because the residents causing the noise do not respect anyone else do not approach them; address the issue directly with the management. Make sure you document each occurrence with the management company; let them know you want a letter written to the resident causing the issue. If the management does not address or resolve the issue and the noise continues you can legally declare your domicile as uninhabitable and let the management know you are moving and not paying the next months rent. This is legal and will be upheld in a court of law. The person/s causing the problems should be evicted; however, the management is usually waiting for the 'victim' to just accept the unlivable condition so they can collect rent and not have to try and fill the vacant units. Research your States'rental laws and there is recourse to this.


  75. February 21, 2017 at 6:29 am, Jim said:

    Hmmm….. I was coughing in my home last night and my downstairs neighbor got upset. Then when I got up and went to the bath room , they got upset again. I stopped breathing and bought a levitation machine and that seems to have solved the problem.


    • August 13, 2018 at 1:43 am, Jeremy Batten said:

      Thanks, I needed that!!>


  76. April 24, 2017 at 8:58 pm, Lola Frazier said:

    Yes i so relate to most of tgese comments.My neighbors are so disrespectful and loud banging all night i have a coupke with a daughter and they are constantly waljing heavy and banging all day and night on weekends it until 4am sometimes,crappy part is im pregnant high risk and high blood pressure and migraines,i have given management here at georgetowne home in boston my doc letters even complaints,and tgeres nothing they can do,they did approve me for a reasobable accomodation but say that may take 5 yrs,this is torture,ive tried earplugs white noise machines everything and nothing helps its so atressful living on this 1rst floor.


  77. March 10, 2018 at 1:20 am, Thomas Pettigrew said:

    Earplugs work! Get some super soft foam (my favorite)


  78. April 16, 2018 at 1:57 am, Erin said:

    Why ME!? Omg, my upstairs neighbors are so excessively LOUD. I don't know how to cope. It is now almost 4am and I can't sleep because these people and their two unruly children (I would guess they're about 5 and 3 years old) will NOT shut the F up! I don't know what the hell is wrong with these people. It sounds like a combination of wrestling, dropping things, moving furniture, running, yelling, slamming things all at the same time. This happens every single night…. And during the daytime, too! I so badly want to call the on duty courtesy patrol on them, but they are the type of people who would retaliate, so I'm very apprehensive. I just want to be able to get some decent shut-eye!


    • June 03, 2018 at 11:13 pm, Mary said:

      >Boy I know what you mean cuz our upstairs neighbors doing the same thing but they don't have kids it's 2 young grown adults with 2 dogs that weight of 25-30 pounds I'm sorry u are going through this crap I know that it's not fair that u have to suffer but start keeping a written dialog of every time they make a disturbance the time and date if the landlord/landlady will not do anything then file a police report and make sure u get a copy of it keep it in a folder so that way if u have to go to court u will have that already down in your book


  79. May 01, 2018 at 12:41 pm, Ginger said:

    My downstairs neighbors arrive home about 10:15pm every night and start slamming doors and windows and whatever so much that my floor shakes and my furniture shakes. I have tried white noise, fans, running the D/W, praying, cursing, and am ready to leave a note on their door.

    After reading all these comments and giggling till my eyes teared up, I may think twice. When I complained about her dog howling and barking for the entire day when they leave the husky cooped up, now she hits the dog or yells at it every time he yips. She and her BF are horrible self centered trash.

    It is so good to hear I am not alone!!


  80. June 03, 2018 at 10:55 pm, Mary said:

    I live in Alameda Pointe apartment in Norman Ok,& me,my other room mate has disability we have neighbors that lives upstairs above us that stomped constantly we had asked them politely to stop that we had just moved here that was in June of 2017 now it's June of 2018 we had made several complaint with the landlady , we have called the apartment security officer, we even had called the police we keep a book log written down of Everytime they stopped they do the stomping deliberately now we have to move cuz the landlady will not do anything plus so many rules are being broken here it's not even funny dogs running around with out a leashes big pile of dog poop all over the ground but anyways the upstairs neighbors stomped so hard they cracked the our corner of our ceiling wall my blood pressure has been so high that on may 21,2018 my doctor sent me to the ER it was 188/103 it's from all the stress our upstairs neighbors been doing but yet we have to move cuz the landlady send us a letter saying she will not be renewing our lease so it's like our disability is being violated in all forms


  81. June 26, 2018 at 6:26 pm, Tammy Keller said:

    I just moved into a place I have a lease 4 year the people upstairs when people downstairs are extremely extremely moving furniture banging on the floor neighbors downstairs playing music in the morning all day and all night I've asked them to keep it down and they still don't they are so disrespectful and I do not know how to deal with you I have a lot of health problems I need to use my back skins and I can't because I feel trapped they won't let me through I can't use my front stairs because they're too Steep and too high I'm too many I mean so what can I do I need to move but I don't have any money I can't get my security deposit back and I'm on a very low income I need help please let me know how I can deal with this and what I can do my email and [email protected]


  82. July 29, 2018 at 10:37 am, S. Hammond said:

    Substandard apts. no insulation, neighbor that sleeps little or mostly during the day..Runs fans and air purifiers (very SMALL area( 24 hrs a day). T.v. is on all night too..almost 2 yrs of this..NO willingless to move said fans away from my wall..On site & unexperienced "managers" feel they have done ALL than can do to get "neighbor" to comply in the slightest bit! The studios are 18 feet across! No room to get away from droning, constant hum! I am @ the end of my rope..time to notify the Property owners..


  83. October 20, 2018 at 7:25 am, J.Lau said:

    My upstair neighbors are absolute monsters. 2 kids around the ages of 8~11 years old makes so much noise during the night. They play the Cello, drop things on the floor, bounce basketballs and tennis balls and yelling.
    My 6 year old daughter needs her sleep for school the next day. We talked to the parents about the noise and they promised to keep it down. Obviously these were lies. That night, they deliberately dragged chairs on the floor just because we complained about the noise. It's frustrating because they don't seem to care. By the way, they are renting. Management were useless and even told me not to complain too much.


    • January 24, 2019 at 8:55 pm, Lisa said:

      > hi. Can I know how's e outcome? Did u manage to rectify the issue yet? Same boat here as u. In Singapore.


  84. November 04, 2018 at 9:17 pm, Martha said:

    This is a great site for me to visit when I am feeling frustrated with MY upstairs neighbor… because the issues I am having with her are minor compared to some of what others are dealing with. Helps me put it into perspective…


    • May 02, 2019 at 1:03 pm, Marc said:

      >I agree with you Martha I do the same.Mine don't come close to some of these stories but can relate to other's.


  85. December 20, 2018 at 7:03 am, Mark Murphy said:

    I really appreciate your tip to avoid going into the situation with a bad attitude so you can avoid any confrontation. My wife and I have been thinking of getting a new apartment, and the one apartment that we really like has loud neighbors. If we move into that apartment, I will be sure to talk to the neighbors in a calm manner to see if we can fix the problem!


  86. January 20, 2019 at 6:04 pm, Benjamin H said:

    I own a condo that used to be an apartment building. Its three floors and I live on the middle floor. I have been here for three years and up until the last 6 months all I ever hear coming from the upstairs is them walking around opening and closing doors \ drawers. it constantly sounds like something is being dropped. When I talk them they deny it and say it was the people that I don't share a wall with. The association does not seem to care and I am at my wits end. I know its them because when they leave town its quiet like it used to be before they moved in. And the moment they come back its all you hear again.


  87. January 28, 2019 at 9:29 pm, Lynn said:

    My husband and I moved into a very nice quiet community April 2017,we have been living here nearly 2 years now, when we first moved in 2017 we moved on the second floor and we had neighbors above us and they were not noisy at all; but they moved out August 2017, and the apartment stayed vacant from August 2017 til June 2018, so by June 29, 2018, that’s when the the new neighbor moved in, it was quiet for a couple of months but by September 2018 my husband and I was awakened to someone hammering on something at 4 AM in the morning and it was coming from our neighbors apt above us,so my husband went up and knocked on the door and he ask the young lady could she refrain from hammering or whatever she where doing at 4 o’clock in the morning because that was keeping us awake, she apologized and told my husband it wouldn’t happen again so a couple of months past and we didn’t hear anything but then by November she moved her boyfriend in and his kids comes over every other weekend, and it’s been a nightmare ever since all we hear, when they come over is them, running jumping,stomping, from 9 pm til 1:45 am in the morning, my husband has addressed the issue with her twice more about the noise and all she said to him, it’s the kids, she’s idiot and so is her boyfriend they are young and not responsible at all, they don’t even have the decency to discipline the kids and put them to bed at a decent hour,but instead they choose to let them run jump and stump all across the floor half the night, and even when the kids are not there, the adults walks very hard stumping back-and-forth across the floor very late at night, almost every night keeping us awake, over the last couple of months security has came out three times and we have reported them to the office, and they’ve have sent out notices to the young lady, but they keep getting worse and worse,management won’t do anything about the situation; I Thank God, our lease is up in March we’re already looking for a New place, and we can’t hardly wait to move, we have neighbors from hell living upon us,they are rude and disrespectful and don’t care. My husband and I have tried to be nice and patient with them,but nothing has worked, So it’s time for us to move on, I guarantee the next apt we move to, it will be on the 3rd floor with no neighbors living above us.


  88. January 29, 2019 at 8:56 am, Tdog said:

    We have had it with the tenants BELOW US. If my dogs bark or play or jump off the bed ( and make any noise for no more than 10-15 seconds 1 minute max) during waking hours 6am -to as early as 8:30pm . These tenants start beating on the ceiling!! Uncivilized!!!! This further creates stress in 1 of our dogs who has PTSD and is fearful of banging noises, not to mention this aggravated behavior causes me and my wife Stress!!! Last I checked this is a dog friendly community (these tenants have no dogs and are certainly not friendly)
    We walk on our toes instead the heels of our feet. We don't play music/TV loudly, never have guests over or make any noises to intentionally annoy anyone. We are very vigilant in limiting ANY dog play or barking. If and when they bark it never lasts more than a minute!! but these Tenants very DELIBERATLEY beat on the ceilings upon hearing our dogs!!!!! We are just trying to live here with our sweet babies!!! We do not beat back and once any barking starts we quell it quickly so as not to annoy anyone. Despite our efforts these tenants feel it necessary to alert us that they have heard our dogs during NON quiet hours by beating on the ceiling !!!! Unacceptable!

    This beating on ceilings creates a hostile, negative living environment. (Moreso than any dog barking) It is aggressive (not passive) and I frankly fear even confronting them over it given this unsocial and unbalanced behavior. I DO NOT feel any apology is necessary from us since our dogs are not incessant barkers and in 10 yrs have never been a nuisance to anyone before moving above these tenants. WE do not deliberately allow our dogs to bark and play to annoy our neighbors, but these tenants Deliberately beat on the ceiling at the drop of a hat.

    This isn't the first time and we've been tolerant of their beatings for the last few months without confronting them. Not sure what your office can do but I am asking that they be moved immediately from this building. WE ARE NOT THE ONLY TENNANTS who have a problem with them!! We frequently hear them bang doors/drawers and stomp across their hardwood floors at all hours with no regard for the gentleman living below them OR US for that matter. We have never felt it necessary to beat on walls or let them know we hear them, because we live in an apartment!!! THAT IS APARTMENT LIFE!! IF THEY CANT HANDLE IT, THEY DONT NEED TO BE LIVING HERE! LET ALONE BELOW ANYONE.


    • February 05, 2019 at 5:50 pm, I effing hate my upstairs neighbors said:

      > CONTROL YOUR DOGS. This is a you problem and not the people below you!


    • December 27, 2019 at 2:24 pm, Jawan T said:

      > I personally would never own a dog until I got a house of my own. I think that dogs just add more stress to apartment living. Heck, I won't even become a parent until I am financially stable enough to live in a house. We gave too many people in this world who have no business having children.


  89. March 11, 2019 at 4:53 pm, JustBeANiceHuman said:

    Wow, a lot of people complaining about the sound of little kids running around. Have you ever actually spent time with small children? Do you think parents can just tie them to a chair and call it a day? Try being a parent and having neighbors who have no respect for the fact that kids go to bed early and blast music like the apartment building is a frat house. That’s blatant inconsideration, but kids running around? Get over yourself. Kids play, kids run, kids both well-behaved and otherwise at any age younger than 10 are going to make a decent amount of noise. Especially in an apartment with no yard to release that energy in. It can’t be avoided. You were noisy at that age too, every kid is!


    • March 22, 2019 at 7:41 pm, Jay said:

      > It's all up to parenting, and I've noticed that the "good" parents keep their kids quiet by engaging them in activities that help them to grow up to be responsible, courteous, adults. They also involve them in outside community activities. These parents keep their kids in line when they act out (and I mean by ethical discipline, not violence). If my neighbor has over-the-top noisy kids, remember s/he has chosen to raise children but I haven't, so I feel like I shouldn't have to put up with their obnoxious kids who are out of control. And by the way, children are subject to the same quiet enjoyment laws; they don't even have constitutional rights.


      • March 26, 2019 at 4:28 pm, Jan said:

        > Correction: children are protected under the Constitution.


  90. March 16, 2019 at 10:25 pm, Kyle said:

    Same problem for me. They stay up all night long, every single night, and then sleep until around noon when they get up to go to class. They stomp back and forth every waking moment, everyday, usually until between 1:00AM and 4:00AM. I've asked them to stop, the guy told me to "F" off. I've complained to management multiple times, to no avail. I've called the complex's security office during the night, who tells them to knock it off, which lasts for less than 10 minutes. My favorite is when they start moving furniture at 2:00AM.

    I've given up being nice so when I get up at 6:45AM to go to work, I make as much noise as I can. I'm outside the designated quiet time our lease requires, so now they are going to suffer right along with me. I'll slam doors like they do, bang stuff around, and might even start hitting the ceiling for good measure.


    • August 05, 2020 at 8:52 pm, Miko said:

      > This is a great place for multi-family-living therapy. You get to vent and let it out, and you get to read other people's issues they're dealing with and it eases anxiety. Helps to read what other's are going through and much of it is relatable…to a tee. Can we all just move into one complex and live happily ever after???


  91. April 08, 2019 at 6:36 pm, Jennifer said:

    I have a similar problem. I just moved into my apartment and I love it….but the crazy bitch over me continues to make it hard for me. When I moved in it was fine, then 3 days .ater this psycho start walking really hard and stomping her feet every time I come home from work. I turn on my t.v. BOOM she stomps and start hard walking again. The apartment next to mines flooded and they were doing repairs and the wacko starts slamming her door, stomping and banging on the walls like a mad woman. I don't know what her problem is or why she is tormenting me the way she does. I can't recall dong anything to disturb her whatsoever. I can't move because I have a 12 month lease and penalties if I leave. I had suffered a mild heart attack in February and now with this anxiety coming back on I am scared that I may have another one. I don't know what to do. Since my health is an issue is there a way that I can legally break my lease for my health and well being? I live in Illinois does anyone know of any tenant unions that can help me out to leave without a penalty?


    • May 10, 2019 at 12:59 am, Restlessness said:

      I’m having the exact issues and I’m in Illinois as well. I’ve complained only to hear her revenge with more stomping and loud music. I love place but peacefulness is lacking along with sane a neighbors. Talking is out the question as I did wary on. How do you stop a neighbor on the top floor? The landlord sleeps while the tenant (me) is visiting Drs due to insomnia due to my neighbor being a complete disrespectful inconsiderate and obviously a little or lot insane!!


  92. July 13, 2019 at 2:12 pm, Vicky said:

    I'm surprised to see that there are more people like me suffering from a stomping upstairs neighbour who is an adult – not a child. I've never experienced this kind of tormenting noise before, and I never thought that a guy who doesn't have the size of an elephant can make so much noise just by walking around. It honestly sounds like he is purposefully stomping his feet as if he's trying to dig his heels in the floor.I can even hear some kind of glass in his appartmet shake as he passes it by.I knocked on his door and asked him nicely not to make noise but the stomping got even worse.The next day I knocked again and he did't come to the door.Third day, I left a note at his door kindly asking him to walk softer. He's still stomping around.I. assume that I can't call the police on someone who is walking in his appartment….I;m afraid that this stomping nightmare will never end


    • April 28, 2020 at 8:25 am, josie said:

      > I empathize with you as I am having the same issue, stomping adults & kid from upstairs. we have told them 3 times nicely & last week at midnight they slammed the door so loud I got so mad that I gave 3 loud knocks to send them a message. Following that they have been using their kid to stomp even more to purposely annoy us. Such nasty people! They have spoiled our peace yet they don't feel any guilt. I am desperate and am now turning to feng shui advice. I have been googling and one of it is the use of mirror to deflect their negative energy. Not sure if it works for every situation but when in desperation one might have to try. I am also consulting a feng shui consultant on this. I hope a permanent remedy will come soon. Just sharing.


  93. July 16, 2019 at 10:37 am, Jessie said:

    Not much to add that hasn't been added, but suffice to say I'm experiencing the same problem and reading all these comments helped me feel less crazy, so thanks!


  94. July 17, 2019 at 9:06 pm, John D said:

    Yeah I have a noisy neighbor upstairs who just moved in a few months ago.He would make loud banging noises and argue with the girl he's seeing at daytime and a few times at night.I went upstairs the first time his apartment was making noise.

    This noise didn't stop til 1am and his excuse was that he had his nephew and niece over.I thought right away that that was a cop out and a b.s. excuse.Well…. that didn't stop the loud banging after he agreed to be aware of the noise he's making and arguing.I'm just tired of the crappy neighbors in my area.

    One time I banged on the wall letting him know to stop arguing and making loud banging noises.This asshole thinks just because he does physical training for a living that his muscles would intimidate me.He comes to my door all pissed after he was done arguing with his girl.(he's a black dude probably in his late 20's early 30's btw).I'm a 28 yr old guy taking care off a sick relative.So you can understand I need piece and quiet.

    So as he's knocking on my door angrily I don't answer because I know he will not listen to what my concerns are because his ego will be in the way.He seems like the type of guy who like to dominate the conversation and look down on you when he pretends to be nice a,but what you say goes one ear and out the other.I think the most appropriate way to deal with my situation would be to avoid him and find another place to live.Before I give my 30 days notice I will file a complaint to the manager about him.Before that I will stay at a hotel because I know as soon as he hears about the complaint he will be at my door.I want to avoid all contact with him.


  95. July 17, 2019 at 9:41 pm, ethan said:

    So I have this neighbor who moved in like a few months ago and so far he has a history of walking heavy,arguing with the girl he's seeing,and makes loud banging sounds a lot.So the first week of the new neighbors living upstairs,I hear a lot of loud baning for 10pm-midnight.I couldn't go to sleep til 1am and I had work at 6am.You can imagine my anger.So I calmly knock on this guy's door the next morning and told him to keep down the loud noises and banging.He tells me that he had his niece and nephew over because he was babysitting.I thought that was common sense to be quite at night time especially if you live upstairs and every apartment complex pretty sure isn't well built.Apparently this guy agrees that he'll keep it down,but I get the sense that he was bullshitting me.So about a week out he kisses my ass and gives me food as a piece offering like it's a scapegoat for his behavior.

    Ever since then he has still arguing with the girl he was seeing,and making loud banging noises at night when I'm sleeping.I take care of a sick relative so generally we both sleep early.We also sometimes get woken up by loud banging sounds in odd hours at night.

    About a week or 2 ago he was arguing with his girl in the
    morning and I just got so sick and tired of his attitude that I know if I went to his door and told him my concerns he would not take them seriously.So apparently he heard banging while arguing with his girl and thought it was me.At the time I work at home with my headphones on blast so I don't hear shit also when I'm in the zone.I honestly didn't know what was going on.He's at my door and I didn't answer.He gets angry as this is like at 9am in the morning.

    I think the best option for me is to avoid him at all cost and then when I find my new place and get approved,I'll rent a hotel til I get the necessities to where I can move in.Then submit a complaint to the manager about him.Then I'll wait a week to give my 30 days notice to the manager.I know I'll be getting a knock on my door as soon as he gets the call from the manager about my complaint.he will be pissed beyond belief and want to fight which is ridiculous.Naturally that's in his nature.Sad but true.


  96. December 23, 2019 at 12:09 am, Samantha Cotton said:

    >I live in an upstairs apartment with just my husband and I. We work both 50 hours a week each. I work days and he works nights which means we live and sleep opposite schedules. We have such thin walls and feel so on edge just walking around the apartment. Our apartment manager even warned us towards finishing up signing our contract that this apartment complex had unusually thin walls. I constantly feel bad for just walking around, turning on the shower, or opening and closing the bathroom door. Does any one know any apartment rights for upstairs tenants? I feel like I am sneaking around in my own home. I can hear my downstair neighbor having a normal conversation and am tip towing in my own home.


  97. January 25, 2020 at 12:24 am, Heidi Kobulnicky said:

    I am dealing with tenants from HELL right now. The grandmother who lives above me has 2 grandkids that run back and forth, slamming doors 24/7. I have a husband on Dialysis 3x/week and we do get kept up out of our sleep or woken up out of our sleep. The grandmother says her grandkids aren't doing anything but they are tho. I have been keeping a log since the day they moved in with an attitude that they will do whatever they want.
    The landlord doesnt do anything about this. I did call him numerous times. To no avail did he even evict them as they broke everything stated on their lease.
    I now have a stomach ulcer due to this stressful situation.
    What can I do, where can I turn? I dont want ro rent anywhere else because I am living here with no lease and dont have to pay rent here as my dad's cousin is their landlord but he is a bad landlord if he doesnt remedy this situation. My dad's cousin states he can't get them out as there is no proof.
    What proof does he need?


  98. March 01, 2020 at 1:05 pm, Bob said:

    I have struggled with PTSD for a long time. A new neighbor recently moved in, young man, who plays computer war games day and night. I have never had it so bad. I contacted management and they said they can do nothing. I have lived here for 12 years and didn’t plan on moving. Last night was so bad I went to a local hotel for a break.


  99. March 14, 2020 at 4:55 pm, Cesar Zavala said:

    We live in the first floor in a 2 story apartment complex, I live with my mother and my younger brother. We live together because my mother had a heart transplant last year, I was assaulted 2 1/2 years ago and I was left sorta lightly handicapped and my brother helps us both. The second floor tenants are in the heavy side (not offending anyone) every time the walk to their kitchen which is right under ours, you could heard the roof cracking in our kitchen and living room, well pretty much everywhere else. Most of the time around 1 am till 2 am you could hear them walking all over, from the bedroom to the bathroom to the kitchen and so on and back into their rooms, we are sleeping and the cracking roof wake up us, this is around 1 am almost every day and stops till 5 am till the lady goes to work. We are very quiet people, as we take medication we go to bed by 10 pm just to be wake up in a couple of hours.


  100. April 17, 2020 at 1:24 am, Chris said:

    I have two kids that get woke up late a night because of my downstairs neighbor she is 19 who stomps and follows me everywhere I go in my apartment even though she lives below me.and she also follows me into the bathroom with her is underneath mine what should I do she's starting to freak me out a lot


  101. April 19, 2020 at 9:08 pm, Hugh Bronson said:

    My situation is this… I live under my neighbors in the apartment below them. We live in a two story apartment. I'm a 36 yo. man with PTSD which of course can cause severe anxieties, and with me lives my 67 yo. mother who's a stroke victim and also has some heart issues. Now you might be wondering why would we put ourselves in an apartment while under those mental and physical conditions? Well… unfortunately we had to move out of our previous residence fast due to our previous landlord raising the rent while my mother dealt with a divorce. Places being available to rent asap around here is extremely rare, so we were even lucky to succeed in doing so. Anyway, our neighbor above us has 2 boys, a child and teen, and 2 girls, a tween and teen. During these times (COVID), kids are out of school and school nights don't exist in this city for now. Now I COULD blame them because of the horribly obnoxious thudding and pounding they cause when they mess around and junk but I can't entirely. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that when they tussle, hip and hop up there, it will be heard ten times louder down here, however the single mother without another authority to help her out is trying her best to keep them quiet. I can tell she is. I mean, don't get me wrong, they irratate me often, but as I said, it is not entirely their fault. The managers, aka landlords are more to blame because I have filled out reasonable accommodations to be given an apartment above a car port where my mother and I will not disturb anyone with our clunky footsteps and such, while others won't do the same to us. This would prevent a lot of anxieties and often heavy heart pounding from happening. The situation I am currently living in is damaging our health while putting my neighbors up as victims of a possible risky PTSD trigger. It's not fair to them or us, yet the managers claim that it wouldn't be fair to leave out a larger family that might need the apartment over a carport? Apparently we're nothing more than dog meat, as they're being unfair to both my neighbors and I. Sometimes I wonder if certain managements think first before making a decision. We even filed a complaint to the fedral housing authority about the managers refusing to accomodate us, but still waiting on resuts on that.


  102. April 24, 2020 at 6:45 pm, Jen said:

    Wow, reading all these was so helpful in feeling like I’m not alone or the only unlucky sucker dealing with a loud/inconsiderate neighbor. I live in a townhouse and was shocked at how loud the noise from one neighbor is because it’s not directly above me. They let their three kids run, stomp, jump, scream and carry on to their heart’s content. It’s not that it goes on till all hours but even so, by the time I’ve heard the 2,000th thud in one evening, my nerves are worn thin. I’ve tried talking to them nicely but no improvement. Now I’m trying stomping or pounding when they get especially noisy. My next step will be to start my noise making shortly after theirs stops. Not even so much to be an asshole, but in hopes they’ll see how frustrating it is and try to keep it down a little bit. When I can, I try to ignore it and be thankful that while they’ll be stuck being inconsiderate, rotten, unlikable people forever, I’ll be free of their noise when my lease is up 🙂 Good luck to all you poor unfortunate souls going through it, try to stay sane. PS we refer to them amongst ourselves as the Farquaads (from Shrek) bc the husband is a short POS and because if you take the “r” out of Farquaad you end up with a very accurate description of what they are lol.


  103. April 25, 2020 at 10:17 am, IH said:

    I live in an apartment on the bottom level alone. My upstairs neighbors who are a couple who moved in about a year after me have made a noise complaint to the apartment manager like 5 times on me. Apparently they can hear me play my music or do whatever which is not past 10pm. The 5th time they were bitching about my noise canceling machine. I just find it funny that they complain because i live downstairs and i hear them making noise all the time but i never complain because i know i live in an apartment and its normal to hear noise. They think its ok that i have to hear their noise but if they hear me its a problem? plaeassse! I have spoken to my landlord about them and she says they are probably just noise sensitive and complainers,Get over it people. We live in shitty made apartments. Deal with it or move if you are so unhappy.


    • August 26, 2020 at 7:26 pm, Legally said:

      > I totally agree with you. You live in a apartment not a house accept it.


  104. May 09, 2020 at 5:51 am, Alex said:

    My upstairs neighbor has ptsd and a pothead and walks all night long, and the floor sleeks when he walks.


  105. May 09, 2020 at 8:02 am, Steph said:

    After reading most comments I am a little more understanding of my down stairs neighbor, who is very old. I live in a 3 bedroom apt. 5 people including a 3 year old. In our own mind we don’t make much noise just normal noise that you would make when walking, when getting too excited (3yr old), when opening cabinets/doors/fridge, cooking, accidentally dropping stuff. The old women down stairs leave us no room for error. She will bang on her ceiling the moment we dropped something, the moment the 3 yr old jumps because she got too excited or ran to grab her toy. We have made many changes to our lifestyle because of her complaints. I, as the mother is still working with my 3 year old daughter to not run or jump inside the house. For the most part she’s got it but she’s a really happy kid who gets fckn happy and excited like any child. When she gets happy and excited she hops. We are conditioning to tell her not do that. This hurts my heart so much because of how stressed out I am about the situation. Sometimes I suddenly yell at her for being too excited and making her one hop. I keep reading about how parents aren’t disciplining their child, I understand because I’ve seen that but that is not my case. But I still feel like a failure when it come to my down stairs neighbor. I do my best to inform my child of the situation and how we need to be courteous. At times when she runs or hops she catch herself and say, “I’m sorry mom”. Do we have any rights as an upstairs renter!? This lady is very old, her son comes to visit often. He has actually knocked on our door once, we spoke to him very calmly. The moment he came up stairs I was cooking and my daughter was in her high chair, no one was making loud noises but I guess it’s different down stairs. Of course the manager seems to take her side, she’s down stairs. I just wish they would let us hear what they hear because we are sincerely doing our fckn best. Yesterday we (3 of us) were just COOKING And listening to music. There were no pan bangs or closing cabinets happening. It was around 4:30PM. The lady starts hitting her ceiling. We were all like wtf, why?! I go outside to see if you could hear the music. Our window was open so yes of course, we closed it and again bang bang. My sister goes down stairs to just ask what the noise was to see if we could control it since we are simply cooking. The old lady gets super offensive and starts telling my sister we are doing the noises intentional. And that she is sick of the ball. She kindly tried telling her that we were just cooking and that the 3 year old was taking a nap, there was no ball. The old lady starts calling her a liar and that we do everything intentional to bother her. It was a very uncomfortable/frustrating conversation. There was no way of reasoning. So I ask again, do we have any rights at all as upstairs renters?


    • May 15, 2020 at 10:34 am, Tricia said:

      My upstairs neighbor is like you without the kid and effort to be considerate. That lady sounds miserable. Do you have carpeted floors? The guy above me drags his furniture and keeps his shoes on walking on hardwood. I would ask the landlord to move you if that’s an option. I lived above someone who banged around and played her music loud. Noise comes through the floors just as much. That lady could just as well wake your kid from a nap from banging because you’re cooking….


  106. June 25, 2020 at 12:10 am, steve said:

    > The only thing that worked for me was to deprive them of their necessary sleep during the daylight. You need to mount a loudspeaker playing low bass (50-150 Hz frequency range) onto your ceiling (their floor). If you are not at home during the day, buy a timer AC outlet and set to start playing every hour or so for like 5 minutes. They won't be able to sleep during the day and will sleep like a baby at night. This was the only thing that worked for me despite several attempts to resolve amicably.


    • October 20, 2020 at 12:09 pm, Olga Chavez said:

      > I truly believe it too. Deprived them from their quiet enjoyment! Have your music loud as you can and this is when R&B music works.
      I have children, but I know better that my apartment is not a playground area and they know it too. We have to educate our children, so that when you visit friends and family, they are not behaving like "monkeys" running all over the place.


  107. June 26, 2020 at 8:00 pm, Jay cee said:

    Next morning I went up there and crazy glued their lock.


  108. September 27, 2020 at 8:07 am, Adi said:

    Hello Everyone
    I would like to ask your opinion and advice regarding the situation that I am in. I have been living in my flat for about 5,5 years. About 1 year ago a new neighbor moved in the flat above me. I never had a problem with her being noisy or anything else. but since 3 weeks ago I started to hear her dragging, which sounds like stone, which I think she uses to stop her balcony door from closing when she has a cigarette in her balcony. I also started to hear her dragging her furniture (possibly a chair) in her flat. At around the same time (3 weeks ago) I started hearing her heavy steps when she is walking around her flat.

    I am very worried to talk to neighbors about something like this. I had a very bad experience with another neighbor, who lives 2 floors above me 4 years ago because he played very loud music from around 9 pm-8 am. I can hear the music and feel the vibration/hit from the bass very loudly. Even though I approached him decently by asking him to low down the music, I didn't get an apology, all I got was a mouthful of swearing words. none of my neighbour actually spoke to him when it happened. they all left a note on his door. I thought I was being a decent and neighborly person by talking to him directly. Obviously, it was a bad idea. that experience gave me a little trauma.

    Back to my neighbor who lives right above me, I really don't know what to say. I have been trying to create several conversation scenarios but I am worried if she takes it the wrong way. I spoke to her once, and I got an impression she is a bit cold. Not nasty, just a bit cold.

    if I say: "Would it be too much if I ask you to walk a bit lightly" I am worried if she thinks I call her fat (heavy body) because, in reality, she is a "slightly" overweight person.

    I am worried if she takes it the wrong way, she will even do it intentionally in the future. If that happens, I will be leaving hell.

    I don't know how to be diplomatic, and I am worried if my "just about enough" English will become a weakness for a conversation with a sensitive topic like this.

    Could anyone kindly give me some advice about what to do, what to say, and how to say it? any response will be very much appreciated. Thank you.


  109. October 17, 2020 at 9:43 pm, Harlee Davenport said:

    I have been dealing with a crazy lady underneath my apartment. She has been blaming me and my family of stalking her when we live in the same building. She bangs every night when we are trying to get some sleep. I have tried to compromise with her but it doesn’t work. I tried to talk to the manager of the conplex they don’t do anything. What else can I do?


  110. November 03, 2020 at 11:57 am, Anon said:

    Such a similar experience to so many others. My upstairs neighbors sound like they are purposely daggering their feet into the floor every step they take.

    They are a young couple with a fairly large dog (probably the largest the complex allows). They both do the dagger stomp. The dog doesn't make much noise except when it is running around excited, which is thankfully rare. The previous three tenants never made this much noise and the building is (was?) structurally-sound, so I know it is them. They even have a carpeted unit! I can hear glass reverberating in their apartment when they stomp (cabinet glass or something), so it must sound like an earthquake to them too except they must be used to it. And, of course, no noisy upstairs neighbors are complete without the occasional "furniture scraping" and random who-knows-what "bowling ball dropping" noises. Luckily they do sleep sometimes, and the stomping can be somewhat intermittent. That said, there are definitely days where it will go on nonstop and sometimes well into the night.

    I'm honestly sometimes more disappointed by the inconsideration than the actual noise. It saddens me to think some people have such little awareness of others.

    Even though I make good money, I live in a hella expensive and popular area and am single so cannot afford to buy right now. (I am competing with people who can make insane down payments and many dollars above asking price.)

    This article has some great suggestions on how to start dealing with noisy neighbors. Whereas the article suggests contacting management at last resort, I contacted them to make sure it is appropriate to communicate with my neighbors. They never got back to me, so I figure it is.

    My best advice is to develop a cordial relationship with troublesome neighbors immediately (if possible). I wish I had done this from the get-go instead of let my resentment fester to the point that I feel like I cannot productively communicate directly with them anymore.

    My next advice is to invest in some foam earplugs and watch a YouTube video on how to properly insert them. (I had been fitting them wrong.)

    Also, get a sound machine that emits low-frequency sound. It will aid in masking stomping. Most sound machines come with a multitude of sounds. There are phone apps that can help identify sound frequencies, so you can play each sound against the app to identify the low frequency ones. I find consistent sounds work the best, i.e., those that don't vary much in frequency.

    The earplugs + sound machine is pretty useful for trying to fall asleep. I am not as bothered by the noise during the daytime while working from home during COVID, but it would be uncomfortable and inconvenient to wear earplugs throughout the day if I were someone who is bothered by it.

    Fortunately, I am moving soon to a third floor apartment in the same complex for half a month's rent "penalty". (Heck yeah I'll take that "penalty".) Have never been so excited to pay a fee and to move.

    Wishing everyone the best of luck with their neighbors.


  111. January 13, 2021 at 3:40 am, Hope said:

    My neighbor is handicap.she is is talking loud and walking hard .i can hear everything she does.she even vaccum anywhere from 2am to 4am .i don't want to get the police involved and im scared to talk to her.im trying to push it off but it's just keeps getting worse.


  112. February 07, 2021 at 12:59 am, Pouya said:


    I have had this problem all my life. I even moved to different parts of my country in search of a more peaceful place. I was surprised to see your article and the fact that many people from around the world(much more developed than mine) suffer all the same.

    I want to thank you for useful tips and your time.



  113. March 21, 2021 at 10:18 pm, Toni said:

    I have a child… my son stays with his father and i currently live on my own…i read some peoples comments that said kids should be disciplined blah blah blah….its not that easy kids especially boys only start taking rules seriously at like 8 or 9 years old…or else the parent will be finding themsleves in jail for beating the kid. Trust me i disciplined him. But sometimes its just the way they are wired. What i do agree on though is that families should take the downstairs unit! Im also really frustrated with the people above me…the apartment i rented before this one was also ground floor but no noisy neighbours above me. This is really hard for me as sleep to me currently feels like a myth lol. But my plans are not to stay here for very long only for the remainder of this year as i totally agree with the other ladies statement that we should rent or buy houses if we cant stand the noise lol we cant complain just change the situation for ourselves. In the end most people are always only looking out for themselves…so we should too.


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