Moving in with your significant other can be an exciting and heartwarming experience. Often initiated by a major life change such as a marriage or the birth of a child, cohabitation signifies the beginning of a cycle — much like the planting of seeds does when growing a garden. But with all that being said, “living together” can also make couples feel divided, especially when it comes to arranging their belongings and deciding whose furniture to keep. So what’s there to be done?
Don’t worry, you won’t have to draw a line in the sand like The Skipper and Gilligan did. To avoid this type of division, you’ll want to use decor to influence both of your emotions in a positive way. One way to do this is to find compromise by using romantic decor.
Romantic decor is helpful for keeping romance alive, especially among busy couples. Things like daily life, errands, child rearing, and employment can consume a great deal of a couple’s time. Luckily, decor has been scientifically proven to dramatically affect mood, which is why romantic decor is sure to make even the most stressed out couples stop and smell the roses every once in a while. Here are few ideas to try in your apartment:
According to Leslie Harrington, the Executive Director of The Color Association of the United States, humans have an innate reaction to color. That’s why the walls of prisons and classrooms are often painted with earth tones and light shades of blue rather than inciting colors like red or orange.
Rich earth tones are very romantic, especially in a bedroom setting. Deep browns mixed with burgundy and dark green help influence passionate desires. Put some earth tones into your room using bedding, pillows, draperies, and area rugs.
It’s important to create a relaxing atmosphere in the bedroom. This means limiting the use of electronics in bed. Try replacing the tablet or cell phone on your bedside table with a romantic book you can read out loud to your lover as you drift off to sleep. According to the Sophia Health Institute, “Magnetic fields, electric fields, and dirty electricity from appliances and the wiring in your home can also affect sleep quality. At a minimum, there should be no electrical appliances plugged in the bedroom while you sleep. It is best to turn off the circuit breaker to the bedroom at night, or ideally the whole house. Electronically adjustable bed frames create a large magnetic field and need to be unplugged at night as well.”
Curtains and Window Treatments
To create a luxurious romantic decor, consider iridescent window treatments for your bedroom windows. The softness of the light shining through sheer fabric is pleasing to the eye and, aside from making any room look high-class, is sure to create a more romantic setting in the bedroom. Another idea is to try using stained-glass window decals. These decals adhere to the inside of a window and peel right off without leaving any residue behind.
Of course, romantic decor doesn’t have to be confined to the bedroom. Place various floral arrangements throughout the entire apartment, such as on the kitchen counter and on the dining room table. Choose vases that complement the ambiance of the flowers. If you don’t have any vases or are on a budget, you can always bind the stems together with twine and hang floral arrangements upside down to preserve them for many months. If you suffer from allergies, silk flowers are a great alternative. If allergies aren’t a problem for you, then fresh cut flowers like roses, tulips, and lilies will do the trick.
A poster of a romantic city or country can add considerably to the romantic ambiance of a room. Perhaps it’s a painting of the place where you first met or a photograph of the city where you spent your honeymoon (or even one of where you would like to live in the future). You can commission an artist to make you a custom painting, but a cheaper option would be to just purchase a print online. Get it framed, and hang it up in the spot where you both sit and relax the most. Looking at it together will help to generate conversations and draw you closer together.
Stimulate the Senses
Candles are perhaps one of the most recognizable symbols of romance. Scented candles are not only very easy to obtain, but they also combine aromatherapy and light therapy, thereby stimulating multiple senses at once. In fact, smell is the strongest sense the human body experiences. In the words of Psychology Today:
“How do smells trigger such strong emotions and memories? The answer is likely due to brain anatomy. Incoming smells are first processed by the olfactory bulb, which starts inside the nose and runs along the bottom of the brain. The olfactory bulb has direct connections to two brain areas that are strongly implicated in emotion and memory: the amygdala and hippocampus. Interestingly, visual, auditory (sound), and tactile (touch) information do not pass through these brain areas. This may be why olfaction, more than any other sense, is so successful at triggering emotions and memories.”
Stimulating the senses is one of the easiest and most effective ways to boost a romantic mood. Incense, scented candles, oil burners, potpourri, and scented oil vaporizers are all excellent ways to infuse the air in your apartment with romantic excitement. Using soft plush pillows on couches and chairs can add to both the physical and emotional comfort of a room. Another idea is to use colored string lights to set the mood rather than the harsh light of overhead fluorescent bulbs.
In short, using romantic decor in your apartment is not only appealing to the senses — it can also do wonders for your relationship.