When a Registered Sex Offender Lives Near You

You know sex offenders can be really messed up in the head. In no shape form or fashion is it ok for a 40 year old to touch a 10 year old. It's even more messed up when they do it repeatedly. Those are the men and women who should be kept under constant watch. But what happens when you get a 17 year old and a 13 year old who lies about her age? Should he be locked away with the 40 year old. Well I'm that 17 year old and I don't think so. I'm a registered sex offender in illinois. when I was 17 I got caught at work with a girl who was 13. I did'nt force her, threaten her or even promise her anything. I just a horny teenager who made a stupid choice. Now at 23 I have a two year old daughter that I have to protct, and I have to do it without the help of police. You think protecting your kids or finding somewhere to live is hard try living with this burden. I can't hope to get a fair trial in custody court, police have actually denied me thier assisstance when I needed help, and getting a job is impossible. I'm at a point now where I'm losing things to care about and live for. A crime free man with nothing to lose is a nightmare in any crime so what will you do when you get a bunch a real pedophiles and rapist together who have nothing to lose? They have no money, no family, no friends, and half can't get laid legally if they wanted to. You think getting robbed and raped is bad add being killed cause jail is the place for them anyway and they don't want you as a witness. Keep in mind if this day comes I have to protect my kids with little or no help from police. People you put everyone in that same rso catagory and hate them all equally and thats wrong even the victims of these crimes can be a bit discriminatory. think about it people.

Most apartment complexes usually will evict or move the sex offender. So, I don't believe that for one moment that apartment complexes would even take them. Usually the media finds out about and it makes the complex look bad. I don't feel sorry one bit for these sex offenders. It was their behavior that put them in the situation that they are today. What they did to their victims caused alot more damage and for them there is no parole.

i read this blog and i know many rape victims infact more then half the women iknow are rape victims this site dosent give all the stastics, fact is registered sex offender is a vague word i mean its not the guy who had a relationaship with a 16 year old when he was 23 that were scared of is it? or the guy who groped the chick in the bar when he was drunk and got sexual battery? no its the rapists and other very similiar crimes that bother us and it should! fact is these people did commit a rape crime now rapes not like murder its not a wrong place wrong time i was scared i pulled the trigger its a brutal long crime and its a form of cruel and unsuaul torture in most countrys another statstic this website dosent list is the fact most rapes are commited by repeated offenders now some of the advice that the posters on this site have made like "I am a registered sex" is probly an extremly bad idea first of all my advice is dont put the guy on a pedastool hes not a superioly trained person who can unlock doors with magic

take simple precautions first step 1 put up a no trespassing sign if u can especialy if ur in a rented hosue ect... step 2 consider getting a dog its still the best form of security there is. step 3 educate ur kids and what to do if this man aproaches them also another note registered sex offenders are more scared of you then you are of them cuz if they do one single pervy thing its back to prison right now there on the frying pan and wether or not they go back into the fire IS UP TO YOU not them their word is worth horse shit.

now self defense if you have the trespassing in sign and he comes onto your property in most states you have the right to blow his head off again neighborhood watch is a good idea restraining orders are also a good idea especialy if he starts following around family members or takes pictures of your house another thing ARM YOU FAMILY im not saying go down to a shop and buy gun no dont do that but theres other things you can do knives for one dont need permits but a better idea is a stun gun if he comes near you mace him or stun him i mean wuts he gonna say officer im a registered sex offender and this young woman maced me when i approached her threateningly?

good luck with that one. second of all people hate this asshole almost everyone does on the high list of likable people rapist is probly below terrorist fact is this guys freedom deepends on your patience if he goes on your property and you report him hes up shit creek without a paddle

keep a camera with you to or a audio device for evidence i know alot of this is overboared but this is good danm advice. overall with education precaution and cordination a registered sex offender ceases to become a danger and become a pest and thats a much less scary idea n im sure theres good recovered rapists out there hell im sure one or two them has really turned over a new leaf my god i and you should feel horrible for considering these drastic measures the asnwer to that is no

fact is rape is like i said before not a spure of the moment crime its not over in a second if this person wanted to be trusted and treated like a decent human being well he shoulda tought of that before he went around raping women and children i mean if i was car dealership owner i would not want some one who has commited grand theft auto working my shop if i was a bank manager i wouldnt hire a robber and if i was a father or a husband i would not alow a rapist anywere near my danm family its common sense honestly send these bastards back to prision if not for just stalking or harrasing your family then for wut they did to the first victim theres some shit you dont just wash off your hands in a cell thats one of them im sorry for my bad grammer i typed this in a hurry

these people are scum of the earth now not all of them like i said RSO is a vague word but the rapists and forced sodomy and the child molestors are sick pricks and i dont care how much therapy the state put into it i will not base my familys safety on a rapists ethics and whyms basicly if they come near your family dont freak out just calmly say get away from me or i will call the police and report you for harrasment n you know wut if he dosent do it that is harrasment n back to jail he goes.

its really that easy bottom line dont be scared dont be intimidiated fear is how most of the sick pricks commited the crime in the first place.

I am also the victim of molestation and I say ditto to the entry from "Being a victim of sex" To the sex offender that posted that ridiculous post you need to be locked up. To a victim it sounds like a ploy to misinform people so they'll let their guard down so you can molest more children.

Some people are likely to fall for your B.S. and I guarantee anyone that thought your post was reasonable was never a victim of a sex offender.

The only time any community or program should make a sex offender feel accepted and welcome socially is when that community or program has discovered a way to lynch your ass without getting caught! You do not deserve to walk amongst society.

If you claim you're rehabilitated perhaps you are, yay for you but you should be locked up just the same.

The only thing "rehabilitated" in regards to sex offenders means to me is that you are a monster that "possibly" may not attack again, however I don't think you deserve a chance nor should society give you the opportunity to prove it.
Not at the risk of a child's innocence.

I have worked with paroled Registered S.O. via a mandatory program. What type of S. O. are you dealing with? A Rapist? A child Molester? or a Pedophile?

1. Did the rapist just rape his girlfriend or did he have other victims?

Someone convicted of raping his girlfriend could be the result of a parents anger. Maybe the girl was willing but she was underage. If this was the case, he probably won't do that again.

2. Is he a Child Molester? Sure, he may have gotten caught because he molested a child in his family, but there are probably many more victims that haven't come forward.

Child Molesters can still have physical & sexual relationships with adults. They see the victim as a "thing"...not a human being. That is why they can do what they do, over and over again.

3. Is he a Pedophile? Pedophiles can not have relations with adults. They can not stop being sexually attracted to children.

Let me put it to you this way.

If a law were passed tomorrow stating that you could only be attracted to the same sex, would that be enough to make you truly attracted to the same sex? NO!

It is the same with Pedophiles.

There is no cure, there are no laws to stop them.

Bottom line is this, are you willing to gamble with your child's life? With their innocence?

I am not.

I'd just like to add a comment about the stigma around RSOs as well -- it really is ridiculous. You can be slapped with that life-ruining title for almost anything these days -- a friend of mine just went to jail for 3-4 years and was forced to be a RSO just because he had some photos sent to him on a corrupt-for-3-years hard drive. A bit extreme, I might say, especially seeing as he didn't DO anything.

Anyway, the comment above is perfect. Exercise some form of caution, but also realize these RSOs are people too who may just have gotten screwed by the overreacting government and general populace.

being a victim of a sex offender i think you are crazy. the hell i endured as a child has haunted my entire life. i really don't want to live anywhere near a sex offender or have any dealing with one. have a meeting and invite you you said? why not just give you our children so as to make it easier for you. rehabilitation my ass. my offender is a repeat offender and until his death my life was lived in fear. get to know an SO or RSO how dare you even consider thinking that would be smart as not to shut them out and to make the offender comfortable. since the government said no discrimination as to living the environment and communities why not have areas for the so called rehabilitated offender were they can live among each other and not the decent people who follow the rule and laws that govern us.as a victim i feel discriminated against. who's looking out for my interest were my safety and that of the other potential victims are concerned. what about our rights as decent human beings. for the record please feed that bs to someone else "he's not looking for friends at this time" you are right he's looking for his next victim and any body who believes this load of crap will regret it when they feel the rage after one of them or their children have been assaulted. you think about that! to who ever wrote those stats you are wrong because every 3.5 seconds someone somewhere is being assaulted sexualy and the stats don't tell you about the unreported assaults i know the barely want to tell us about the reported assaults. so as i rap this up may god have mercy on anyone who thinks assaulting anyone sexually is normal and may god bless all the victims who live with this scar on their lives and also those who did not survive their attackers.

lol wut u do?

I am a registered sex offender. I found your article fascinating because you've pretty much hit all the valid points, especially with regard to recidivism, reasons that sex offenders commit their offenses, and who the registered sex offenders may be. I've decided to add a novel idea to the mix.

In most cases, when people think of registered sex offender, they think of someone that is Charles Manson or John Wayne Gayce in personality, when in reality most RSO's are usually more timid and less likely to be involved with society. In fact, the bigger problem with sex offenders are not that they are prone to recidivism, but that shutting them out completely actually adds to that chance.

So the answer is obvious: Invite the registered sex offender to a neighborhood watch meeting. Note that I didn't say he should join that night, nor did I say he should be considered someone you can trust your kids, or even with your adult friends. In fact, we aren't asking that you do this out of deference to him.

Instead, this is an opportunity to actually defuse the fear that many people have. That fear generally works AGAINST families, not help them cope with potential dangers. And of course, certainly I don't advocate this for ALL RSO's.

There are some points about this that should be discussed.

1. Consider the fact that some people may have shut out any rational thought when it comes to RSO's, and may not want to attend the watch meeting if the RSO shows up. This is due to an inborn bias that cannot readily be overcome, and frankly is not something that I can help advise. However, note that it is BECAUSE of this bias that such registries occur in the first place. (Imagine the man to be a burglar, a carjacker, or a child ABUSER, not sex offender. Realistically compare offenses in that manner).

2. While not necessary, it would be wise to have a community law enforcement rep at the meeting, not so much for actual safety, but peace of mind by the membership.

3. When you invite the RSO, let him say a few words to the general meeting. Don't interrogate him on his crime, as he has already been tried, sentenced, and punished for it; ostensibly, he's either being rehabilitated (on parole, therefore still under jurisdiction of the court), or post correctional with just a requirement to register. To interrogate him would not be reassuring to the questioner, and frankly is not productive to your goal, which is community safety.

4. Obviously, he's not looking for friends at this time. But if he passes muster at the first meeting, invite him on a regular basis. Over time, his demeanor and personality will overcome your natural desire to judge him as an offender. In fact, he may be at a point where you can consider him to potentially join the group as a participating member. Of course, such membership should only be offered with certain limitations. You can refer to your law enforcement liaison representative for guidelines.

5. Finally, I'm not saying that anyone should ever invite the offender into their life as one would any other non-RSO neighbor. But, with everything else in life, a person's intuition should always be highly regarded, and as time progresses, you will most probably see that the RSO is not really the devil that society has him to be...

...But there are exceptions. Those exceptions are very rare, and frankly are more likely to evolve from non-RSO's than from RSO's. And certainly, these people aren't going to let a listing on the Internet Registry, or exclusion from society, affect their own offending personalities. THOSE people represent the