Top 5 Roommate Disputes

March 12th, 2007 by

Living with another person is never easy, but with rents increasing in many cities, it may be a necessity. Whether your roommate is an old friend or a stranger you met off of Craigslist, it can be hard to avoid conflict. Anticipating problems before they erupt can help keep your home life harmonious. Here are some of the top roommate disputes and how to handle them.

1. Rent & Utilities: Paying rent and utilities bills in full and on time is a must. If your name is on the lease, you can be responsible for the rent if your roommate won’t or can’t pay it. If your roommate is having trouble paying the rent on time, make sure that s/he understands the severity of the situation. Show him/her a copy of your lease, which is essentially a contract. The landlord can take you and your roommate to court if the rent goes unpaid.

If you don’t know your roommate well or have doubts about his/her ability to pay the shared bills, consider drawing up a roommate agreement, which can outline rent and other payment responsibilities, a system of chores, how much notice to give before moving out and any other issues you want to lay out up front. Verbal agreements are easily forgotten. This written document that you and your roommates sign will remind you to what you have all agreed to.

For tips on drawing up a roommate agreement, visit eHow’s article.

2. Dirty Dishes: The sink takes up relatively little space in an apartment, but it can be a source of real trouble. There are many different approaches to doing the dishes. Some people refuse to let them pile up, washing each dish as they use it. Others prefer to tackle an entire sinkfull at a time. The best way to avoid roommate fights over the dishes is to discuss expectations early on. You’ll be less likely to leave a plate in the sink for a day if you know how much it drives your roommate crazy.

What should you do if your roommate is the messy one? First, assess the situation. Is the problem the occasional glass or plate left in the sink during the workday, or does your roommate regularly leave piles of food-encrusted dishes for days at a time? Does s/he have a hectic work schedule that limits when s/he can wash dishes? If your roommate is making a real effort to keep the sink clean and is guilty of only minor transgressions, give him/her a break. You may find that when you have final exams or friends come to stay for a weekend, you’ll be guilty of the same thing. On the other hand, if your roommate plays video games while his/her dirty dishes overflow on to the countertops, it’s best to say something. S/he may have forgotten how much neglected dishes drive you crazy.

3. Social Issues: Other roommate issues can arise over different expectations about guests, significant others, and parties. Decide with your new roommates about what is acceptable and what is not. Can overnight guests stay on the couch for a few nights or will they be expected to get a hotel? Will your boyfriend or girlfriend’s frequent visits make your roommate uncomfortable? What is unacceptable behavior for a guest at a party? If you feel that your roommate has already crossed your line, be tactful when you explain your problem. Issues regarding friends and family can be especially sensitive. If the loud party your roommate threw last weekend upset you, identify exactly what bothered you. Was it the number of people? The drinking? The noise? Perhaps the party wouldn’t have been a problem if your roommate had consulted you first. Let your roommate know some things s/he can do next time around to make you more comfortable.

4. Property Disputes: Nothing can make you feel more uncomfortable in your apartment than knowing your roommate is using your things without your permission. Again, issues with personal property should be established early on to prevent disputes. It’s common for roommates to share dishes, utensils and kitchen appliances. While it’s your right to keep your kitchen belongings to yourself, you’ll have to make yourself clear. Your roommates probably will assume that they can use your blender and your steak knives. On the other hand, toiletries, clothing and other items you might keep in your bedroom are generally off limits. If you think your roommate has been exploring your closet or shoe rack, make your expectations clear. If the problem continues and you don’t want to live with a lock on your door, consider getting a new roommate.

5. Early to bed, early to rise? Different work and school schedules can mean that you and your roommate wake up and turn in at totally different times. This may be a good thing if it helps you avoid needing the shower at the same time. However, problems can arise if you or your roommates make too much noise while the other is sleeping. If there is a conflict over noise, the roommate who needs his/her sleep should generally win out. It’s reasonable to expect quiet in the late-night or early morning hours. The same expectation does not apply to weekend afternoons or Tuesdays at 7 pm. If your roommate regularly demands silence at these unusual times, you may not be the best fit for each other.

In general, most roommate fights can be avoided with a little foresight and an honest discussion. Nevertheless, a roommate relationship is not a marriage. If the arrangement is just not working, you can part ways. There is probably someone out there who will better complement your schedule, quirks and expectations. What are some problems that you have encountered with roommates and how did you solve them? Add comments below!

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66 Responses to “Top 5 Roommate Disputes”

  1. Guest Says:

    Been there, did that for too many years. Only reason I did was the economics of it were very advantageous. That’s no longer true as the cost of a room in a decent place has gone way up and the cost of apts way down, at least in my neck of the woods. Been blissfully in my own apt for 2 years now, won’t do the roommate thing ever again.

  2. Guest Says:

    I seriously have a communication problem. For three years living at my own apartment, I sublet and allowed three friends to live with me. We agreed on the price and rules. But as months pass, there were many problems. They started to break rules and change them. To them, there was no problem. But to me, I didn’t enjoy them staying up late, inviting friends over, or not cleaning after themselves. I hinted them at first. Then I told them. They nodded and did nothing about it. I felt powerless.

    Since they were my friends, I found it difficult to get these topics across to them. But at the same time, I wanted a resolution. The worst thing was that the three roommates wanted things run differently. Their argument was that it is 3 against 1. But since the agreement was never written, it was very squishe-squashy.

    I put up with that and tried to adapt. Pretty soon, I was doing everything (cleaning, paying the bills, etc). It was really out of control because I got stressed and I was just going to erupt! Should I move out? I searched for apartments, but it was just so difficult, not to mention the prices in Long Beach. So last month, I told them… “you can’t stay here any more.”

    My roommate violently pinned me to the floor, “What are you nuts?” I was already doing them a great favor in letting them stay at my apartment illegally, splitting up the fair share. But they were unappreciative… and then worst of all, they looked at me as the bad guy. I was stresed again and I had to talk to my manager and see my options.

    Furiously, the manager was mad at me for subletting. “There is no subletting!” he told me. “I’ve already told you at the beginning. But it is your problem, you have to get them out.”

    In the end, I lost my so-called friends as they looked at me as, “the enemy.” They just moved out today. I am at my apartment now struggling financially for next month’s rent. The manager is watching me, perhaps he’s going to raise the rent. Is there such thing as happily ever after?

  3. Guest Says:

    Had this issue too. Me and a friend moved in together seventeen years ago and we did pretty well for another month. Then he let thsi guy (an eighteen year old from Grosse Pointe) live with us. No sooner than he moved in that my socks started turning up missing, groceries started getting eaten up (we all paid for our own stuff and I wasn’t making a ton of money). I came home tired and ornery after a long day at work and smelled cheap perfume in my bed. I knew that my legitimate roomate was at work, and the other guy didn’t have a job (and didn’t help with the rent, chores or anything else). It didn’t help that there was a used condom under the bed. I confronted the guy about it and ended up throwing him out of the the apartment. As a result of his living there, we all ended up getting evicted. Rommates need to be screened. This guy had a warrant for his arrest for failure to appear in court over a skateboard violation. It was a clear sign that this guy at laeast was going to have a poor attitude toward other people.

  4. Guest Says:

    It sounds like in a way good ridence. I would do everything to avoid having roomates for that reason. You have to be nice and fair, but don’t let the friends walk all over you. Having to live with slobs, people who don’t pay their bills, and having things disappear isn’t worth it.

    Isn’t there any laws about raising rent when you have already signed a lease? I think it would be wise to protect the tenants.

  5. Guest Says:

    I’ve had a couple roommates and I get a long great with the guy I live with now. We’re both students and really quiet. but the girl I lived with before was kinda crazy and put her (3!) dogs before me and she would get mad if I didnt notice they had been out of food for a couple hours, or forgot to let them out. After she moved out, I found out she hadnt been paying the cable for a few months, even though I had been giving her a bunch of money for it. Its usually pretty hit or miss with roommies :]

  6. Guest Says:

    what happened when i got a roommate
    a)they car totaled.
    b)the where past due on rent,cable electricty
    c)they moved out with days notice(i apparently had changed?)
    d)they when to leasing offices says they’ll pay 1/3 the rent of the last month. i agree. to get them signed off lease i need to sign some one else on. do that. they refuse to show back up. i paid late charges.

    my new rules…
    *never trust anyone.
    *utilities in their name.
    *don’t room with anyone without means of
    transportations unless you have goals of
    of being a hired driver without the pay
    or help with gas money.
    *set up rules about food and stuff like detergent
    and toliet paper.
    *don’t assume everyone has common sense
    *set up rules about people coming over constanly
    when you are sleeping.

    GOOD LUCK PEOPLE ARE MORE RIDICULOUS THAN I THOUGHT

  7. Guest Says:

    And I thought I was the only one.

    Moved in with a friend, we were both from different cities.

    Both living off of savings while finding a job, end up having to borrow some cash from my parents for a month.

    we’re both employed, but yet i’m having a hard time getting everything paid on time (rent, bills, etc).

    roomates truck breaks down. as a friend I let him use my truck (don’t ever do this, EVER!). Kept getting it back with an empty tank, and he would constantly destroy my oil. Never did anything to help out my truck, even tho he used it more than I did.

    we decided to rent out the 3rd bedroom to a local college student needing help.

    He some how decides he can pay rent, but never bills.
    Loves smoking pot (doesn’t bother me that much really, just bills + rent before weed).

    Still has hardly paid bills, never does his dishes. Never helps clean house, but then again, he stays in his room 24/7.

    My friend moved out due to loosing his job, and being severly home sick. Leaving me screwed on the lease, and the bills that i’m severly behind. Thank goodness I got a new job that will pay me very well, but still not enough to live in this place for another winter.

    Now i’m looking for another place, but i’m not sure if I want to continue living with a roomate, as I have other friends that make just as much, if not more than I do and are mild mannered and I know them way better than the 2 roomates I’ve had this year, or stick it out in a 1 bedroom apartment / studio till next year and see what I can’t do with a friend moving to my town next year.

    sigh.

    Things I suggest to new comers;

    A. Don’t move in with your best friend, cause living with them 1 on 1 changes things, and you begin to see them for who they truely are, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.

    B. Don’t be passive agressive when you’re having issues. My problem is, my roomate works night shift, and during the day he games so much, that I have a hard time talking to him. He eats my food, drinks my beer, and consumes everything when i’m out of town as if I wont notice it missing.

    C. Keep up to date with bills. If you’re on the lease by yourself, and you ahve somebody new moving in, re-do the lease have there name put on it, or have some sort of written agreement of what they’re paying. That way if they move out unexpectingly, or before the lease is up, they’re bound to an agreement and may not be so quick to make rash decisions.

    D. Write everything out, show them the bills and make sure everybody understands what they’re paying. This has been an issue with me I guess. My word for what they owe was never good enough, I had to make sure they saw the bill.

  8. Guest Says:

    I rather agree with the comment about never moving in with your best friend. College dorms are one thing – roommates have very little actual responsibility in that context. However, moving into an apartment is quite another, and I happened to have someone who seemed to be under the impression I was the renter and she a paying guest, although we had co-leased the apartment. Part of it may be my fault, for I had known her for quite a long time, and I don’t keep a good track of “who spent what”. In a friendship, (so I believed) spending will equalize at some point, and there’s no reason to make a deal about it.

    However, as the first months of our lease wore on, I found that I was doing most of the paying for decorating, furniture shopping, and general setting up. Her ingenious argument was that “because she was never around” I ought to be the one to pay for the furniture. When I balked, she would accuse me of being cheap and unhelpful. Well, I did balk, and things went downhill. She refused to put furniture into the living room, and refused to let me do so.

    Because it was a common space, she would veto everything I wanted to put into it, but never use any of the space herself. This girl was capable of depriving herself of comfort or happiness for the mere fact of being able to cause me some discomfort. She would play loud music in the corridors when I was working, insult my friends, and make scenes in front of them. Whenever I would get in late from a night of working (I keep odd hours) she would lay in wait for me with some minor grievance or other. She took great objection to my boyfriend, and blamed him for my “changing towards her.” Nothing of the sort – I had been seeing him even when I lived with her in the dorms, and she seemed perfectly alright with it then.

    Worst of all, the room she occupied had control of the airconditioner/heater, and she would keep the room at a hideously warm temperature (or horribly cold when she wasn’t in) and forbid me from entering it to modify the temperature. I had no iea where all this was coming from – I tried to talk to her, but she would either counter with an unrelated grievance of her own, or simply refer vaguely to “how I had changed.”

    Be warned – living as apartment roommates might bring out things in your friend that you never thought existed. Even if it seems like the greatest idea in the world – don’t do it. Little hidden jealousies, living quirks you never thought he/she had, and other such things can be fanned into a flame by the experience of living together. It is almost better to pick a roommate off Craigslist, or room with someone you know only distantly. You can start afresh, set new rules, and if things do go wrong, you have less invested emotionally in the relationship.

    Cheerio, and good luck on hunting for/moving into apartments!

  9. Guest Says:

    Question: Friends, I am a tenant who has lived peacefully at the same apt. 15 years and a good tenant record with timely rent payments always. I have a former psycho roommate who registered a complaint of overcharge with Housing Court in my city. The complaint is baseless and most likely rooted in the former roommate wanting to get back at me for my officially having him evicted due to his erratic behavior/inconsistent payments. Does my name being involved in housing court proceedings affect my ability to get a future rental or get me blacklisted in some way. Could you advise at papadonttakenomess@hotmail.com? Thank you.

  10. Guest Says:

    My school has rules about overnight visiters, however my roommates never get the visitation forms signed by the other roommates. Mainly cause ill never sign them, they like to party at night and sleep from 5am to noon, I have morning class at 7am. Ive asked them to keep quiet, ive explained to them i sleep lightly. There response is to sleep in my car. I ask my roommates guest to leave and they come back a hour later stomping up the stairs and slamming the door. This is the third time this has happened and ive complained to the Resident Life Cordinater incharge of my complex three times now. I dont know what to due short of breaking the lease and moving out…

  11. Anonymous Says:

    My girlfriend lives on my boss’s property. I just got fired from my job. My ex boss now says that he doesnt want me to come on to the property. The property is owned by my boss’s dad, but the trailor my girlfriend lives in is owned by my boss. Can he stop me from coming over?
    (the property has a gate that I can open and a road goes to a machine shop and one road goes to the trailor)

  12. Guest Says:

    Hi! Im reading alot of bad stories of moving in with your best friends.. Me and My best friend (Im a girl, He’s a gay guy) are planning to rent a townhouse once we graduate high school together in 1 year. Anyone have ne ideas/advice for me? Thanks!

  13. Guest Says:

    I think I can probably top everybody’s worst roommate stories. I lived on my own for 4 years after having my first roommate. I wont even go into the story about my first roomie, because it was just so bad and so many things went wrong. But I will briefly tell you about my current roommate. I had no idea somebody could have so few morals! I had been friends with her in highschool but hadn’t really hung out with her in a couple years. So we weren’t best friends, but we knew eachother pretty well.
    She was pretty normal to begin with but then all of a sudden things just started going way downhill about 2 months ago. She started drinking so heavily that she wasn’t able to pry herself off the couch (that I bought) for days and would even pee on the couch. Then on weekends she has her 2 year old daughter, so since she was in no shape to watch her, I would usually have to make sure I was home so I could keep an eye on her. Then one Friday when I came home she asked me to watch her daughter for an hour while she goes and see’s her friends. I hesitently aggreed and didn’t hear from her or see her for 4 days!! So I had her 2 year old daughter for 4 days and had no idea where her mom was. Then the next weekend (last weekend) she did the SAME THING TO ME! But this time when she left me with her daughter she also stole about $400 worth of my makeup and hair products. So I locked her out of the house (she doesn’t have a key because she’s such a drunk she lost it 4 different times) and she ended up breaking window to get in. It makes me so sad to see her do this to her daughter! She is the cutest sweetest thing in the world and she just doesn’t understand why mommy doesn’t want to see her. She is actually calling her mom “Danielle” now (which is her name) and she is calling me “Mommy”. It just breaks my heart!
    I finally kicked her out a couple days ago but am now wondering how she is gonna get off the lease and if I will ever be paid for all the past due utility bills she still hasn’t paid me for.
    Oh and on top of all of that, she would bring random strangers home with her, like people she just met at the gas station (while I was watching her daughter) and they would drink the nights away and spill beer all over the place and leave it for me to clen up in the morning. This girl NEVER lifted a finger in the house! I could seriously go on and on about all the f@cked up things she has done to me, but its just gonna make me mad!Beware of roommates people! I’ve only had 2 ever and both times it has seriously been a nightmare!!!

  14. Guest Says:

    So, here is my situation. I’m planning on moving in with two of my best friends. One of them is a girl that likes to smoke pot regularly. Which i don’t , i don’t really care that she smokes but I don’t want it in my apartment or house. And even though she says she wants to stop anyways and that she would never do that i am really worreid that when her pot smoking friends come over she won’t no how to say no to them. But, i don’t want her to get all pissed off at me. I just think it could turn into a sticky situation and ruin our friendship if I just overlook the posibility that she may not hold true to her world. Any feedback?

  15. Guest Says:

    Don’t do it. I’m living with my best friend and it has ruined our friendship. It’s gone forever because of her.

  16. Guest Says:

    Why didn’t you call CPS? Now that she’s out of the apartment – where is she? What is she doing wwith her daughter now that you aren’t around? That is a terrifying question based on your post. Don’t abandon the child because of her mother.

  17. Guest Says:

    I moved in last year with my best friend and his close friend from when he was a kid [I'm a girl]. We lived together for a year and yeah, there were your standard disputes and arguments. Of course there will be. It was our first time having our own place, living with one another, and my first time living with 2 guys not from my family. But we all got along great and we all had so much fun together. My best friend and I had most of the arguments because we’re so much like brother and sister, we knew how to push each other’s buttons. My other roommate and I got along fantastically and had only one serious fight, but that was fixed within a day. I learned so much and the best part was that they were willing to do anything, all the time, because the 3 of us loved to hang out. We teased one another a lot and joked around, watching the craziest of shows and having friends down from upstate for parties [where they're from].

    My one roommate moved back upstate and now my best friend had his girlfriend move in back in June. She’s been living off and on with us since December, but it was official a couple months ago. That situation is pretty hairy, just because it’s always uncomfortable for me in that apartment now because they’re doing the PDA thing or just being together which makes me feel great. I’m always the 3rd wheel and feeling out of place. We’ve talked about it a few times but things haven’t changed, and they probably will continue to stay the same. My best friend and I still get along great but it’s all sketchy since he’s gotta worry about me and her.

    My advice: DON’T EVER MOVE IN WITH A COUPLE.

    I could never live with all females, but I’d live with 2 guys again in a heartbeat.

    And living with my best friend has only made me realize how much of a great person he is. He’s been there for me when I really needed him and now we work together as graphic designers, so we still have a pretty tight friendship. It really depends on the person though, because when you live with a very close friend, that’s when you realize how good or bad of a person they really are. I guess I got lucky and found someone fantastic.

  18. Guest Says:

    i would def kick her out. does she drink in front of her kid? if she is really that bad, she could loose custody of her kid! people like that should not have kids if they cant take care of themselves.

  19. Guest Says:

    Wow, seems like there is a concensus here: Don’t live with your best friend”. Sadly I have done that and now need some advice. Last night we had a blow out fight over the fact that she didn’t take the garbage out. I had purposely not taken it out since I had for the last two weeks straight and I guess the plan backfired. Now she is accusing me of not knowing about all the cleaning she does since I am not around as much, eating food that I was under the impression we were sharing, etc etc. I didn’t think that we would have to be that way( aka you take out trash these days, I will clean this these days etc.) since we were friends and could “talk things out”.

    After last night and dealing with her attack and very immature resolve of the issue – walking faster to get ahead of me – I am wondering: How do I work this out with her so we stay friends but can live together smoothly. There are a few more dynamics: she dislikes my boyfriend ( who I barely bring around to accompodate that), she didn’t want to move to the city we live in but did since she had no other plans and she is a complete princess ( one of the things I liked about her BEFORE we moved in together). HELP!!!! I need advice or this friendship is out the window!

  20. Guest Says:

    AMEN!!! Those rules should be on every lease there is. I see you are went through what I am now beginning to go through. I guess I will stock up on excedrin…oooh the headaches

  21. Guest Says:

    what happened?? I feel like this is a road I will shortly go down seeing as I just moved in with my best friend and things don’t seem to be as friendly as it used to be. I thought it would be all peaches: parties with mutual friends, both heading in the same direction career wise, both level headed….wrong wrong and horribly wrong

  22. Guest Says:

    I lived with my best friend as well and although we never had a huge fight, we definitely did get on one anothers nerves. What sucks is that your friend sounds like a little brat which worsens your situation. My advice is to calmly sit down with her and outline some rules that both of you can agree upon. It seems to me that it doesn’t matter if it’s your best friend or a complete stranger, when living together things need to be outlined explicitly because alot of disputes happen because of assumptions. I hope she can grow up though and compromise with you!

  23. Guest Says:

    I have a roommate who keeps turning on the air conditioner down to 60 degrees. That is ridiculously cold. I also do not want to pay for the air conditioning.

  24. Guest Says:

    I moved in with my two best friends and needless to say we’re no longer friends. After finishing college we decided we would move to the same city and live in one of my friends fathers rent properties. Trouble start brewing before I even moved, a week before I was due to move in I get a text message saying rent increased by $165 more, each. I was upset but went anyway since I hadnt made any other plans. When I get there my room is like the house dungeon compared to theirs. They both had huge rooms, private bathrooms, and closets the size of a small office. My closet was under the stairs, which meant I couldnt stand up straight inside of it. They had jacuzzi tubs, my shower barely worked, no cable in my room, and no blinds. I said something about paying less and they said I should be grateful to live there. One roommate took pride in bringing home male strippers.
    Then I find out that all my information including the lease had been lost and they wanted me to sign new paperwork. I didnt do it & Im glad because he very next day I received a great job offer in my hometown, so I packed and moved the same day. They were pissed, and I even paid half of the next months rent cause they were having a hard time. NOT ENOUGH!!! They have called me and sent nasty emails for a month now. Im changing my phone number and email.
    NEVER MOVE IN WITH YOUR FRIENDS!!!!!

  25. Guest Says:

    Hopefully someone can please help me out on this one! My roomie situation is this: I have lived with my bf and 2 other male roomies for almost 2 yrs.My bf and i own the house. All was well until my one roomie moved out, and in moved an old frat brother of my bf, who i did not know until he moved in. I am now suffering from what I refer to as the ‘Dupree-factor.’ My other roommate works, is social on the weekends, but is quiet and lives his own life. Dupree, on the other hand has attached himself to my bf, and wants to hang out constantly, and live the college lifestyle that should have ended 5 yrs ago. It has come to the point where he sucks my bf’s time up so much, that my bf cannot get the stuff done in his evenings that he wants to. Dupree has become so co-dependent that when my bf and i are out on a dinner date, he’ll call a billion times to see when my bf is coming home, and what they are going to do. He wants to party all the time, is degrading to women & my friends, and needs to be entertained constantly-He is the Dupree! Only 2 problems: my bf thinks he is the nicest dude alive, (even though NOT) and we’re currently in a bit of a financial situation where the rent $ def. helps us out. Any suggestions? Help a girl survive!
    thanks, *Me, Boyfriend and Dupree*

  26. Guest Says:

    Hmm… i would say perhaps try to find another living situation. it may work out, but if it’s on your mind and you know that you do not want to live with her ways, it may eat at you and make you miserable if you do have to put up with it all the time, and are secretly upset inside. Being happy your own home, and comfortable with your living situation is so important, so why sacrafice, when you can do something else, maybe live with people you know are not into smoking, or if feasible live by yourself. :)

  27. Guest Says:

    You Think You Got It Bad

    I reluctantly moved in with a feind from work, since I couldnt afford to get my own place at the time. He has 2 kids which he has a few days a week. The deal was he pays 2/3 of rent and utilities, since he has and extra bedroom for the kids. A good deal, right?
    WRONG! Since he pays 2/3 of everything, and everything is in his name, I have NO RIGHTS. HE has not only the 2 bigger nicer bedrooms, but the living room, dining room, and kitchen. Its all his stuff there as well! I have a tiny bedroom, and a —— basement that has mold, moisture, aesbestos,hundreds of spiders and centipedes, and radon, and thats where most of my stuff is. I have NOTHING in the rest of the house. On top of that, he is 48 years old, and weighs almost 400 pounds. He recently let his 18 YEAR OLD —– girlfreind from the hood move in! He gave her keys, and lets HER run the house! She lets all of her hood freinds stay here, they ate my food, I had to get a small fridge for my room, and lock the rest of my food and possessions up. Of course the house has been burglarized now. The —– turns the heat up to 85 and then goes and leaves the house, leaving the doors unlocked. She smokes in the house constantly, and the ——- roomate buys her weed, which her and her freinds smoke like cigars ( I guess theyre not stupid enough already!). They leave a huge mess constantly, and never clean up after themselves, dont have jobs, and he pays for the phone which rings about 300 times a day! Needless to say, I HATE my roomates guts. I have bad credit and an unlawful detainer, thanks to my ex girlfreind, who turned into a drud addict at the last place I lived. I am going —-ing NUTS and need to get out of here NOW!!!!
    Anybody know how long an unlawful detainer lasts?
    Any ideas how I can get out of THIS HELL ??????????????? Thanks!

  28. Guest Says:

    I moved in a house with a my boyfriend and a couple that he was friends with. I didn’t know them before moving in. Since day one, they have used all of our belongings without asking, including eating all the food that we would buy. Recently, I moved something of theirs off the kitchen counter and was backed into a corner and told that I don’t have the F—ing right to touch there stuff. When I replied and told them do not leave there stuff lying around. The man I live with backed me into a corner pointing his finger in my face and screaming at me, “Shut your f—ing mouth b–ch.” It has come to him threatening physical violence on my boyfriend and myself. The worst part is we are stuck in the lease for 6 more months and my boyfriend thinks it can be talked out. I want to move pronto, what do I do?

  29. Guest Says:

    I understand how you feel. I’ve been in the same situation before, but I realized that I was better off without my so-called friend. If we had spent more time together, then I would have realized what a horrible person she is! If you honestly want to save your friendship, maybe you can sit down and try to work things out with your friend. But I honestly believe that you should weigh out your different views of her: which one is the true her?
    Good luck. I honestly hope things work out for you.

  30. Guest Says:

    I have lived with a lot of different people in my life. Couples, bands, best friends(male and female)and strangers. Here are a few things that I have learned.

    1.Don’t bottle things up until you freak out.
    Just try to talk to them the way you want them to
    talk to you
    2. Pick your battles.
    Is this really bad or am I just bitchy right now?
    3. Compromise
    You do the dishes this week I’ll do them next week.
    If my boyfriend stays over a lot maybe we’ll make
    him do the dishes.
    4. Don’t write notes about important things.
    They are the bullshit weenie way out.
    If you can’t say it to their face maybe you
    shouldn’t be saying it at all.
    5. Money matters
    It’s hard enough to stress about their own bills
    don’t make them stress about yours. Be on time.
    My best and current roomie does the bills on the
    15th of the month.She tells me what they are and
    gives me until the 20th to pay her. Same thing
    every month. She lets me know when bigger bills are
    coming ( the water bill for example ) so I can plan
    ahead.
    I guess the most important thing I have learned is to be flexible.Oh yeah and if you live with a band…buy earplugs!

  31. Guest Says:

    have a roomamte. we were once best friends but, now we are like 2 stranges living in the same house which is ok by me. I got to know what she was really like, which is very judgemental and manipulative. She tried to dictate how I ran my life even though it did not infringe on hers. So now I have to rethink everything she ever told me and see if she was telling me because she cared or because it was something in it for her. Like when she encouraged me to not see another friend anymore beacause she said it was wrong the way she treated me. Turns out she most likely only did that becasue the friend I cut contact with once had a relationship with my brother and she liked him, so with my other friend out of the picture she felt free to pursue a “friendship” with him and she still talks to him to this day, even though I dont really communicate with her.

  32. Guest Says:

    wow I am glad to know i am not alone with having bad room mates,,,,, our room mate problem got so bad we had to call the cops as our car was marked up, numerous threats were made and to this day three years later shit still happens. my best advice dont trust druggies, and people who have gone threw numerous room mates and cannot keep down a job ….

  33. Guest Says:

    Seriously it’s THEIR, not there. OK? Jesus! Maybe this dude that hates you is an English teacher or something.

  34. Guest Says:

    I just moved in with my best friend since second grade…I’m thinking that it was a big mistake. She is an o.c.d. neat freak and we almost got into a fist fight over it last week. I’m a grad student and excuse me if I don’t have time to clean the kitchen every week with a toothbrush!!
    We both have a dog, I thought that it would be a perfect situation. My dog would have a playmate, as well as hers…wrong! Her dog is not potty trained and has even peed on my bed!! Her method of training is to calmly look at her dog, point her finger and say, “bad dog, bad dog”. Like he understands English!! Duh!! Smack his butt, that’s what he’ll understand!!

    Erg…people, don’t do it!! I still have 11 months to go on our lease and I’m already counting down the days!

  35. Guest Says:

    Isn’t there a soul on this site that knows how to speak proper english? Also, doesn’t anyone own a ——- dictionary? How about this: Has anyone passed 3rd grade English class? Idiots!

  36. Guest Says:

    Apt mate who won’t leave.After countless notices and lawyers letters, I am having to move her things into storage. Too bad, I am leaving, so must Tracy.

  37. Guest Says:

    I would say don’t it!! I lived with my best friend for 10 years, I respected our place, if I wanted to bring a guy home, I would go to his place but she didn’t, every time she dated a guy, when it came to sex, she would always bring him back to our place every single time but not his place. Now she is saying that I’m a date blocker!! So don’t do it!!

  38. Guest Says:

    OMG. Yeah, I thought I had it bad. I was wrong. Sorry, Buddy. :(

  39. Guest Says:

    my roommate will be late on rent by a few days and not say a word about it. I write the check and give it to the landlord and hes supposed to give me half of it in cash. He is like 5 days late and hasnt said a word about it. He has his dipshit friends over at all hours of the night. They come over and smoke weed and play their guitars loud at night and they never say a word to me if im here when they come over its really weird. but they have no problem at all drinking my beer. my friends come over and ask me for a beer, his friends just take it. his friends are really rude and so is he basically. my advice is kind of harsh, i dont wanna sound like a dick but seriously just get a job that pays well enough to live on your own. roommates are not a good idea at all. ive had like 4 different ones now and they all pissed me off to some extent and im pretty easy going and laid back.

    by the way the guy who keeps commenting on peoples grammar, get a life dude… its a forum for discussing problems with roommates not an english exam. im sorry that your such a homo and all, but please just spare us.

  40. Guest Says:

    DO NOT MOVE IN WITH A GOOD FRIEND!!! I lucked out with my landlord, a family friend bought a nice house for me to live in because he needed an investment. In response for such a great deal I naturally take care of the house; the lawn, flower beds, and cleaning inside. My male friend moved in with me and now I feel like I can’t live in my own house! Recently my boyfriend moved in with us, which everyone knew about before we signed leases, and my boyfriend and our roommate don’t get along! Last night we had a shouting fight because he was mad that he overheard my boyfriend and I talking about how he wasn’t helping us mow the lawn outside. What it came down to was that he doesn’t have time to help out at the house he lives in because he’s too busy playing sports and studying. I’m also a full-time student, and I work and volunteer also. He stormed off yelling down the stairs that we were just “****ing lazy ***es” and slammed his door! None of the comments he made during our argument made any sense! And now I’m hoping that he’ll just move out because our lease is almost up, but what do I do if he decides to stay?

  41. Guest Says:

    Better manners count much more than “proper” English. In your case, I suspect you are frustrated at something you cant remedy, causing you to lash out at strangers. tsk, tsk.

  42. Guest Says:

    you would definitely be doing the child a favor to report the mother to Child & Protective (Social) Services. you may save the daughters life.

  43. Guest Says:

    you mean English properly. Moron

  44. Guest Says:

    Here’s a story. I live with my boyfriend and his roommate (he claims this guy is his best friend). They have lived together for years, I mean at least 6 years. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years now. I sort of moved in by habit, if you will. I was in the midst of living on my own (parents’ purchased a condo for investment purposes & let me live there), but found myself in love and staying the night with my boyfriend every night. He lived 20 minutes away from where my new place was to be…only, I never got settled in at the condo!! It was weird how I skipped that step all together. Time flew by and I have been living with my boyfriend and his roommate/best friend for a total of 3 years. 2 years ago, my boyfriend actually bought the place where we live now, and the roommate rents and pays utilities as he should. Now we are in a committed relationship, would like to move forward (at least I would…it has been almost 5 years now), and live together–alone. My boyfriend, though, does not have the balls to tell his friend it’s time to move out. One time he kicked his ass (I mean literally smashed his face up) because the neighbors kept complaining about the noise volume, and he was completely drunk and stupidly loud. He works the latenight hours and is home ALL DAY LONG. Yet he doesn’t find the time to let the dog out, feed the dog actual dogfood, and or does not give him water!!! My boyfriend and I work full time. We simply would change our daily routines to accomodate the dog. This was made clear to him that he is obligated to take care of him while we cannot be there. The roommate does not buy laundry detergent, leaves whole food in the sink drain (we have a fully functional disposal with a switch that turns on and off rather easily–you flick it up or down), and here’s the big one…truly believes and has claimed that he is only paying rent for the (upstairs) room!! Therefore, he does not feel it it necessary to clean the common areas such as the kitchen, the laundry room, the living room, the weight room (dining room), the half bath, the patio out back, the stairs!!!! He also has a son who comes over 3 times a week, feeds the dog weird things, and is sometimes not in school due to a long drive that the father does not want to make. During the course of my relationship with my boyfriend, I stopped talking to the roommate. I avoid him at all costs. I have been hiding out in my room to avoid seeing his face. I already have seen what type of person he is, and he is the type of person who will never be my friend. I do NOT agree with the choices and decisions he makes. My boyfriend is ok with this, but is so consumed with work (it consumes him rather) that he hardly has time to spend at home, period. So I am stuck here, taking care of my boyfriend’s house and his roommate’s (and his son’s) mess! Do I need to move out? Is is that time? Or is my boyfriend refusing to ask his friend to leave because he feels bad for breaking his face (and possibly feels bad for him in general…because this friend is all in all a loser–does not like to work hard for anything)??? Help me!!!!

  45. Guest Says:

    hi,

    i live in a rented three bdr house leased on my name.
    two other guys stay here and we share the expenses.
    everything was fine untill we let another guy to join us.
    he joined us and we started spliting the expenses , but in a few weeks he stopped paying his share and i had to pay his share, to ensure on time payments for utilities and the rent.
    now he owes me $1000.lately i have started keepings things separate.i keep my expenses separate and i dont share anything. now if i ask him to return my money, he complains that i am selfish and that i dont have decency or courtesy.
    i have contract for another 6 months… is this happening everywhere, i hope i get my money

  46. Guest Says:

    Crazy Roomate

    I moved in with my girlfriend about 14 months ago. We then decided about 2 months later to get our place. Well we had no luck so we asked one of her current roomates if he wanted to move into a privately owned apartment. He agreed and we moved in together.

    All was well until about 5 months ago. He got a DUI,wrecked his brand new car hence the DUI. Stored the wrecked car in our garage. Lost his job, nothing to do with DUI. Days after he lost his job the police came over to do a suicide check because he made threats to his boss and company about blowing them up and killing himself. When he pulled his car out for some garage maintence his car got reposessed. Not to mention his girlfriend moved in. Without paying rent or any notification. He got banned from many nearby stores and establishments. He’s ran from the police many times for umentioned reasons. Nearly got a good friend of mine raped by 2 drug dealers. we’ve called the cops twice now for violent behavior and once again suicide check.
    So then about 2 and a half months ago he took this complete attitude change. As if things weren’t bad enough. He thought my now wife and I were trying to break him and his girlfriend apart. And I was sleeping with his girlfriend. A huge yelling match ensued which was followed by the next morning another conflict and him chargeing at my wife. If I was not there who know what would have happen.

    So I told my wife to stay away from him and his girlfriend. His girlfriend some how planted in his head that we had been using him all along and he needed to stand up for himself.

    Not to mention I’ve woken up to a house that was 45 degrees because he ran the AC for 9 hours at max power while we slept. And its ongoing everynight.

    So after a month and a half of us not talking to them. One afternoon he knocks on the door asking for the mail key. So I gave it too him but told him the mails on the counter. And I asked him if he had been receiving his unemployement checks because I had not seen any in the mail. HE BLEW UP. He accused me and my wife of stealing his checks, opening his mail and trying to open credit cards in his name. Turns out he went through our room searching for the landlords number. While going through our personal paperwork and amongst the mail we received for the landlord. He found a single letter that was a pre approved loan. Needless to say open. It got in our room when he opened it and left on counter and we picked up the landlords mail. He accused us of stealing his identity.

    He also contacted the landlord to find out that we had secretly contacted the landlord to try to break lease one month early. Because of his actions so when he found this out, He screamed and yelled at us for 30 mins and even threaten to kill us and beat us into a pulp.

    So when the landlord showed up the following week. We tried to get out of lease but the roomate wanted to stick it to us and refused to leave. So now I’m posting this one day before I move out. Which now causes me to pay 2 different rents because I can’t break the lease where I’m living and I can’t put my wife in danger.

    I know a married couple shouldn’t live with anyone. So you .all will be happy to know we now live alone.

    So for all who question whether to live with a friend. Or a stranger the answer is NO!!!! Don’t do it. Take my expirence and learn from it.

    Oh and screw spell check master!!!!

  47. Guest Says:

    I just rented an apartment with a girl I knew on campus. She doesn’t have any respect for me. She knew I do not get along with a friend of hers. She went out the state last week and left her key to her friend to live in the apartment while she is gone without my awareness. I felt very disrespect but when I tried to talk to her she told me it was her right to let any one live in the apartment. Please help, what should I do about this. I am thinking about breaking the lease but will I suffer a penalty. I don’t even feel safe anylonger.

  48. Guest Says:

    What kind of jerky roommate is home all evening, most evenings, and knows that other people are quietly resting or trying to sleep, and then decides to take noisy showers between 11:30 PM and 1:00 AM. The sad thing is that the owner of the lease thinks this is OK behavior. I think it is nuts. This jerk is moving out soon, and, really, I have decided that if the next person who moves in has behavior like this, I am out of here. It is disruptive to my sleep patterns and my sanity. I read here it is reasonable to expect quiet late at night. I can understand occasional issues like this, but every night?

  49. Guest Says:

    Don’t do it. You are looking for trouble with a capital “T”. If U smoke it fine but NO,NO,NO

    From Jim F in California

  50. Guest Says:

    Don’t do it! You both are two young and he might like to party too much. There could be asking for trouble. I know that for a FACT. My roommate just graduated from school and she was younger the me but I was Mr. NICE GUY! It was a mistake. Her girl friends liked me to much and problems happened. I’m older and she didn”t see we were just friends.

    James F

  51. Guest Says:

    Me and my friend have been living together for almost 3 years now. Throughout our friendship we have stuck together and helped each other spiritualy, financially, and she has also helped me with my children and quite a few other things that i am very appreciative for. She is more of an agressive and abrupt person than i ever was but she has gotten better to not be so bitchy and controlling about the way things should be done in many situation, be it my children and the way i feed them clothe them and all of the above. The issue that i am having is that i recently started working a night shift which causes me to be up working from 2300 to 0700. My children are on vacation for the next few months and i would like to take this time not only to regain control of my finances but also invest in some me time and relax as i please. She sees that people that take naps are lazy and she stresses this more than enough and no matter the amount of time i have been away from home working and doing whatever, or working and then coming home to run errands with her and try to go to bed by 0230 or atleast no latter them 0300 she will come in my room throuht my time to sleep and talk to me, ask me question that are not important, and just crazy things like that. Now not to badger anyone without them being able to defend themselves but this lady is not the most in shape person that you could meet and lately since we have moved into this new place, she complain about how she has so many pains and problems and does not clean house. but bitched and complained 24/7 about this same exact stuff if it was not perfect to her comfort when we first started staying togerther. now this journey has been long and winding i would love to have so advice on my situation. But i would also like to express that we are still close friends and neither one of us are the type of people that just go and meet new random people…. PLEASE ASSIST!!! How do i get her to understand that just because she does not sleep does not make it right to not respect my time to rest. i would like for once to go to sleep and wake up on an off day when i have nothing to do and wake up when my body wakes itself up , OR sleep minumum of 4 -6 hours straight without breaking it in 2 for non emergency interuptions!!

  52. Guest Says:

    There are several issues that I have with my roommate however, most recently is that she turns her AC on at night even though it is in the upper 40′s at night.

  53. Guest Says:

    February come soon! Please come SOOOOOOOON! My mistake is that I moved in with a friend who is more of a “club scene” friend and less of a “lets sit down, have a heart to heart, or watch a movie with” friend. Big big big mistake. I don’t know this person at all. She has lied, she has put bills in her purse and forgotten about them leading me to think they never came so I’m calling the companies we have accounts with trying to figure out what is going on, she has put me in danger by bringing strange men home for sex and they’ve actually come right into my bedroom to taunt me while I’m laying there weak and confused and so completely ill, She doesn’t take care of her dog AT ALL. I do it. I feed her dog, take her out, give her medicine to her, bathe her, TRAIN HER, GIVE HER ATTENTION! She has found a personal slave in me. Well, I’m not going to take it anymore! I’m here until February and I have decided to baracade myself in my room until then and if ANYTHING happens before that time to make me feel unsafe or taken advantage of I’m leaving her ass and she can suck it. I’m on the lease, but I never signed it so I am not legally bound to anything. That bitch is on her own. I can’t even BELIEVE this! She’s so hot and cold it’s ridiculous. I have faults too, don’t get me wrong. I’m aware of them and it doesn’t kill me to hear them. If her dog pees and I tell her about it, she flies off the handle. We’ve been here since september first and she has only taken the trash out ONCE and we did it together!!!! It’s unbelievable. And further more, would it kill her to learn out to load a —– dishwasher. I knew it would happen and it did, two of my plates got chipped in the dishwasher. And she keeps using my dads mug and she laughed at me when I asked her to be careful with it. She says, it’s just a mug, you can get another one. That comment was AFTER I explained that it’s all I have of my dads as he died some years back and I miss him very much. She’s so disrepectful. I’m sick of backing down to keep the peace. What peace do I have? She treats me like crap!

  54. Guest Says:

    I just got into a dispute with my roommate over the same thing. It is about 40 degrees in Tallahassee and when I decided to put the heater on 70 the trick yells out “why dont you put on a ——– sweat shirt”. Thats just asking for trouble. I guarantee you she wont be bold anymore. The mature thing to have done would be come to my door and lets compromise. But no she wanted trouble

  55. Guest Says:

    I’ve had my own studio apartments since I was divorced, and it was nice to be the one to call the shots in my own place, and come home to some peace. Roommates and live-in lovers suck. They always make you do clean up after them, and take or break your stuff on top of that. I had one even commit suicide in my apartment just cause he didn’t want to go out and get a job to support himself! Well, because of all that nonsense, my landlord forced me out of my last place saying he was moving his dad into my studio, which of course was a flat out lie, but after what happened in my place, I really didn’t want to live there anymore either, so I jumped at the opportunity. Well, he hooked me up with this Russian lady he knew who had a large room for rent at a good price, so after the interview, everything seemed kosher, so I took it and moved in. The day I moved in, she was throwing my —- out of the door!! Apparently I moved in with a major uber cleanliness obsessed control freak who doesn’t think it’s out of bounds to go through my personal belongings and throw out anything she thinks is dirty, smelly, old, of a religious nature she doesn’t agree with, or she simply thinks is ugly. She tossed into the street books, statues, files, parts of my vacuum cleaner, some clothes of mine, my cat’s scratching post, my lamp…she even tried to through out an antique doll collection that’s been in my family since I was a kid!! Ok, now it’s been a month and I’m walking on eggshells around this bitch, and this Thanksgiving she’s accusing me of being too stupid to cook anything correctly in her kitchen, even after I was the one who dropped over $100 for all the groceries! Then the bitch accuses me of using her and her boyfriend’s personal soap products and shampoo when I take a shower in the morning getting ready for work, and she’s not believing me when I say I got my own soap to use. She screamed at me saying I used her towels, and now she claims to have lost the rent money I gave her for December, and is either trying to accuse me of stealing it back or trying to get me to fork out another wad of cash so she can play at the clothing store. I want to —— report her to somebody!! She has no freaking job, and I think it’s her sugar daddy boyfriend who’s footing her bill, and she —— on him like he’s a second class citizen.

  56. Guest Says:

    I’ve had my own studio apartments since I was divorced, and it was nice to be the one to call the shots in my own place, and come home to some peace. Roommates and live-in lovers suck. They always make you do clean up after them, and take or break your stuff on top of that. I had one even commit suicide in my apartment just cause he didn’t want to go out and get a job to support himself! Well, because of all that nonsense, my landlord forced me out of my last place saying he was moving his dad into my studio, which of course was a flat out lie, but after what happened in my place, I really didn’t want to live there anymore either, so I jumped at the opportunity. Well, he hooked me up with this Russian lady he knew who had a large room for rent at a good price, so after the interview, everything seemed kosher, so I took it and moved in. The day I moved in, she was throwing my —- out of the door!! Apparently I moved in with a major uber cleanliness obsessed control freak who doesn’t think it’s out of bounds to go through my personal belongings and throw out anything she thinks is dirty, smelly, old, of a religious nature she doesn’t agree with, or she simply thinks is ugly. She tossed into the street books, statues, files, parts of my vacuum cleaner, some clothes of mine, my cat’s scratching post, my lamp…she even tried to through out an antique doll collection that’s been in my family since I was a kid!! Ok, now it’s been a month and I’m walking on eggshells around this bitch, and this Thanksgiving she’s accusing me of being too stupid to cook anything correctly in her kitchen, even after I was the one who dropped over $100 for all the groceries! Then the bitch accuses me of using her and her boyfriend’s personal soap products and shampoo when I take a shower in the morning getting ready for work, and she’s not believing me when I say I got my own soap to use. She screamed at me saying I used her towels, and now she claims to have lost the rent money I gave her for December, and is either trying to accuse me of stealing it back or trying to get me to fork out another wad of cash so she can play at the clothing store. I want to —– report her to somebody!! She has no freaking job, and I think it’s her sugar daddy boyfriend who’s footing her bill, and she —– on him like he’s a second class citizen.

  57. Guest Says:

    That was an outstanding, perfectly timed and appropriate response. There’s nothing like a person running around town with a sign that reads “No More Signs.” Or should I say a sign that reads “don’t want no more sines, k.”?

    I agree that grammar skills are slipping faster than you can say “over yonder,” but one must be in the special I-have-more-than-a-3rd-grade-education club before they use our slogans. Your response was as perfect as someone saying “I’m NOT in denial.”

  58. Guest Says:

    oh my god my roomrate is horrible , shes always smoking in the apartment and she takes monoplizes the living and when i come and take my boots off and place them by door cause there covered in snow and mudd , cause i walk everywhere she throws them on my bed even though she has like 3 pairs out in the living room and then she turns the heat up to 95 degrees and i always turn back down to 70 and she complains its cold and i mentioned it to her and she was like when the furniture is cold to the touch then its too cold . Oh and get this , if shes so cold then why the — is she wearing a —– moomoo everywhere . oh and since i cant get to sleep until like 4:30 am cause its so —– hot, she gets up at like 530 and makes so much noise and she stomps every where too. I mean this women weighs like 300 lbs and there is no way she can be cold with all that fat hanging every where. AND then she gets really mad when i say something to her about anything she doesnt like she throws a freaking tear fest and calls her daughter who threatens to call the cops and kick me for makeing her mom upset .

  59. Guest Says:

    my roomate and i don’t talk at all shes very dirty and immature and she brings people to the room all the time she even wants to watch my tv by force and i don’t use her things she leaves her trash until it stinks really bad im tired of her what do i do?
    please email me at kikilucious@yahoo.com
    thanks

  60. Can't please the Queen Says:

    I lost a studio apartment I had for 8 years with a shady landlord who wanted me out to raise the rent. I wanted out of there anyway because the place had too many bad memories for me, especially after my last roommate committed suicide there. So my landlord knows this Russian chick who has a spare room to rent for much cheaper, and the location is walking distance to the beach. All nice, and whatnot. Little did I know, that from the first day I moved in, my roommate would turn into a mega-control freak, domineering, bully, narcassistic, obssessive compulsive BITCH!! She had the lock on my door removed so she can move in & out of my space at will. She has really big issues whenever I use the bathroom. You see, I was raised to all my life take a shower at least once a day, and I prefer to do mine in the morning before I leave for work. She has complained nonstop that the steam from my showering is making all her stuff in the bathroom wet and she has been trying to convince me that it’s better to take a shower like her, only twice a week. I’m sorry, but I can’t do that. Then she’s on me about my weight, and the way I dress. She’s a thrift store shop-a-holic and she brings back these big o frumpy baggy old lady blouses and tells me that I need to wear this because it’s the latest Euro-thing in the fashion mags she reads 24-7. This woman has no visible job to speak of, and she’s got one boyfriend paying her rent that she treats like shit, and dates at least 3 other guys behind his back. I pity her man, but that’s non of my business amd I really don’t give a rat’s ass. I’ve never left a dirty dish in the sink, I never eat all of her groceries, I pay all the my rent and share of utilities in full and on time each month, I’ve kicked down hundreds towards food for the house, and STILL SHE GETS INTO MY FACE AFTER I GET OFF WORK TO SCREAM AT ME ABOUT LEAVING MY NIGHTGOWN IN THE BATHROOM HANGING ON THE TOWEL RACK NEXT TO THE TOWEL SHE USES TO WASH HER PRETTY LITTLE FACE WITH. Let me tell you something, this Euro Bitch treats me like I’m some subordinate, inferior female with the physical hygiene of a pig. SHE DEMANDS THAT I LITERALLY SANITIZE THE BATHROOM AFTER I USE IT, LIKE I HAVE AIDS OR SOMETHING, THEN COMPLAINS THAT I TAKE UP TOO MUCH TIME IN THE BATHROOM. I’M FUCKEN CLEANING THE DAMN THING, AND THAT TAKES MORE TIME THAN CLEANING MYSELF!! What the fuck is her issue?

  61. amanda wiley Says:

    My husband and I had a roomate, which was espcecially chellenging with a married couple and a single. Alltough things works really well for us most of the time. He bacame “my other husband” in this odd way. For the last few months he didn’t do any dishes or laundry, mopped on the couch, was quite and short and it was becoming frustrating

    January 5th, 2010 – our roomate commited SUICIDE

    I will not go through on day without feeling guilty about the squabbling, about the painted cuboards, the toilet paper roll, the garbage being changed, the fridge being full, my homemade man & cheese he used to love. A lot is petty and in the end it doesn’t matter.

    Treat your roomates well, Talk to them – If you feel even the slightest concern ask. You never know, we didn’t and we will forever miss him.

  62. Michelle Says:

    The best piece of advice I can give is, the best of friends don’t always make the best of roommates.

  63. Anonymous Says:

    hi all,
    i very much agree roomies shud never be friends.I love my bf a lot and always hang out with him on weekends.I am super neat and very easy going.This b*tch wanted me to leavemy bf and hang out with her.Well,so bad for her,I dumped her rather than leaving my dear bf.

  64. ambo Says:

    you all are nuts. I have a roommate. I am a female he is a male. we live great together! everything is perfect. we have no requirements. you just live your life as you want. i do the cleaning he does the cooking. sometimes we alternate. we just do whatever we feel happy doing. if he cant pay at a certain time so what. he will make it up later. You should awlays have a back up emergency stash of cash somewhere anyways. hell use your credit card thats what you do in emergencies such as that. We both take care of the dog. I listen to his music he watches my tv. if we dont want any part of that we simply leave the house or go to another room. no big deal. fighting is stupid. you have to learn to adapt to everyones culture.

  65. Jay Says:

    I have been living with roommates for years. For 2 of those years, I lived with my best friends. THEY ARE STILL MY BEST FRIENDS.

    People, it is possible to not ruin your friendship. What it takes is good communication and sane, good people. Talking about ground rules, chores, bills, write everything down, apologize when you break the rules (e.g. sorry guys, I have a midterm coming up and I just can’t do the dishes right now), gently remind roomies to do their chores, tell them their unexpected visitor was unwelcome, tell them they need to refill toilet paper. TALK. We no longer live together because we are in different cities now, but I love them even more after that experience.

  66. Lindsey walton Says:

    I have an issue with the party thing…you know I understand it’s your place too but I also pay the bills so if I wanna throw a party I believe it’s my right. Now I can understand the number of parties to be had but I threw a new years party and my roommate had a 12 year old fit where she text me something snide and like wouldn’t talk to me. It was pretty petty. We had lived together for 6 months and I threw ONE party and you’re gonna act like that? Well tough shit. I pay bills too so I believe I can do as I please just as much as you do.

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