Dealing With Noisy Neighbors

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

We’ve all experienced them: noisy neighbors. Whether they fight constantly, play loud music, have big parties, own dogs who love to bark, or make noise in other ways, noisy neighbors aren’t fun to deal with. You can take a variety of approaches to asking your neighbors to quiet down, ranging from polite conversations to getting the police involved. You don’t want to get confrontational, but you also don’t want to be plagued by constant commotion. Here are some tips for successfully dealing with noisy neighbors.

Face to face

Before addressing minor noise issues with your neighbors, it can be helpful to establish a relationship with them. Instead of going over to their apartment to complain, go over to present them with a basket of home-baked treats or to invite them to a cocktail hour at your house. Presumably you’ll identify the noise problems early on in your tenancy, so either you or the neighbor has recently moved in. This means that welcoming them makes sense, so go ahead and do it. Once you’ve established a bit of rapport with the neighbors, maybe you can bring up the fact that you occasionally hear noise coming from their apartment. This approach is probably better for more minor noise issues, since it can be difficult to become friendly with someone only to raise a concern. If your noise issue is more severe, you might want to skip the friendly step and just talk to your neighbors about it.

TIP: When discussing an issue like noise with your neighbors, focus on why the noise is a problem, and propose a reasonable solution. Don’t just attack your neighbors for being loud, as this will simply put them on the defensive. For example, say “I work very early in the morning and need my rest, so I’d appreciate it if you could lower the volume of your music after 11:00 p.m. on weeknights,” instead of “You’re so loud all the time—can’t you knock it off?” The first approach will almost certainly get you better results. More specific techniques for approaching noisy neighbors can be found here.

If you want to take a more official approach, sending your neighbor a copy of your city’s noise ordinance and/or a clause in your apartment lease that guarantees you the right to quiet enjoyment of your home. You can also suggest legal mediation if direct conversations don’t produce results. Sometimes just being reminded that they are breaking the law can be enough to convince people to quiet down.

Through the landlord

If you don’t get results after a casual conversation or two with your neighbor, it may be time to talk to your landlord about the problem. This can get sticky, because it’s not likely that your landlord will prioritize your noise complaint above more pressing issues like recovering late rent payments or making physical repairs to apartments. Your landlord might only address the issue after you make repeated complaints, or if multiple complaints are submitted about the same tenant. Though noise issues are definitely legitimate, they can easily get buried under other responsibilities. Be persistent with your landlord and your neighbor, and hopefully you can all reach a successful compromise.

Severe situations

If your neighbor doesn’t respond to repeated conversations with you and your landlord, or if you have a more extreme case that’s immediately interfering with your ability to engage in normal activities, you might want to get the police involved. This can be a tough step to take, because you don’t want to give your neighbors a negative opinion of you. However, the police should respect your privacy and refrain from revealing who called in the complaint.

If you don’t find improvement after involving the police once or twice, you may want to take further legal action. It’s possible to sue your neighbor in small claims court for the nuisance caused by their noise. While the judge can’t order your neighbors to quiet down, they can order them to pay a daily fee to compensate you for the inconvenience posed by the noise. The simple threat of having to pay you money regularly can be extremely effective in getting your neighbors to quiet down. Of course, you’ll have to provide the court with ample proof of your neighbors’ consistent noise production (recordings may help, and testimony from other tenants will also bolster your case) and your attempts to resolve them in other ways.

In your apartment

While the behavior or others is not something under your control, the state of your apartment is. If you can’t get your neighbors to cooperate easily, it may be simpler to take the “pacifist” approach and modify your apartment to better absorb sound. While it may be hard to compensate for fundamental structural shortcomings, you can certainly add some soundproofing to your walls. Homosote, cork boards, wrapped acoustical panels, fabric, carpeting, and basically anything thick and soft (relative to your walls) can all help provide sound proofing for your apartment. You may be surprised by how effective a few fabric-covered soundproofing boards or panels can be in reducing noise in your apartment, and they can also add exciting color and decorating opportunities for your apartment. Rooms that aren’t carpeted are likely to be particularly noisy, so adding area rugs throughout your apartment can help reduce noise as well. With a little ingenuity, you can take matters into your own hands and make your apartment more livable.

I am so glad that I am not

#81209 On Tuesday, August 05, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I am so glad that I am not alone; I thought I was being too sensitive.
There are just too many people are so stupid, ignorant and inconsiderate about other people's feeling.
Especially nowadays, many people lost their house and than move to either condo or apartments at the same time live the way as were they are in their own house.
Kids jumping, walk heavily like they are an elephant, and loud base music.
Don't they know they are in a community environment?
Why can't we have law to really enforce this issue?
Loud noise is part of the pollution which in long term can cause permanent damage.

I have the same issue. The

#81169 On Monday, August 04, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I have the same issue. The people upstairs are constantly walking at all hours of the day, and I can hear everything. I went upstairs to tell them to calm it down, and it wasn't pretty. We were yelling at each other. I called the condo association, and there is nothing that can be done. I'm so upset that I am paying for a condo that I can't enjoy 100% due to these people upstairs. What's funny is that they were over 70 years old, and I am the one with the two kids. We barely make any noise while these old people are running rampant. It's crazy.

I thought I was the only

#81048 On Wednesday, July 30, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I thought I was the only one! I live in a new building in NYC. The new buildings are so flimsy. I can hear the neighbors across the hall talking, and I can tell what they are watching by listening to their tv through my living room walls.

Anyway, the tenant upstairs from me is very inconsiderate. She is 23 and she has three children. She does not care what her kids are doing as long as they leave her alone. The children run up and down, up and down, and it sounds like the jump off the couch and onto the floor. I have knocked on her door to ask her to please be quiet. I have called the landlord and sent letters. I am going to have to get in this tenant's face for her to finally listen. You cannot ask everyone nicely to be considerate. Some people only understand you when you become irate.

To make matters worse, this is a rent stabilized apartment and by law we have the right to an automatic lease renewal. It is very hard to remove a tenant in a rent stabilized apartment.

They do drugs and every night is party night for them. I am at my wits end and can't afford to move. I feel like I have to take matters into my own hands because this is too much.

I have had a long history of

#80957 On Monday, July 28, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I have had a long history of noisy/annoying neighbors. The latest is this. They are now watching the little girl of another tenant. They all decide to go running and stomping through the apartment screaming at the tops of their lungs. This happened at 10PM and 4AM!! Yes, the little girl was still up at that time!!! Then they decided to play outside talking and bouncing a ball before 5AM. I have gone to them; I have gone to the apt. manager, but all she says is to call the cops. What can the cops do? Unless they witness all this mess, there's nothing they can do. I don't see why I should have to move since I have done nothing wrong, and most other apts. are more expensive. Any thoughts?

I love all the suggestions

#80798 On Sunday, July 20, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I love all the suggestions and inputs...I am surely not alone. There are neighbors and stupid people everywhere. Mine are usually drunk or high, sometimes both....police are investigating now....girl is scared haven't seen her around here she heard police involved and she bailed...yeah!

I am really glad I found

#80797 On Sunday, July 20, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I am really glad I found this website i find it quite interesting that so many people are living and dealing with the exact same problems we are experiencing. Our neighbors are horrible. The 2 upstairs apartments were all friends which we knew right away would be trouble. My family has lived in this apartment for over 2 years now. They all were loud, loud music, and then the arguing began, the people above us a guy and a girl should not be together they fight all the time....if we don't hear fighting for a day or two something isn't right. It is all hours of the night until finally someone passes out and then we can rest. The landlord has gotten into it with them and still they get away with living here. I'm so fed up with it....We will be leaving as soon as we find a new home....places in our area are hard to find...afordable but this is absolutely ridiculous. These people should not be together cause they definitely do not get a long well enough.

Hey up noisy scum - you are

#80692 On Friday, July 18, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Hey up noisy scum - you are the filth of the world. Die you useless garbage.

I had a young guy move in

#80589 On Monday, July 14, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I had a young guy move in months back and was beating the hell out of his girlfriend and I could hear her screaming for her life. I called the police and management the first time and he refused to open the door for either. THe police was ready to knock the door down but the leasing manager refused to let them. I ended up calling the police 3 times and they told me despite I can hear the cry for help if I don't see it with my own eyes they will not treat it as an emergency. By the time officers came out he had stopped and the second 2 times all he did was say they were arguing and the police didn't arrest this bastard.

I lived in fear for 4 months he was going to kill himself, his girlfriend or someone else. He wrote a letter to management it was not him, but he didn't know I was documenting everything and once management read 4 pages of violent rages they IMMEDIATELY threw his ass out. So, for a month the apartment was empty and I loved it. By the way he lived upstairs and turns out the girlfriend moved out and she kept going back to visit only to get the hell beat out of her. What in the hell was wrong with her?

I thought that was the end of my troubles however yet again another problematic very young neighbor who refuses to stop blasting her music upstairs and she does this with a child under 5 years old in the housr. Another tenant is complaining about her as well. People don't seem to understand being constantly exposed to loud noise can cause hearing loss whether permanent or temporary...That is 2 bad tenants in a row and I am sick of this and questioned management about their screening process and heard other neighbors complaining as well about many upstairs newer tenants moving in. The sad part is hear in Houston Tx the police know very little about our noise ordinances and seldom enforce them....We have a section in our lease by the Texas Apartment Association that by signing or occupying the apartment prohibited conduct included "no loud music, do not disturb or annoy anyone in the apartment community that interferes with their privacy"

Both of these awful tenants are very young and there is no doubt noisy people are noisy no matter whether they live. These 2 likely did the same non sense at their prior residences and came in here doing the same thing. Tlaking to them politely or firmly didn't work.

I am glad I am not the only

#80479 On Wednesday, July 09, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I am glad I am not the only one dealing with rude neighbors. I rent a downstairs apartment in New Jersey. I live in a small town and this was the only unit I could find.This apartment has been hell since I moved in. The neighbors upstairs are so rude and annoying.There is a couple and 3-5 men living upstairs in a 3 bedroom apartment.The woman upstairs wears heels/clogs. ALL DAY LONG! Her heels hit the cheap kitchen tiles like she is a model on a runway. She hardly ever leaves the apartment because she doesn't work so I never get a break from this.Foot traffic is unbearable with all those men upstairs and their combat cowboy boots.They drop heavy items continously, they wrestle like little kids, and sometimes sing on a mic with their karaoke machine on full volume.They sweep their porch dirt down to my patio, along with cigarette butts and calling cards.They litter in the hallway and I have experienced ceiling leaks because they drip dry out of the shower onto the floor and also tried to install a refrigerator icemaker.I have complained to the manager and the landlord.It goes in one ear and out the other.They don't want to hear it.The Landlord is useless and does not care about anything but his rent checks.He didn't care that his ceiling tile is ruined from the water leak. He told me he spent thousands of dollars on renovations, but I don't see it. The walls and ceiling are paper thin, the tiles and hardwood floors are cheap materials. This apartment needs serious updating. I am forced to stay here until my lease is up the summer of 2009. I will be giving him two month notice prior to that and I am out of this place. Let someone else deal with noise. NO MORE DOWNSTAIRS APARTMENTS!

I TOTALLY identify with each

#80562 On Saturday, July 12, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I TOTALLY identify with each and everyone your stories. When my upstairs neighbor moved in, I advised him that the walls are thin and that I can hear everyting. At first he was great - then came the squeeky "OMG, Don't Stop" girlfriend. For weeks the early morning sessions continued and I found myself sleeping in the livingroom as a result. When I found myself getting full night sleep, I mentioned to my teenage son that the neighbor must have ended his relationship. My son said, "Nope. I think I embarassed her." Mortified, I still had to ask. My son said that he saw her and asked if she was a "Porn Star." I wanted to laugh, but I explained to my son that it is not polite to make such a comment to a woman. My son said, "I know, but at least your getting some sleep." From the mouths of babes...

I too have complained. The management company does not care about my lack of sleep. All they care about is my rent being paid ontime. I have lived in my apartment since 2002. Now that the market is in my favor, I have decided to purchase a home. Like the gentleman stated, "NO MORE DOWNSTAIRS APARTMENTS!" I am going a step further. NO MORE APARTMENTS PERIOD!!!!!

yaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!

#81011 On Tuesday, July 29, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

yaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!! congratulations!!!

I CAN RELATE TOO! I have a

#80640 On Wednesday, July 16, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I CAN RELATE TOO! I have a new neighbor who is bi-polar. She and her boyfriend seem to get away with really nasty, deliberate and beligerant behavior with no concern for the manager's warnings. Damn, I'm so sorry I moved in here... I thought it was AOK upon moving in, but it's getting so noisy that my sleep schedule is ruled by the bi-polar idiots who don't take their medication!

The police have been here because of the noise and other matters, the Humane Society has been here regarding abusive treatment of their dog, but the manager just collects their rent and does nothing. I can't afford to move since I'm disabled... I'm afraid filing a lawsuit is the only answer to my problem, and I really dislike making enemies by doing that. Oh well...

Let me add another story. I

#80422 On Monday, July 07, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Let me add another story. I live downstairs. the upstairs neighbours have 2 children under 5 years and now have added a newborn. the mother watches children on the weekends. We saw 5 children leave last nite. that is 8 children in a small 2 bedroom apartment all day on the weekends. the children do not go outside to play so all day they run inside and bounce balls and drop things and never can any of them sit down at once. Even when the children who are being babysat leave, there is still running. we had a conversation twice with our neighbors about the noise and the father said he understood and was sorry. He also said this is why is rents upstairs apts because he doesn't want to hear the noise. the wife was not as nice and said too bad she has to babysit. we have knocked on the ceiling when it gets unbearable but they respond with stomping and more noise. we have decided not to renew our lease but that is 9 months away and it seems like forever. but asurely I will not be moving to an apt with anyone above me.

Is she running a daycare?

#80457 On Wednesday, July 09, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Is she running a daycare? Most states require licensing. Does your apartment allow this in the lease? I would ask the owners in writing and let them know just how bad the noise is. You should not have to put up with that at all.

It's now after 1AM, and I'm

#80394 On Sunday, July 06, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

It's now after 1AM, and I'm up at this hour since my inconsiderate neighbors once again played their HUGE stereo system with the bass on full blast tonight. I got so mad while lying down that I dressed, went next door, and gave them the FULL BLAST OF MY ANGER!!!!! I have already complained to the landlord twice now, and it looks like I'll..........

Guess what, the Portland Police just knocked on my door and we had a little talk. I got so MAD that I made a threat to my neighbor - yes, I know I should not have, but at least the officer told me a few hints I could use to abate the situation in the future.

When I moved into my

#80581 On Sunday, July 13, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

When I moved into my apartment I was so excited, until I realize the place is thin and the neighbors upstairs was letting their kid play drums on the floor (my ceiling) with pots pans and everything else he wanted. Also, believe it or not my neighbor downstairs is or was into blasting her music knowing the place is thin. First I let both go on for a year hoping they would stop. they did not, even after repeatedly talking to the upstairs people. So I just started screaming through the vent ever single time. It took about a month before they finally stopped him for good. The woman downstairs, every time she blasted her music, I would just sit my speakers on the floor and let them rip. It worked for about a week, then she had the audacity to do this at 6:30am on a saturday. So Sunday morning at 9:00am (because I am not as rude as her) i again sat my speakers on the floor and let it rip for about an hour and again every single time she tried, I would just out blast her. That was 3 months ago and while it took a year and a half, I finally have a quiet apartment. I love it. Sometimes you just have to fight fire with fire.

We are new to communal

#80044 On Friday, June 27, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

We are new to communal living and we could use some advice from others. ;-)

We live in a low-rise condo building with about 15 other families. There is one family with small children. The infant (now 6 mos. old) has been SCREAMING non-stop since it arrived six months ago. It screams morning, noon and night - and every day.

We realize that there will always be noises in the building but all other neighbors are extremely quiet. The weather is wonderful and everyone in the building would like to have their windows open to enjoy it.

My question is this: is it too much to ask the noisy family to close their windows so that everyone else can enjoy the weather in peace? Every unit has A/C so they could use it (if needed) instead of opening their windows.

I have struggled for weeks

#80091 On Sunday, June 29, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I have struggled for weeks to write you a note
and let you know it is no joke.
I can hear many noises all night and day
coming from your condo I have to say.
I hear you walk across the floor, I even hear you when you shut your door.
I hear the garbage disposal and that’s not all, I hear your toilet flush through the floor.
Your tile floors have no sound barrier,
If it was quieter, I would me merrier.
I hear your drums banging in my head, I hear you talking sometimes til four.
My doors are closed,
I have to say
I do not know what to do this day.

wow reading these postings

#79958 On Monday, June 23, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

wow reading these postings I'm feeling like I'm not alone. I live on the first floor in an apartment complex in Boulder. The neighbor above have hardwood floor and naturally I will hear them walking. I can take that but sometimes late at night and early they will run back and forth drop things on the floor and bang the wall. I am pretty sure by now it's personal. Sometimes I find myself daydreaming about how to get back at him. Fortunately I'm moving out in 1 month. Hopefully I can keep my sanity before then and not keep myself from running up there in an angry outburst and assault the neighbor. I'd be interested to know how much noise problems contribute to the crime rate because some of these neighbors can just drive a person over the edge. *sigh*

I live below this couple who

#79639 On Monday, June 09, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I live below this couple who loves to stomp and run after their big barking dog in their apt all day and night. From 6am-1am on most days life is a living hell for me in my own apt. This has been so difficult for me to deal with. It has come to the point were I dread being home. I politely told the landlord about the noise and asked if they could keep it down. They have gotten worse and I even heard him tell another neighbor that he can do whatever he wants in his own ------- house. They made me out to be the bad guy!

I have the same thing going

#81034 On Wednesday, July 30, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I have the same thing going on. All day and night with the noise. I have gone to the HOA and they won't do anything. Fighting fire with fire doesn't work eigher, it only gets the cops called on me and I'm made out to be the bad guy.

Our apartment has the policy

#80098 On Sunday, June 29, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Our apartment has the policy of three complaints and you are out. Ask if yours has something similar. You could also call the police. You may just have to break the lease if nothing will help. Nobody has to accept that behavior.

my husband and i bought our

#79550 On Friday, June 06, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

my husband and i bought our condo 2 years ago, we are on the 2nd floor and have people above us and below us. The ppl below us just moved out which is sad b/c they were lovely. The girl living above us is nice enough but she is truly an elephant, but probably weighs about 110 lbs. i have asked her to keep her shoes off while walking around and she was good about it for awhile but now its started up again. Plus, regardless if she has shoes on or not, we can still hear the thumping, heel to toe walking. She recently got into a relationship and the squeaky bed at 4 am is NOT ACCEPTABLE!!! I even asked her if she wouldn't mind trying WD40 on her old boxspring to maybe make it less noisy. The problem is that we both own our apts and there is not management company to complain to and we can't just break a lease. The most frustrating part is that the developer assured me that he insulated before rehabing the building and we bought it on his word. BS!!!!!!!!! I am willing to spend the time and money to fix the situation and maybe drop our ceiling and add more insulation. BUT someone who has already done that please advise me...does it work??? Help! I am a professional sane person who is going out of her mind!

OMG I have the exact same

#79937 On Sunday, June 22, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

OMG I have the exact same problem when it comes to the squeaky bed at all hours of the day. Honestly, morning, afternoon and night! I never knew that someone could have so much energy. I just moved into my new condo about 2 and a half weeks ago and the past two days, I have woken up to their noisy bed while they're doing the nasty. I'm ready to complain to the people who manage the condo; I don't want to confront the owners themselves considering its an embarrassing topic and the fact that I just moved in so recently. I hope they'll do something because I'm sick and tired of being woken up, bothered, and disturbed. They can have all the sex they want as long as I don't have to know about it.

Earplugs

#79753 On Saturday, June 14, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Earplugs

i have sex in my apartment

#80166 On Tuesday, July 01, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

i have sex in my apartment at reasonable times but ive gotten complaints that people can hear it in the parking lot and the hallway. now i can hear tvs and music in the parking lot and in the hallways and no one cares. i think that is bullshit. i should be able to have sex as loud as no one is bothered in their own homes. no one can hear it except for the few seconds they're walking into their apartment.

So you think that because

#81156 On Sunday, August 03, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

So you think that because you are having sex that you need not show any consideration for everyone else in your building?

Grow up you dumb ----.

We live in a 2-story garden

#79497 On Wednesday, June 04, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

We live in a 2-story garden apartment in NJ. We’ve lived in this apartment for a long time now; 14 years. We live on the second floor and we’ve had many different neighbors over the years, both below us and to both sides of our apartment.

But anyway, my story is a little different than most here.

Recently, new tenants moved to the upstairs apartment to the side of ours. We’ve had four different tenants living in that apartment since we’ve been here. Never a problem.

When I first set eyes on the guy, I guess he’s in his mid-forties, he just reminded me of a grumpy and somewhat miserable-looking man. I smiled and said hello and he just kinda frowned and grunted. OK.. whatever, I thought.

Anyway, they’re really quiet. For the first two weeks after they moved in, we didn’t hear anything, which is a blessing. Next I knew, we’re sitting in the living room, watching TV, and very loud banging starts on the wall. It scared the crap outta me, but I thought that they were hanging pictures.

During the next few days, the banging became a habit and I finally wondered if they were trying to tell us that WE were being too loud. We weren’t though. We were watching TV, at a normal volume, at a reasonable time… say 8PM.

Anyway, I ignored the banging; the guy really does seem a bit odd. I turned the TV a little lower, but it wasn’t loud in the first place.

Last night, at 8PM, the banging starts again (this is probably the 4th time now, and he’s clearly gotten more comfortable doing it). We were watching CNN. No explosions, no loud music, no thunderous bass, nothing obnoxious. Again, normal TV volume. Next I know, someone starts frantically ringing my doorbell. I knew it must have been him, but I didn’t answer the door. The WAY he was ringing the bell just sounded weird. Like it was an emergency.

Today I get a visit from the Superintendent, and the guy next door complained about US. According to the Super, he claimed that he “hasn’t been able to sleep a single night” since he’s moved in. This is just ridiculous and it’s clear that this guy is going to be a big problem. We go to bed at 11PM, we rarely play music, and when we do never after 10PM. After 10PM, we’re quiet as a mouse, even on the weekends. We’ve always been very respectful to our neighbors hoping they would respect that and return the favor.

We’ve never had a complaint from anyone since we’ve been here (because there was NO reason for anyone to complain)… and this guy is complaining about “noise” at 8PM? Are we not supposed to watch TV now that he’s moved in??

Anyway, I’m pretty pissed. I guess some people have to realize that they are living in an APARTMENT with others living around them. It’s not like living in a private home where you can control all the sounds that may go on if you want to. In an apartment, it’s normal to hear sounds from other tenants. Our sounds are typical, nothing out of the ordinary at all.

This guy’s gonna be a royal P.I.T.A.!! I can’t stand him already, and I don’t even know his name yet.

Yeah, you sound antisocial

#79883 On Thursday, June 19, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Yeah, you sound antisocial and it sounds like you are only giving your version of the story. Whatever!

You suspect that your

#79754 On Saturday, June 14, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

You suspect that your neighbor is complaining about your loud TV. You ignore the doorbell when you think he's at the door, you make no effort to potentially negate a bad situation and and you're telling me that HE is the PITA?!?

What you think is normal, might be loud to others. You need to learn how to be a good neighbor and not shut them out. If I thought my neighbor was at my door I would at least try to talk through the door and ask what they want. Communication is important to resolving problems.

I lived in my first

#79463 On Monday, June 02, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I lived in my first apartment in SoCal for six and a half years. I was on the bottom floor of a two story building. I had apartments on each side of me, behind me and above and had issues with every neighbor. I felt like I lived in a ghetto with loud gang banger music playing real loud at all hours. It would literally shake the walls and windows. One time I called management and told them to listen as I held the phone to the wall so they would hear it. They thought it was in my apartment, it was that loud. I swear I had elephants living above me - constant stomping, banging, slamming. It was unbearable. I even went to one neighbor to ask them to turn down their music and they wouldn't come to the door. The neighbors next to my livingroom wall/front door would always store their bikes and crap by my front door. Management told them to not do that because they wanted the complex to look nice, but it only got worse after that. I could never walk into or out of my apartment without some obstacle course being set up in front of it. Their kids started throwing things at my door and at my sliding glass door. They started throwing trash onto my patio. Someone keyed up my car. The neighbor that parked in the space on the driver's side of my car, began to park his car in my space and do work on it. He started throwing trash into my space and on my car. I moved to my current apartment complex two years ago and when I did (I am on the bottom floor with two apartments above me and an apartment on each side) I had the upstairs neighbors from hell. They would have parties at all hours, have kids running around, stomping. I could hear them having sex. They would vacuum and hammer starting at 11 at night! My family and I made up stories about them saying that they must be knocking holes in the walls and burying bodies in them. Finally they moved out and now I have a neighbor up there that I rarely ever hear, but all of a sudden last night when I went to use the restoom at 11 p.m. (I couldn't help it. I had to go and I didn't even flush), she starts banging on the wall! I am a very quiet person and try not to make noise out of the ordinary. Maybe I should start wearing diapers. I don't want to have any issues with this person. She moved in only a couple of months ago. I am going to make sure that the next place I move to is single storied. I wish I could buy a house, but I have friends that have houses and have neighbor issues as well. I need to find a deserted island.

A couple just moved in next

#79459 On Monday, June 02, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

A couple just moved in next to my apartment. They do really noisy sex. It's really annoying. Especially when they do it in the shower together. My apartment is next door to their bathroom. I'm in favor of sex decorum. Do these people have no shame?

Record it, post a copy of

#79884 On Thursday, June 19, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Record it, post a copy of the CD on their door and say that you will be posting it on the internet and cash in on it if they don't cut it out. This is a win/win situation. It is legal since the noise is coming into your apartment. If you want my honest opinion, sounds to me like you may be jealous. Perhaps get a partner or start laughing super loud when they do it. Perhaps they will feel a bit ridiculous about it and stop. I doubt they will stop. People have been doing it since the dawn of time. I would much rather that noise come into my apartment than the bass noise I hear from my neighbors. Try buying a house or move.

I THOUGHT THAT I WAS THE

#79429 On Saturday, May 31, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I THOUGHT THAT I WAS THE ONLY ONE WITH THE NOISE PROBLEM,I HAVE A COUPLE NEXT TO MY BEDROOM THAT PRACTIZE SEX ALL DAY AND I HEAR THEM PLUS THE SQEEKY BED THEY DONT WORK,A COUPLE THAT MOVED UPSTAIRS THAT STUMPWALK LIKE ELEPHANTS I HEAR WHEN THEY ARE HAVING SEX AND THEIR SQEEKY BED ALSO,I GOT A LAWYER AND HE IS GOING TO HELP ME BRAKE THE LEASE FOR MEDICAL REASONS,MEDICAL REASON IS THE ONLY WAY I CAN BREAK IT,WHEN IT COMES TO NOISE NO BODY CARES TO HELP YOU ,BUT IF YOU ARE VERY ILL AND HAVE PROOF YOU CAN DO IT,I KNOW HOW SOME OF YOU FEEL,I ALSO WANT TO BLOW THEIR HEADS BUT I RATHER MOVE THAN SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE BEHIND BARS,I COMPLAIN TO THE UPSTAIRS COUPLE BUT NOW THE STUMPING IS WORST,I REPORT IT TO MY LANDLORD AND TOLD ME THERE IS NOTHING HE CAN DO BECAUSE THE BUILDING IS NOT SOUND PROOF JAJA WHAT A JOKE,I WILL BE LIVING MY SECURITY KNOWING THAT IS NOT GOINNG TO BE RETURNED.

Do they know it is bothering

#79885 On Thursday, June 19, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Do they know it is bothering you and are you being polite when asking them to stop? I have had sex with my boyfriend and assume nobody can hear it unless someone tells me. Personally if I knew that I would tone it down or make provisions because I like my sex life private. Perhaps your neighbors do too.

Just a thought.

I HAVE THE KIDS FROM HELL

#79281 On Wednesday, May 21, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I HAVE THE KIDS FROM HELL OUTSIDE MY BUILDING FOR COUNTLESS HOURS DAILY.WE LIVE IN A SIX FAMILY APARTMENT BUILDING IN BROOKLYN IN WHICH NONE OF THEM ARE TENNANTS.YOU HAVE TO STEP OVER THEM AT TIMES TO GET IN & OUT OF THE BUILDING.THE NEIGHBOR KID HAS A BASKETBALL HOOP IN HIS DRIVEWAY JUST FEET FROM MY KITCHEN WINDOW.HE BRINGS 15 OR 20 OTHER KIDS FROM OTHER BLOCKS AND ALL THEY DO IS SCREAM AND USE FILTHY LANGUAGE CONSTANTLY.YOU CAN'T PARK YOU CARE ANY WHERE NEAR WHERE YOU LIVE OR THEY WILL DAMAGE YOUR CAR.MY WIFE IS A CANCER PATIENT & PARENTS WERE INFORMED BUT DO NOTHING.IS THERE ANY WAY I CAN BRING A LAW SUIT AGAINST THESE PEOPLE?OVER THE WINTER THEY TRIED TO BREAK MY WINDOW.POLICE WERE CALLED AND NOTHING HAPPENS.THE OLD STORY "THEY'RE JUST KIDS" CRIMMINALS START OUT AS SO CALLED KIDS.

Thanks for the comments... I

#79271 On Wednesday, May 21, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Thanks for the comments... I live in NYC and moved from a beautiful upper west side apartment to another area of Manhattan becasue the rent was much cheaper... big mistake... I am surrounded on 3 sides by neighbors and the walls are paper thin... i can hear everything and anything my neighobors do and i cannot sleep at night... I walk around like a zombie and have now developed stomach problems becasue of the anxiety and misery this crappy apartment has caused... I have lived thorugh this hell for the past 5 months and have 6 months to go on the lease... i am not sure if i can make it... i feel like I am going to have an ulcer and/or a breakdown from lack of sleep and insanity... I have spent hundreds of dollars in doctor's visits and sleep medications, ear plugs, white noise machines etc... i have spoken to my neighbors but they don't care... i cannot believe how inconsiderate people are... knowing that the walls are bad, i am always careful to shut closet doors and drawers quietly... i even walk so as to not bother my neighbors... now, i am not so considerate... however, i am not abusive as I would not want to become someone i am not... anyway, thanks for letting me get this off my chest... hopefully, we all can get some peace and quiet soon...

My boyfriend and I just

#79251 On Monday, May 19, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

My boyfriend and I just recently moved into a new apartment. We really love the place exept for our noisy first floor neighbors. They moved in just a few days before we did so they are new to the bulding as well. Unfortunately I have not met the neighbors yet so I feel bad complaining to them but the noise has gotten out of control. They listen to VERY loud club music with pulsating base at all hours of the day/night. I mean we live ABOVE them and the noise is out of control. To make matters worse its not only their music that we hear. This couple below us takes loud sex noises to a whole new level. And its not just noises. They scream out the most obscence things I have ever heard and I am no prude. We have tried to ignore it and drown it out with other things but nothing seems to work. Worst of all there are children in the building who are being subjected to all of this profanity. Last night the "noise" went on until 2 AM. My boyfriend gets up for work at 5 AM. Needless to say he hasn't been sleeping well putting a strain on his work and our relationship. I need help on how I should approach the situation without upsetting our new neighbors. I have always gotten along well with my previous neighbors and was hoping for the same here. Any advive would be greatly appreciated.

I have exactly the same

#80049 On Friday, June 27, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I have exactly the same problem. The idiot below us has been driving my wife and I insane. We lived in our apartment for a year - no incidents. Then this guy moves in and this whole year has been a nightmare. The same thing: thunderous club music all day and all night. I have to get up early for work too and my wife usually returns from work around one in the morning. I am convinced that this person has no employment. He NEVER LEAVES HIS APARTMENT. I see him rarely bring in groceries and beer but that's it. His stupid ass SUV is in the same spot for weeks on end. Every single day sounds like a wild party. He is obviously not a human being. Everyone likes music but no one can listen to music all day long - THE SAME BEAT AT THE SAME LOUD LEVEL?????

There are random period of quiet but you got to really listen for them. 95% of my time in the apartment that I pay for from the sweat of my brow is spent listening to another person's music against my will. My wife and I work hard to get a decent place and this noisy hermit recently got a brand new car. F@$# THAT!!!

Here's the worst part: we think he's a rapper. Or at least, he tries. I would rather have a musician for a neighbor. A musician gets tired after so many hours practicing and in the case of the guy who lives below me - a real artist would show some improvement. I actually put my ear to the floor one day just to make out what was being said: HE SUCKS! HE'S WORST THAN THE MOST GENERIC PIECE OF GARBAGE EVER MADE.

We tried confrontation, landlord, police, stomping the floor - nothing. Worse: son of a bitch knocks back and turns his crap up even louder. Its not even the volume. Its the bass that kills us. The apartment actually shakes most times and on several occassions, our collectibles have fallen off the shelves. If anything breaks, I will sue his ass!

Help! I need a bit of

#79188 On Thursday, May 15, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Help! I need a bit of advice please! I recently moving into a new place (second floor) and my neighbors below are complaining about the noise. Here's the situation...I have the chance to see my boyfriend about once every two weeks. We both work a ton and at night as well. While I don't want to disrupt my neighbors on a nightly basis(and am not), I also want the chance to be with my boyfriend on the one night that we have together. Is one night every two weeks too much to ask? Am I really being that inconsiderate? I respect their home and family but also want to be able to live my life , even if it's only once every two weeks. Advice please!

Sure, have sex. But freakin

#80853 On Wednesday, July 23, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Sure, have sex. But freakin be quiet! There is no need to scream and yell. You live in an apartment, so be considerate of all around you. It's just rude to force others to listen to your sex noises, no matter how rare it is. Honestly, I'd have to say that sex noises are worse than loud music. Sex is something that should be intimate, why scream and yell so loud that the whole neighborhood hears it?! It's just SO rude.

I am renting a 3 room studio

#79113 On Monday, May 12, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I am renting a 3 room studio apartment in New Jersey. I live on the second floor of a 3 story walk up.Living in this apartment is pure hell! I have rude upstairs neighbors that are driving me up the wall.When I signed the lease I did not know there was a influx of foreign speaking day laborers renting the apartment above me.I am not a racist person, but this is crazy.There is about 6-7 people living in the 3 bedroom apartment. Every day there is some kind of disturbance.Starting 8 am daily they blast -------- music and play the same dumb song over and over again.They run,stomp, gallop,wrestle,play golf and constantly drop heavy objects on the cheap hardwood floors. My kitchen ceiling rattles because they wear clogs, heels and cowboy boots and walk back and forth between the rooms several times per day.When I came home from work tonite they had loud music playing and singing along with their karaoke machine on full volume.They have their surround sound tv on bass almost ever night.The foot traffic in this apartment is ridiculous.People coming in and out several times per day laughing and screaming in the hallway.The landlord knows there are many people living upstairs but he does not care as long as he gets his rent check. I am quite sure they pay extra rent because of all the extra friends living in this apartment.Evey time I turn around there is a different face living there. It reminds me of a flop house.My lease is not up until next year and I can not afford to move yet.I can't stand this anymore.I am working on my college degree and I am not getting any peace to study.I have talked to the management and to the landlord and all they say is "I will speak to them". Yeah, whatever.They live in nice houses with peace and quiet.Why should they care? I live underneath a war zone.

Try contacting the city's

#79944 On Sunday, June 22, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Try contacting the city's building inspector and have them come over for a look. Most cities have an ordinance as to how many people can live in a single apartment without it being considered a hazard. Next, find a copy of your lease and remind your landlord that your right to a peaceful home, etc. is stated in the lease (many standard leases have these provisions listed) and that this is a clear violation of your lease. You are also within your rights to sue your neighbors for nuisance. Document everything, make sure you keep meticulous records of the measures you have taken to try to bring this to a halt. If available, contact a local tenant's organization and they can help guide you in the right direction. Good luck, hope this helps.

I live on the first floor of

#79099 On Saturday, May 10, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I live on the first floor of seven stories. The elevator going up and down doesn't bother me, but the slender woman who lives above me walks back and forth (or stomps back and forth) all evening and night long. She's go to bed around 1am every night. I think she is bipolar. I am getting ready to report her. I can't imagine what you can do that requires you to walk back and forth all night long, and sound like you are dropping boxes or wrestling.

Amen, my brother...I know

#79152 On Tuesday, May 13, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Amen, my brother...I know just how annoying the constant stomping and 'box-dropping' can be...the chick above me can't weigh more than 110 lbs if that, and she sounds like an elephant most of the time, and you just wonder what can you possibly be dropping constantly from room to room...bathroom, kitchen, bedrooms, living room, etc, etc. I live on the 1st floor myself, and I really studied my foot traffic one weekend, and even on the Saturday I was busy cleaning and doing laundry I'll bet I didn't half as much in that weekend as she does in a 1/2 of a single day...it was far worse when she had the sister and unemployed husband there as well, but luckily they moved out...but then she moved in the friend and party-girl who would come in at 1am with her high heels on, waking everybody up below and then she got back up at 6am to go to work, with high heels once again...I thought I would end up killing somebody up there when she lived there...but luckily again, the party-girl moved and the girl is alone up there, but she herself sometimes is enough to wake the dead, and I find I am always on edge whenever she makes more than the usual commotion up there for fear she might be moving somebody else in...ain't the greatest way to live...

I can really identify with

#80079 On Saturday, June 28, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I can really identify with your problem, I live on the second floor and my neighbor above me is the tenant from hell she walks like an elephant yet she dosen't weigh very much. She is the nosiest person I have ever had to live under and she is the third person so far. there are hardwood floors up there and every movent she makes is torture for me, Oh and the various sex partners really makes me mad because It's like listening to a porn show and hearing the bed thump over my head. worse part is hearing her cum, it is entirely too much information for me she drops things all day it seems and what sane person drags their furniture across the floor daily or hang quilts and rugs over the balcony where it can obstruct my view. I have really wanted to set fire to whatever is hanging in my line of vision so many times. I hate to be the one to move because this is a great neighborhood and I am at a loss here.

My boyfriend and I have

#79067 On Wednesday, May 07, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

My boyfriend and I have upstairs neighbors who are in a very dysfunctional relationship. They fight constantly. All I can hear is her screaming and swearing at him. Occasionally, he yells back. Last night, she must have locked him out on the back porch, because for about a half hour, all I could hear was loud, angry knocking. At first I thought someone was hammering, then I realized it was him pounding on the door.

They also walk with very heavy feet. All I hear is thump...thump...thump...thud...CRASH! Shakes the light fixtures. It gets worse when they're fighting. Last night, I swear they were picking eachother up and slamming eachother back down to the ground. We thought maybe there were kids upstairs, or a big dog. But there are no kids, and I think they do have a dog; however, I've heard it barking and it sounds like a small dog.

I was talking to my next-door neighbor and she told me she'd already complained about them multiple times, and the management doesn't really do anything about it. Oh well. We're moving in a few weeks, anyway!

I can so relate to this.

#80795 On Sunday, July 20, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

I can so relate to this. THe people above us are a younger couple who all they do is FIGHT! I never knew people could fight like they do. Its ridiculous. I have gone out there yelled at them, and told them to shut up. The language they use to each other is not normal. If anyone called me the names and said what they've said to each other I would be ticked. Whats worse is my children have to listen to this. We hope to have a house soon and get out of here. Now the new problem is they were supposedly friends with the guy across the hall but all heck has broken loose with that relationship so now they all are fighting. Hopefully they will be evicted soon...I can't take much more.

It's just incredible how

#79428 On Saturday, May 31, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

It's just incredible how annoying noise from above in an apartment can be. The guy above me has no carpeting, even though I complained to him six months ago and he promised to get some. He now has some friends visiting or coming to live with him. The constant stomping, moving of furniture, and what sounds like construction projects is mind-numbing. I live on the Upper West Side of Manhattan and have now gotten management involved.

Oh boy is it nice to read

#78857 On Sunday, May 04, 2008 Guest (not verified) said,

Oh boy is it nice to read some of these stories. My own story is a cakewalk in comparison, but I thought I would share. I live in an upstairs unit with a neighbor below and on each side. The neighbor closest to my kitchen makes the usual annoying noise, slamming cabinets, shower doors, but its not hard to live with. I only had one issue with the neighbor who faces by living room. He had purchased a new flat screen TV and for three days, my walls shook. I finally approached him as we both were leaving and asked him if he recently upgraded his TV. He told me he had and I kindly asked him to keep it down or move it further away from the wall as my walls were vibrating. I haven't heard a peep since and this was six months ago.

My issue has always been with the downstairs neighbor. I have lived the the unit for almost two years and have had two downstairs neighbors.

Neighbor One: Recently divorced male with three children under 12 who visited regularly. Usual noise was the sound of Halo or World of Warcraft causing an earthquake under my feet or the boom of the Disco beat. I felt safe enough to knock on his door no fewer than five times over his 1+ year tenancy to kindly ask him to turn it down. After this, I became a bit angry and would proceed to reenact House of Pain's "Jump Around". He came up to my door, all annoyed asking me "is it really that loud, cause if it is, these apartments are really crappy." I said, yes it is and yes, they are. (Circa 1980's construction with minimal upgrades. Heck, my stove is older than me and I was born in 79).

This neighbor found a girlfriend, thankfully, and started to be absent quite a bit and eventually, moved away.

Current Neighbor (#2). I had a few blissful weeks once Disco Duck moved out until my current neighbors moved in. It seemed to be a very scary, very tall (6'4+) guy (dude never once looked at me or responded to my greetings when we passed) and his very friendly girlfriend. For the first six months, my only issue was slamming the front door, so I left a kind note and she replied with a nice note, advising they would stop that. They did, for the most part. Well, fast forward to now. The creepy boyfriend is gone, because I haven't seen him in about 5 months and my sweet neighbor seems to have taken a job as either a: "prostitute" or "Porn actress/producer". I say this because whenever she is home (thank God she works two jobs), its her and two plus guys (I have never seen or heard another female) listening to loud music, laughing and "whooping" as if their favorite sports team just won. I recently left another note, asking the parties be kept down, no issues for about a week. Tonight was Dance Central. I finally called the apartment security guard at 10PM to have him approach them about keeping it down. We shall see how long it lasts. I signed a month-to-month lease in April and am currently looking to upgrade to a duplex or cottage type rental. Apartments now make me very paranoid.

As an upstairs neighbor, I tread lightly and do not do step aerobics on my neighbors head. I don't slam doors or cabinets. I Listen to loud music on my HEADPHONES. I would not invest in a surround sound theater until I live in a HOUSE. I am at home all the time and try to remain as respectful as possible. It really saddens me that so many people in the world only care about themselves.

Thanks for reading my rant. May all your future neighbors be as quiet as a mouse.

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