Dealing with Bad Neighbors
March 15th, 2006 by aptsherpaYou haven’t gotten any sleep in two weeks because the neighbors above you seem to be part of a marathon, practicing every night by running from their bedroom to the kitchen, the bathroom, the living room, and even down the stairs. And of course, the neighbors on both sides of you are having a competition to see who can drown out the other’s music at 3 in the morning. What about the neighbor whose dog pees all over your patio furniture? What do all of your neighbors have in common? They make your life hell and just renewed their lease for another year. What can you do? Learn how to deal with a bad neighbor.
Now, not all neighbors are bad, but there always seems to be those few that just seem to find their way near your apartment. Of course, if that’s the case, what can you do? Can you break you lease because of a bad neighbor? Well, it depends. Here are a few situations of bad neighbors, our suggestions of how to handle them, and what you have a right to do.
Loud Neighbors:
I live in a bottom apartment and new tenants just moved in above me. The problem I am having is that all day and even up to 12:30 am they are jumping and banging on the floor, the banging is very loud and to the point of giving me a head ache. I have asked them not to be so loud and to consider that they are above other people and to be considerate of this, but as of yet they continue, I am kept up late and woken in my sleep due to the noise. Is there any thing I can do?
Sincerely,
Sleepless Nights
Dear Sleepless Nights,
After some research, the main thing that you need to do is to keep a paper trail.
This being said, there should be a clause in your lease that you should refer to when writing the company you pay rent to. You should mention that you are writing because you have lack of quiet and enjoyment, refer to the clause in your lease, and describe the problem. i.e. the new tenants jump and bang on the floor until 12:30 in the morning.
After you send them a certified letter you should give them a “reasonable amount of time” to respond, which is usually 7-10 days. If your landlord hasn’t taken ANY steps to solving the problem within this time, you have a right to sue them, but you still might not be able to break your lease.
Remember this is not legal advice because we are not a law firm. This is only our recommendation. If you need more help, please contact the Tenant’s Council in your area.
Neighbors with Pets:
There’s a clause on the website that states dogs should be less than 35 lbs and no aggressive dogs would be permitted in the building, but my neighbor has a pit bull. Can I get out of my lease?
Sincerely,
Dog Catcher
Dear Dog Catcher,
If your landlord is aware of your neighbor’s situation and ignoring their policy of having only dogs less than 35 lbs and the prohibition of aggressive dogs, then there are a few things to first consider.
First, you should check your lease to see if it states this clause that you found on the website. If it is in your lease, then you should contact the company you pay rent to and notify them of situation by certified mail, return receipt. This will ensure that your landlord is aware of the animal situation. As a tenant, you are entitled to the name and address of the owner of the company and mangers of the apartment complex.
You must then give the landlord a reasonable amount of time, 7-10 days, to begin solving the problem. After this time, you have a right to sue the landlord and should consult an attorney. Although you have a right to sue, you most likely don’t have the option of breaking your lease.
If after you check you lease, you cannot find the clause that was on the website, your case is not that strong. You will need to prove that there is a health and safety issue from the animal to be able to get out of your lease. Look in your state’s property code to verify that it is considered a health and safety issue. In Texas, it is in Chapter 92 of the Texas Property Code (Code 92.201).
If you are unable still to find this, then you will either have to find a buyout clause in your lease, or deal with your neighbor.
Remember this is not legal advice because we are not a law firm. This is only our recommendation. If you need more help, please contact the Tenant’s Council in your area.
What can I do if the neighbor above me allows their pet to pee all over my patio? It has already ruined my furniture and plants. Can I break my lease?
Smelly Patio
Dear Smelly Patio,
It’s a shame that your neighbor above you appears to be so irresponsible. The first thing you should do is to make sure that your rent is fully paid. If your rent is not fully paid, your landlord has a right to evict you from your apartment, lock you out of your apartment, and does not have to acknowledge your requests.
Once you’ve made sure that your rent if fully paid, you should notify your landlord by certified mail of the fact that the neighbor’s pet above you has ruined your property. This is to keep a paper trail of the situation in case you need to go to court. Your landlord then has 7-10 days to make any action towards a solution.
If your landlord promises to pay you for your furniture, cleaning, etc, be sure that you have your landlord put any promises in writing, with their signature, and a date. With landlord-tenant laws, it is difficult to uphold anything verbal from a landlord, it must be in writing.
If your landlord does not take any action towards a solution to your situation, then you have a right to sue to landlord. However, you might not be able to break you lease. If it comes to this, please consult with the tenant’s council in your area.
Remember this is not legal advice because we are not a law firm. This is only our recommendation. If you need more help, please contact the Tenant’s Council in your area.
The moral to our story is this: Be sure to have a paper trail of everything you give your landlord, give them a reasonable amount of time (7-10 days) to correct the problem, and then, if your landlord hasn’t taken ANY steps to solving the problem within this time, you have a right to sue them. Good luck with your neighbors, remember, you may still have to live with them after the lawsuit, so try not to burn any bridges.
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April 2nd, 2006 at 5:49 pm
I have a problem with my landlord. We are allowed pets in the building and by the lease we have to pick up after our dog, and I do that I have a pooper scooper and use it very well. My pet has been blamed for messing in the hallway on the second floor I live in the first floor which is like a basement apartment so there is no excuse for the mess on the second floor. What I’m trying to say my dog cannot go upstairs because there is not a reason for it going upstairs. Plus, I’ve been accused of my pet messing by the front door which he didn’t. It just seems odd that almost a year ago my landlord told me that my dog urinated in the hallway near my apartment. My apartment is the only apartment on the bi-level in that side of the building. It came to find out their was a flood in the storage area near my apartment on the hallway which ran into my apartment. They blame my dog and I told them there was a flood from the storage area everytime it rains not my dog I should know I take him out and so does my husband. We never see pee. I complain to them about the flood and soak carpet from old water which was getting me sick and they did nothing I land up calling the city of troy building department about and it took eagles landing a month to fix the problem. A few times the inspector called them to like pressuring them to fix the problem. Now after I sign the lease for another year because my husband is unemployed and we don’t have enough money to move out their starting their revenge on us. Their trying to get us evicted because they so say my dog is messing everywhere and they are getting compliants about it so far they gave us violations but what their saying is a lie and I’m sick of this harassment it’s driving me crazy what about peace and enjoyment for me. And I’m not giving up my dog his well behave and had him for 4 years and been living here for over a year. Oh, plus we’re the only ones using the pooper scooper I see no one else. What can I do once eviction procedures go through? Theres other tenants have dogs on both sides of the building.
Being blame for doggie poopoo
April 5th, 2006 at 10:24 am
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April 7th, 2006 at 2:19 pm
I have had problems with nabors keep braking stuff and punching holes in the walls and playing loud music up from 3 am to 3:30 am in the next morning. And the aprtments have garbage all over the place and the toilets are never flushed and human body waste is all over the steps. Please I need a lawyer in coos county oregon.
April 16th, 2006 at 2:39 pm
I live next to a single mother and her noisy child. When the tenants first moved in, they would scream at the top of their lungs and slam doors. I had to call the landlord to get them to realize how loud they were being. It seemed to work but after a couple of months, we would hear crying from the child in the early hours (2-4 in the morning!) and the crying would last for hours and the mother would do nothing to quiet him. It also didn’t help the child’s room was the room next to ours. We again contacted the landlord and sent a letter to the landlord regarding the noise problems. It once again seemed that the problem had been solved but now about a month later again, the child is out of control. It is a very sticky situation because it involves a child but I need sleep none the less and I am about two steps away from taking my neighbor to court. What should my next step be?
Extremely annoyed in Denver
June 27th, 2006 at 11:31 pm
These are all terrible occurrences that I have read on here. I can believe all of it though because I too have been victimized by bad neighbors. It sucks having to live in an apartment. In one building the neighbors seemed to be all night bowlers. I finally had to move out. But my recent story is that all the nice neighbors in my building moved out and idiots moved in. The neighbors across from me are the children of the man who used to live there. He was nice and quiet, however, his sons, from Brazil, are not nice and quiet. They have streams of young men in and out at all hours of the night. They blast their stereo, though not as much since they have been complained about. They have groups of sports enthusiasts and jump around and scream. It’s a mess. They swear all the time loudly in the hallway and in the parking lot. They are disgusting. Then there is the man below them, he leaves his stereo on sometimes for 24 hours intervals with the base pumping. Perhaps it is to retaliate against them, or perhaps it is because he gets drunk and leaves it on. Finally, there are the group of girls living below me. They are in and out all day and all night. Though they live in a two bedroom they manage to fit at least eight people in there if not more. They use the washer and dryer constantly, no one else can ever get to it. They run water all night, showering and whatever else. It is just a shame that in the millenium people act like they were born to crap all over other people’s existances. I see while driving, the lack of consideration for other human life. It sickens me and it’s getting worse. If I was able to do anything about it I would. So far, all I can do is get pissed off.
January 12th, 2007 at 7:26 am
I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MY NEXT DOOR NIEGHBOR WHO IS A DRUNK HE ALWAYS GETS DRUNK AND STARTS CURSING AND THREATNING ME AND MY FAMILY WHEN I CALL THE COPS THEY ALWAYS SAY THER’S NOTHING THEY CAN DO. TO GO TAKE OUT CHARGES SO I DO AND WHEN IT GOES TO COURT THE DRUNK AND THE REST OF HIS FAMILY LIES ABOUT EVERYTHING AND IT GETS THROWN OUT SO I INSTALLED VIDEO CAMARES AND NOW THAT I HAVE HIM ON TAPE THE COPS WON’T LOOK AT THEM AND NEITHER WILL THE COURT IM’ AT MY WIT’S END IM CLOSE TO KILLING THE DRUNK MAYBE IT WILL BE MORE PEICFULL IN JAIL
RMR SAINT PAULS NC ROBESON COUNTY
January 16th, 2007 at 2:14 pm
On my Lease it clearly states no pets allowed. we signed a 2-year lease, exactly 16 months into the lease our old landlord sells the 6 apartment private house. New neighbors moved in with a dog that barks when he hears someone in the hallway and cries when its owner leaves. It’s been 2 days so far and im about to pull my hair out.
Please tell me what can i do, i already called the new landlord and no response yet.
About 2 go bald in NY
January 18th, 2007 at 3:37 pm
Aggressive Dogs, defensive owners, general disrespect, landlord is useless, cops are useless, almost makes you want to take things into your own hands… what kind of society is this? We used to be a community, now we distrust our neighbors, our local law enforcement. Solutions they would have us take would require money and a paper trail, namely hire a lawyer. I don’t know about you but living here, i couldn’t afford a lawyer if i tried… well that, and the lawyer seems to perpetuate the problem. Whatever happened to trying to talk to each other and work it out? I know how difficult that can be, believe me… I try ALL the time!
January 27th, 2007 at 10:47 am
Do you know if there is a “rent control” in the area of Coos County, Oregon? My landlord’s management is raising the rent effective in March. I have tried looking it up on the internet and all I got is the name of members on rent control boards regarding Douglas County.
February 15th, 2007 at 11:50 pm
I’m ready to move out of my apartment today! It’s not that I hate my complex it’s that I have one horrible, disrespectful neighbor who is ruining life here for everyone! I live on the third (top) floor of my apartment and he lives on the first floor directly below me but with a floor inbetween us. well… he plays his music all night long and all day. he smokes in the hallways all the time and he blastes his car stereo all the time. No one in our complex can ever get any sleep and my apartment always smells like smoke even though I do not smoke at all! I and some of my other neighbors have complained to the landlord and we’ve called our apartment security but nothing is being done. I don’t know what else to do but it’s horrible. It’s so stressful to live here and come on… I pay just as much rent as that jerk! Does anyone have any advice for me? Please help!
February 21st, 2007 at 1:36 pm
This one may be odd…I have a problem with my neighbor complaining about me all of the time. The thing is, she lies and makes up stories or exaggerates. I am not a particulary loud person and I have lived in the building for almost 6 years with no complaints. I moved apartments a few months ago because my apartment began to have terrible leaks and mold had formed. I live in a high-rise and her bedroom is right next to my living room. She has complained since I first moved in, saying I was banging on the walls at 1 am ( a flat out lie..that is rude and dumb, and I am neither). She complaines that I smoke in my own home (cigarettes). She complained that I was on the phone on my patio and she could hear me (she has her windows wide open and her bed right next to my living room). She actually accused me once of going onto her patio and dumping cigarette butts and leaving a dirty towel. She has complained about my radio, in the middle of the afternoon, and it was not loud, just on. She has a history of complaining about neighbors, and until recently management has simply yessed her but not taken her seriously. I recently took in a rescue dog, full grown, trained and 5 lbs. The dog was abused and has some issues, and yes, she has been barking a little while I am gone. It’s only been a little more than a week, but the neighbor has complained even when the dog is not in the building ( I take her to a friends when I have to work a long day). A few nights ago I got stuck at work late and the dog was barking. Now, I understand that it is annoying and I am sorry about it, but until I got home, there was nothing I could do. I was in my apartment about a minute, trying to calm the dog (I have never seen her so upset) when my neighbor began pounding on the wall so hard that the crystal on my hutch was shaking. My friend and I were shocked and astonished. I expect she had been banging on the wall all night and upsetting the dog even more. I am a very passive person and I do not deal with aggressive at all if I can help it…I call the police. I ran into my neighbor in the hall yesterday and she started to say something about the dog. I cut her off and calmly said “if you pound on my walls again I will call the police”. She started to raise her voice to me and I just went into my apartment. Later, I went to walk the dog and the doorman told me she said I threatened her. I spoke to the office today and they said she complained that I threatened her and made her feel unsafe. Funny how she turned that one around. Now, my lease situation is a little sticky. The building recently went dog free, but some leases are grandfathered in. Mine is unclear, but since I had a cat before the new regulations, I had not initialed the section on pet rules and my landlord had. Also, the lease says nothing about “no dogs”. I am a conciderate tenent and I would not have gotten a dog if I thought for a minute that dogs were no longer allowed. There are a few dogs in the building, and as far as my lease states pets must only be okayed by the landlord. The landlord didn’t exactly okay the dog, but didn’t actually say I couldn’t have her either. Now, the office is saying I might have to get rid of the dog if neighbor keeps complaining, even though she has a history of lying. I am not sure if I have any leg to stand on here. Can you advise please?
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March 23rd, 2007 at 11:53 am
I have problems with a tenant in my apt building. They are knocking on my door at 4:00 am in the night. I have tried to catch them. My landlord said hat I have to see them in order for them to do anything about it. They are making my life a living hell on earth. Do you know how I can stop this?
March 27th, 2007 at 8:18 pm
I am being harrassed by my neighbors. I dont know what my rights are and if i could take them to court. Since the day my boyfriend and i moved in they would put notes on our door as complaints. I had no problem with her and when i saw her i was polite and it was fine. She has a few kids and her family with kids is visiting and for one week i felt there was a daycare below me. They would run around the house and the house is old it would shake. i put a note on the door. nothing changed. i called the landlord to complain. he contacted the woman. i found out afterwards the woman was out of town and her mother was watching the children and she doesnt speak ENGLISH! ok saturday nite 11pm she knocks on my apt i wasnt home my boyfriend answered and she accused him of stealing her mail and that she didnt get her mail since she was away. 2 days later my boyfriend and i had a flood in the bathroom the toilet overflowed. the grandmother knocked on the door and since she didnt speak english my boyfriend brought her upstairs to demonstrate what happened and that he was fixing it. the water leaked into their apt. she like didnt want to leave my home it was crazy but she finally got out. everything was fine with the toilet and a few hours later i woke up in the nite and flushed the toilet went back in my bed and heard LOUD banging on my door. so i called the cops. i didnt have any flood in my bathroom and i was scared didnt know why they were banging. i mean banging like bloody murder. my boyfriend had to get up a few hours later for work he got no sleep after that. i barely got any sleep. i am so tired. the cops came they mediated and told her to call the landlord in the morning. this woman is crazy she tells the landlord we are doing this on purpose he could see she is crazy. but what is my rights i am being harrassed. i really want to take them to court i am scared to come in and out of the house. they even tainted the childrens mind by having them harrass us accusing us of stealing the mail. i feel like also if she keeps showing how mental she and her mother are how fit are they to take care of the children. i am a social worker and i just feel if it continues this insanity either i have to take them to court or i am going to report them to CPS. please help with any feedback.
April 1st, 2007 at 3:00 am
Try using a web or surveillance camera and record the video of the people knocking.
April 14th, 2007 at 4:50 am
Your neighbor is far from perfect in this situation but it seems like you are unwilling to handle or even fully aknowledge the concerns of your neighbor. A, I’m sorry but… attitude will not solve anything.
You may be surprised to find that your neighbor is just as astonished as you are regarding the noise from the dog. Afterall, how is it that you determined that your dog is “barking a little while” in your absence? The dogs behavior may be worse than you have seen. If one cannot control a pet then it is not the neighbors burden to suffer just like it is unfair for her to bang on your walls and disturbe your privacy.
Unfortunately, this situation is a two way street and it’s clear that you and your neighbor have a divide in opinion and the only way to resolve these inter neighbor issues is for both of you to make some sacrifices. Complaining about the radio in the afternoon or phone conversations during the day is rubish. Shared wall living has SOME sacrifices and people must realize that when living in complex but there are definately clear boundaries on what is acceptable and what is not.
I would say the first step is up to you since you are the one who has introduced the yappy dog. If she persists on complaining, then fight fire with fire and keep track of all her loud behavior.
Chris
May 28th, 2007 at 4:41 am
Sister lives in state of GA. in a low income apartment complex. She is on disability. She has lived there for 13 years. Has not had any problem expect for maybe the last two years after a new neighbor moved in and new mangament. Her neighbor has filed harrassment charges against her. She said she called her names and harrassed her. I am not saying my sister did not do that.She is a diabetic and sometimes when her blood sure is low she will say things that she does not remember. But this neighbor has told her and others that she was going to get her kicked out. Starting oout she went to my sister and others complaining that they needed to cut down their shrubs because they were dying and did not look good and they needed to plant new ones. Well some people did that to get along with her. My sister did not because she is on a limited budget. She harrassed her about her dog. She would say that she did not scoop up the dogs doings. But the other neighbors know that she does. There is not a leash law in the area and other dogs go in the complex. But the manager will take the side of the neighbor everytime. Now she is being evicted. I do not think it is fair. As far as the complex her apartment has not been painted in the whole 13 years she has lived there. When something messed up she would wait for days for it to be fixed. And she put up with all those things and now she has no where to go. All the stress has made her medical problems worse. Can anything be done?
July 21st, 2007 at 5:27 pm
Problem with illegal parking in front of my house
hi I have a problem w/ my Neighbors. who always block our driveway & doorway. &
they throw their garbage in front of our door like soda can etc. try to run me down w/ their car esp. if I call parking authority, they join forces to hurt me bec. of the parking ticket,destroy the tiles of my balcony if i’m not home
I told them in a nice way many times but still they don’t listen. they think they own the whole road esp. the sidewalk in front of our house garage door/ main door. It’s hard to live in a house if your by yourself & your asian & you look very young than your expected age.
ps. help
thanks
graham girl
August 23rd, 2007 at 8:30 pm
I have a big argument my tenant has a boyfriend who is in the lease, he is very disrespectful and he said bad words to me. We had a big argument yesterday, and I want to know what can I do aobutit. I called the policy , but they did not do anything. The poslice just said if anything else happen call me again, but you do not have any othe rights. Do you think I can go to the court and ask for anny legal rights.
August 27th, 2007 at 1:50 am
I have a neighbor who insists on leaving the back security door on the apartment building (16 units) open. Someone tried to break into my downstairs neighbor and my place. Still, she won’t shut the door. I’ve asked her and she goes crazy (I think there’s something wrong with her) and says she can’t breathe with it shut. I’ve complained to the manager about it by phone (4 times) and by letter. He asked if I would testify in court, I said I would, but there’s been no movement to get her to shut it and when I do it, it’s like a game, she instantly opens it. It’s maddening.
Is my landlord in violation of anything? Doesn’t he HAVE to do something if one tenant is putting the rest of us in danger??
August 29th, 2007 at 10:09 pm
Wow…after reading some of these things, I guess my lousy, behind on the rent, disrespectful, tenant is not so bad. He’s one of those type of people that always has what he thinks is a witty comment about everything, when in reality he is a social moron that has not a friend in the world.
September 2nd, 2007 at 7:44 pm
The problem with noise in most apartment buildings originates from poorly constructed buildings that are not sound proof well. Second, landlords should do background checks on all prospective tenants before renting to them because if the prospective tenants were fighters, noisy and caused other problems in the previous apartment,etc., the landlord shouldn’t rent to them. On the topic of kids/pets: Most apartment buildings are not conducive for children and pets living in them unless the building is soundproof and large like a condo complex. Residents with pets are responsible for keeping the apartment and hallway clean and free of poop! As for human waste on the steps or anywhere else in a building, etc there are city and state ordinances to prevent this. Just call the authorities if the tenants and landlord don’t comply or just move out!
September 21st, 2007 at 7:24 pm
Hi Graham -
I hear you loud and clear! Been there, done that - and it’s not fair that young women (esp. very young looking women) should be “dumped” on (no pun intended). The best you can do is document, document, document. Get a digital camera/video camera. You can tape outside (I think) as long as you are only filming your own property. If needed, call the police, but be careful - some people are dangerous idots who will retaliate against you.
And hang in there! Find other people in the neighborhood who will support you - if you can find an older man (60s and older) who’s been in the neighborhood for a long time, he can be a great help to you.
Good luck!
September 25th, 2007 at 8:43 pm
Our new neighbors are driving us crazy! My husband and I moved into our apartment 5 months ago,and we really thought it was our dream place. That was until new neighbors moved in above us. So far, we’ve had to dealing with daily (or actually nightly) noise, including pounding, stomping, slamming the interior and exterior doors, shouting, what sounds like furniture being moved and dropped, loud music/TV, and hammering. This usually begins around 10 PM and continues until 2 or 3 AM–every single night. Then things really got bad–they got a puppy. The puppy has pooped and peed all over their balcony, which is not a solid surface, but is wooden slats, so the urine and feces have rained down all over our balcony below theirs. The whole situation has been going on for 2 months, and we’ve complained to the landlord 7 times in writing, but nothing has changed. The landlord says there is nothing they can do b/c we are the only ones who have complained. The fact the no one else lives below these people (and is therefore not subject to their floor/ceiling noise or the raining poop and pee seems to mean little to the landlord). We cannot sleep, and now we cannot use the balcony–and we are being charged extra for a balcony apartment! Any advice?
September 27th, 2007 at 10:31 am
My upstairs neighbor takes baths in the middle of the night, and passes out with the water running. Her tub overflows, and she doesn’t wake up until the water pours through her floor, through my ceiling, onto my bed and in my closet, and I have to wake up & run upstairs in the middle of the night, wake her up(which sometimes takes 15 minutes of pounding and yelling) and then begin the cleaning process, which takes about 8 hours of mopping and doing laundry. This has occurred 4 times in the past 9 months. My ceiling is ruined, my bed is stained, my lights shorted out, and I wake up in the middle of the night constantly now.
I am at my wits end with this person.
September 27th, 2007 at 9:47 pm
Collect up the crap and collect the pee into cans. Then smash the window of the clueless fuckers car(s) and leave them a little present. Make sure to pour the pee directly on the carpets and seats, and grind the crap into their floorboards.
Or easier:
Just kill them. I would, and have no remorse. I’d sleep like a baby with a huge smile on my face.
October 3rd, 2007 at 11:13 pm
Four times is enough. It is past time to complain to your landlord and explain the situation. If you have a good landlord they will understand that not only do they have a tenant who is completely unsatisfied with where they live and have grounds to sue, but they must also now deal with the cost of repairing the building for severe water damage and a very possible safety issue.
If you cannot get a response from your landlord, then a Tenants’ Rights committee in your neighborhood or out and out legal representation may be the route you’ll need to take.
October 3rd, 2007 at 11:28 pm
Why are you still living there? There comes a point when the only option you have is to move away. All of the things you mentioned combine into a huge mess that isn’t worth tolerating. What kind of apartment has human waste?!?! That’s completely illegal! I wish people would take time to educate themselves about these things! Take control of your own situation even if you can’t control others’. Move out.
October 10th, 2007 at 10:31 am
I LOVE TRAILERS
October 11th, 2007 at 6:07 pm
Call the police…most cities have noise ordinances and will respond after ten pm if the noise is so loud that it is affecting the building…after three calls they get pissed and they tend to not be so nice after that. they will site them and ticket if it continues…just remember that you should have them give you a copy of all paperwork concerning the issue and speak with the complex on the next business day so they are informed of your actions…that tends to make them like you a little more…if it doesnt stop and if you have several reports from the police then you can request a transfer and they should accomodate you as you have taken the right steps. good luck!
October 11th, 2007 at 6:11 pm
I have a problem with a neighbor that might be clinically insane…maybe a multiple personality…she has been seen wearing obscene clothing in the areas around our buliding and cursing loudly to herself…the other day my husband and i returned home with our two small kids to find her standing in front of our apartment…the office asked her and she denied being there…we saw her with our own two eyes! staring into our sliding glass door from just feet away….what can we do? i need to keep her away from my kids and she is always watching people…not to mention that she watches me way to closely…any suggestions?? worried in FL you can email to cheraerae at yahoo dot com
October 16th, 2007 at 8:12 am
Hon, please contact your local PD and keep contacting them, they have the ability to enforce a psychiatric evaluation if the problem becomes dire. As for her actions, you must video tape them, this gives you irrefutable proof of her stalking like behavior and that is necessary for any type of progress to be made. Also contact your local Dept. of Health and Human services they have people who can help you if she really is schizo or wowrse.
October 22nd, 2007 at 11:52 pm
My husband and I along with our 8 yr old son have lived in this same apartment for two yrs now. Never once has anyone in or around the building complained about us being noisy. We got along with all our neighbors and stuck to ourselves. We also have always paid the rent on time. Now all the sudden there are issues being addressed by our landlord stating that we are being evicted because they are getting complaints that we are being too noisy and that our house is a mess. Our landlords’ even hung out with us pretty many times in the past and never once said anything about the house being messy. This seemed to all have started when my son and another child weren’t seeing eye to eye. One of the neighbors did not like it so she called the landlord on us and complained. According to the landlord though this is not the reason we are being evicted. I’m confused and bewildered as to what’s happening here. Nothing has changed since we moved in. It’s not like we have parties or the properties damaged.If anything we hear noises coming from our neighbors above us that have three kids but we aren’t the type to complain. We have a child also so we can understand the noise. The neighbors around here have been acting rude towards us also lately which doesn’t make sense. I honestly can’t make sense of the whole thing. Also there is mold growing in our apartment and the landlord has done nothing about it. They told us that we have thirty days to leave the premises but i’m 6 months pregnant and i thought by law they are suppose to give more time then that. Does anyone know what rights that us tenants have here in Pennsylvania?? Please any advice would be helpful
November 12th, 2007 at 1:55 am
WHat do you do about cats running all night above you? I NEED my sleep.
November 14th, 2007 at 9:10 pm
I was threatened by my buildings superintendent (a large building:in NEW YORK) and 6 of his drunken house guests at my apartment door way. I have complained to the building management previously about his drunken loud parties and and even called the police several times but to NO avail Now what can i Do? this is the superintendent of the building that is throwing the parties and threatening me???? and Management and police are not doing anything they even took me into custody after one time i called the police on him and he told them a bunch of lies along with his drunken guests and it was a case of him having witnesses and i not having any so it didnt matter he and his guests were sloshed and i was just trying to get some sleep after a long days work…please some advice here can i sue the management? who is responsible ????
November 20th, 2007 at 9:29 pm
I have a problem with a family who I feel is discriminating against me. The home is older with wood floors and everyone hears eachother’s movements about their respective apartments. I’ve been asked repeatedly to turn down music which is not even the slightest bit loud. It can barely be heard outside my bedroom even w/ the door open. I feel helpless especially because my neighbors’ developmentally disabled son screams at the top of his lungs, slams doors, and stomps up and down on the floor on a regular basis. I learned to tune it all out until now. Now I’m utterly shocked and upset because I think they expect complete silence all around them without even affording me the same opportunity. To top it all off, the complaints come in the middle of the afternoon… I don’t want to be unreasonable but I know the music isn’t loud so I refuse to turn it down. What should I do?
November 27th, 2007 at 9:32 am
I have lived in my apartment 8 years, it was nice and quiet till the neighbor from Hell moved in across the hall. They slam there door every time they go in or out and people coming and going all the time and she hangs her clothes to dry in the hall way,( yes underwear for every one to see!) Last summer I heard some one yelling out side my window talking on a cell phone, so I went and looked and some woman started yelling at me till my b-friend went to window, well it was my niegbors boyfriends wife…..Duh to date a married man. The neighbor has a attitude with me now cuz I told thw wife where her husband was …ha ha. I really hope to move soon!!!
December 7th, 2007 at 2:42 pm
I have a nice studio apartment,but the neighbors are causing me anxiety.Neighbor across the hall chain smokes and the smoke is seeping into my apt.The hallway smells bad now.He feels the need to slam his door every time he goes in or out of his apt.The upstairs neighbors blast music,stereo’s and tv’s all the time.They stomp,run,wear clogs and have to many people coming in and out of the apt.My closet is underneath their stairway.The door to each apt is only about 2 feet distance. This apartment has cheap construction and horrible hardwood floors that creak everywhere you go. Kitchen tiles are cheap and cause sound to travel from upstairs apt.I want to move, but can’t afford to.What is a person to do?
December 16th, 2007 at 4:04 pm
I LIVE IN A DUPLEX.WELL WE HAVE NEW PEOPLE LIVING NEXT DOOR FROM US. I MEAN THEY PUT THEIR TV SO LOUD ALL DAY AND NIGHT. I TOLD HIM 3 TIMES BUT ITS STILL THE SAME.IT COMES RIGHT INTO OUR LIVING ROOM. AND UPSTAIRS TV IS BAD I CAN HEAR EVERY WORD THE TV IS SAYING.I LIVED HERE FOR 6 MONTHS. TOLD THE LANDLORD WHAT A JOKE. U CAN EVEN HEAR THEM TALK VERY CHEAP WALLS. SO NOW WE GOT TO MOVE ITS WAY TO MUCH STRESS. I WANT TO STAY BECAUSE THE SCHOOLS ARE GOOD. WHEN I MOVE IM TELLING HIM OFF.
December 20th, 2007 at 7:58 am
It’s long but PLEASE READ!
I live in a bottom apartment where the neighbors above me play loud music and have done so since I’ve moved in about 6 months ago.
Initially I just asked him to turn it down and he did but returned the next day to do the same thing. Not only does he blast music but he has friends over to play dominoes, yes dominoes late at night yelling and jumping up in down in excitment over the game which keeps me from sleeping peacefully.
His roommate constantly sweeps their trash from their balcony onto my parking space and this includes broken beer bottles…and last but not least someone has been vandalizing my car (i assume it’s the neighbors) they put cigarettes and ashes on it and seem to be pouring some type of liquid on it, this occurs atleast once a week.
I’ve explained my issues to the realty company (apt owner) and he told me to make noise complaints which I have tried. the guy (my loud neighbor) has even been cited for the noise and continues to play his music extremely loud…he doesn’t care!
Last night was the last straw, he had his friends over for dominoes. They didn’t start with the noise until after midnight. Awakened by it my bf decides to make the usual noise complaint by this time it was 3 am…after the policeman show up and leave the guy decides to come down and warn us not to make any more complaints about him since he’s only trying to have a good time playing dominoes with his friends…I’m seeking legal advice currently I MUST break this lease, legally of course!
Wait! I haven’t even mentioned the repairs that were supposed to be made before I moved in and have yet to be fixed…among them is mold on the bathroom ceiling and the heat doesn’t work properly.
I am a college student and I feel like this is my disadvantage, I think the realty co. owner is a con artist and cares nothing about the complexes he owns or the people in them. The only reason why I moved into this hell hole was because in this college town finding an apartment is like winning the lottery…there are so many people and so little time to find one you’ll like…needless to say I started looking 2 wks before school started so i was desperate for a place and this was the only place available that I could rent without having to look for a few room mates which I did not want to do.
I know that I have several justified reasons to break my lease but do I have the right to go after my landlord for moving expenses too? (srry for sp errors no time to spchk)
dp
December 28th, 2007 at 2:37 pm
I worked in the legal field all my life (on the “west coast”) and, I think you are within your rights to demand “moving expenses” and of course, release from the lease and the return of your deposit. What you didn’t mention is whether or not you have “documented” this situation. This would involve keeping a daily log of time noise begins and stops and a tape recording of the volume of the noise would also help. Another step it would be wise to take is to get a friend to stay over as a “witness” to the noise incidents. I don’t know if this will help but it might be worth a try.
December 29th, 2007 at 1:03 am
im having a similar problem with my next door neighbor. when we first moved in thigs where fine we got along great.. she had a problem with the downstairs neighbor and it got bad enough she moved. and now she is basically stalking us. we have heard her talking about us and saying all kinds of things. i take cabs on stormy says to work and she even started yelling at the cab driver because we got cabs quicker then she did .. she complains about how much stuff we buy and is always in her place yelling ans screaming and cursing. she watches every move we make. other people have even come to us telling us the stuff she has said. did you get any advice on what to do with a completely nutso neighbor.
January 9th, 2008 at 5:09 am
I live in the downstairs part of a duplex. I have had prblems with the neighobor looking in my windows and making comments about what I should do about it in the past. Since I live in a military community I went to the first sargent about it. More than a year leter and this woman is still obsessed about when I go to be and get up in the morning. I feel that I have been more than considerate at night whe n I do stay up. T never do certain things at night. The tv and radio is always at a resonable level. This woman has temper tantrums when she thinks I ought to be up the the morning. She has temper tantrums when I get up and let my dog outside. I have to watch my dog to make sure she hasn’t fed him choclate. She has temper tantrums at the slightest noise. I feel like I can’t live in my own house. I can’t do anything because she gets angry about the sounds I make. She runs to every room in the house and slams every door when I use my sewing machine. I am also a pianist. I I only practice between the hours of 12:00 and 5:00.I usually practice at work. My neighbor and I are usually home at the same times because we both work in the afternoon hours in afterschool programs. I can’t do some of these things when she leaves her house otherwise I get nothing done. They stomp, slam doors, slide chairs. When they leave their house they slam both the foyer door and the outside door. Do I need tomention that these people have absolutely noghing in thier house, no carpet and no curtains. Everything they do echoesthreough the house, yet they expect us to stop living our lives. I have gone to the landlord about it but they don’t seem to think that the neighbor is doing anything bad. What can I do about it.
January 24th, 2008 at 3:40 pm
Unfortunately, part of paying to live in a place is being able to live in it. If they’re moving things, hammering, or playing music, it’s not your neighbors’ fault if the building itself can’t block the noise. That’s the sad thing about living in apartments. People have different schedules and that’s just something you’re going to have to deal with.
However, they should be more responsible about their pet. You should keep a log and document everytime urine or fecal matter makes its way onto your property and if the landlord refuses to do anything, call animal services on them. They are obviously not responsible owners and if they let their animal desecrate on the balcony, there are probably problems in the apartment that may be enough to have the animal put into a better environment.
Good luck!
January 24th, 2008 at 3:57 pm
New owners mean new rules. It’s a dog, it doesn’t know it’s doing wrong. Deal with it. If it’s that bad, go out during the day. If it’s late a night, You need to speak calmly and politely to the owner of the dog. Usually, if you’re nice they’ll be understanding.
January 28th, 2008 at 1:54 am
sewing, piano and a dog…hmm..I wonder why shes annoyed at you….Maybe she cant afford rugs etc.
February 4th, 2008 at 6:51 pm
I need help, I am not sure exactly what to do in my situation, the offenders are not others who rent in my building, it is the bar that is two doors down. I know living next to a bar there is going to be noise but this is just outrageous at times, we will have people coming out of the bar between 5pm and 3am and screaming at the top of their lungs “WHOOOO!!!” or fighting with each other, or throwing bottles on the ground or against our building (Their back door is next to the entrance to our building), urinating on the sidewalk, etc, and not to mention the music when the back door is open. Did I really ask for a rock band in my livingroom?!? I am a 20 something female, and I am often coming home from work or going to work between 10:30pm-11:00pm and have to walk by these people acting like huge jerks to get to my front door and sometimes I question my safety. I did not know it was this bad when I moved in, and I absolutely love my apartment aside from this factor and would hate to loose it, but what can I do? If the bar would simply instruct their patrons to use the front entrance instead of the back door, or at least to be considerate if they leave from or smoke in the back, and to shut the door behind them- it wouldn’t be such a problem. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!!
Witsend in NY
February 9th, 2008 at 12:57 pm
I live in this apartment complex for about three years, and put up with the crap because I don’t have the money to afford to move. This elderly lady who had been complained about before, actually the gentleman that lived below her wanted to kill her. Why? She doesn’t work and lives on disability, but all day is there. I work and try not to be there, because she has her surround TV turned up full volume at time. Sometimes during the night she has a radio on. I couldn’t get enough sleep to think properly at work today. I wrote a letter to the rental office, nothing was done. Called them almost everyday, they just ignore it. I have no peace or enjoyment at my apartment which is directly under hers. Can you tell me what my rights are?
February 9th, 2008 at 2:44 pm
was the bar there when you moved in? If so, then move, even tho you love the apt. It’s not a reason to be in fear. It would be hard for the owners of the bar to expect anything, but consideration from its patrons, ( you could wish in one hand and **** in the other) I think you know the rest. GL
February 10th, 2008 at 6:56 pm
My only comment is about the door slamming, good luck with the rest of it- I mean it.
Some people just slam doors, car doors included, I don’t get it either. My neighbor downstairs is the same way and we have a metal gate that she slams in addition to her front door. In her defense there is a large draft that takes hold of the front door when you go to close it and it closes harder then you intend. None the less it takes your breathe away when your trying to nap.
There is a product they sell at the hardware stores that silences the slamming. It’s a thin foam strip with an adhesive on the back. Be sure to measure or ‘eye up’ how much room between the door and the frame will allow, they sell different thicknesses. Works like a charm. Also works on loose fitting doors that rattle, (I like my sleep).
Hope that helps a little, save your dollars and move, hang in there.
February 21st, 2008 at 1:05 pm
Bugged out!
I’am on disabillity & used all my funds to buy a trailer in a nice park and have become very close to all my nabor’s but there is one trailer across the street that is a rental unit & the owner doesn’t live here, The new people have been there 3 months now & have 2 teenage daughters & 1 son that about 8yr’s old & they are driving me nuts with there loud music & heavey traffic, There son is wild & tears up anything he gets his hands on and now starting to come in my yard & steeling things,my dog cable, garbage can,bird feeder & useing a plastic bad to beat on things & beeing loud, I have called the owner of the trailer but she just say’s deal with it yourself, So I went to the park mgr & he said there not breaking the rules of the park & call the police to report the noise, So after 9 calls to them in 1 month & countless fines there still doing the same !
I don’t have the money to buy anouther place to live & know apartments are worse so what can I do ?
March 3rd, 2008 at 2:01 pm
I have a B.A. in Psychology and most everywhere a person with mental illness cannot be “commited” against their will unless they are a danger to themselves and/or others. You said something about obscene t-shirts you may be able to do something depending on the obscenity laws. I would advise you not get confrontational with the owman, the mental ill are often not what you call rational and that can make the situation worse. Try collecting evidence like pictures, video etc. if she is staring in your window and you call the police again you can prove it.
March 27th, 2008 at 6:01 pm
O- My I have the same problem. My Neighbor I thought was nuts. I can’t make the slightes noise with out her Flipping out talking to the land lord. She yells at me when she see’s me. I tried to be nice in the biginnig but now I am fed up! I have to figure out what I can do about her.
March 31st, 2008 at 2:27 pm
Neighbor from Hell!!!
I am posting this because I need some type of help. About two years ago my husband, daughter and myself moved into an apartment. After being there 5 minutes the neighbor is already knocking on the door saying “my new neighbors move in yet?” Stupid question, but anyways. My neighbor is constantly drinking, slamming doors, being loud until 10 oclock, I have a 6 year old who goes to school and is in bed at 8 o’clock. He also has cameras in the hallways and one pointing out at the pool. We have gone to our landlord and she just says: “you know how they are when they are drinking.” Well it doesn’t stop. We don’t have a lease or a contract, but we cann’t afford to move either. The neighbor has been there 8 years and never had a non-family member live across the hallway from them. We cann’t even put our daughter in time out, because if she screams, they stomp the floors, bang on their door, or just become a complete butt head. We cann’t stand it anymore.
WHAT CAN I DO?
April 9th, 2008 at 1:04 pm
My partner and i moved into an appartment two years ago and we love it. the people keep to themselves but they’re friendly enough. there is a family that lives below us and their relatives live below them. they have been complaining about us for about 8 months now and we haven’t done a single thing to them. they say we are loud and that there’s loud banging going on and we vaccum late at night. the other night we had some people over and we may have been a bit noisy but we didn’t have any music going and there was only 6 of us. we played cards and had some beers, and the next day i overhear one of our lovely neighbors saying that they have recorded us being loud. now, we had a meeting with them three months or so prior to this and we came to the agreement that if there was any noise that they should come up and knock on our door and let us know. they have failed to do that. instead they have jumped the gun and are going to make it look like the noises they heard last night is an example of the noises they heard before. i dont’ know what to do. the landlord likes us a lot and he knows that they’re lying when they say we’re noisy. but i’m afraid that this recording will make him think we are like that all the time, when it was only one incident. they have also told their kids that my partner and i are bad people and that they shouldn’t talk to us. i feel discriminated against and pissed off. they’re nothing but biggots and they’re making themselves look like the victims and it’s not right. if anyone can help me i’d very much appreciate it. it’s been going on too long and has made our lives that much more stressful. one night we had gotten home and it was around 11:00 and we had been home for no longer than a half an hour and we heard a knock at the door. it was the police. they had called the police and reported a disturbance, and we hadn’t even been home long enough to disturb anyone. now what makes me so mad is that they don’t know us well enough to say ‘hi’ or ‘how are you doing’ or ‘please keep the noise down’ but they seem to have no problem calling the cops on us for no reason. i hate always wondering if we’re going to get another visit out of the blue from the police and wondering what they’re cooking up to make us look bad. Please Help!
April 15th, 2008 at 9:32 pm
My problem isn’t about noise. I just moved into my apartment about a month ago. I met the nabors 2 weeks ago that live above me. They are nice but not on my list of best friends. The problem is that they invite themselves over all the time. Now sure I could say no! get away from me. But I’m a nice person. So I tell them I’m doing something. their responce:
We will come back later when your done,
or
We can just be in another room.
or
It won’t bother us if you working on the computer.
It doesn’t matter if a have a free hour or not. The proper way to live is let the nabor invite you over. Not invite youselves and make the nabor feel obligated.
Sorry I went on a rant, but you get the pont.
THEY ARE TAKING OVER MY LIFE!
What can I do about this with out sounding like a bit*h. I feel I have to sit them down a explain the proper way of doing things.
PLEASE HELP ME!
Dusty
April 21st, 2008 at 2:28 pm
I have a problem with my neighbor someone please help . I live in an hud subsidized apartment my neigbor who is a woman and her 2 kids are the only ones on the lease . Her husband who is not on the lease is living there with her and had been banned from the property a few years back for fighting drinking and drugs . Anyway this guy is back and smokes like a chimney . The problem is my son is 19 and gets sick from the smell of cigareetes he always has a headache and allergies > he has been to the doctor a few times for this and I finally asked the doctor if the second hand smoke could be causing all this he said yes . We told the manager she said there is nothing we can do we said even if he’s not on lease she said we can’t prove he’s there because neighbor always lies about it . In the mean time my son has to go day by day by always having headaches and getting sick someone please help before my son bedomes seriously ill from this . What can we do ???????
April 23rd, 2008 at 7:19 pm
You’ve got learn to say that you’re busy. Learn to say no. It’s not that difficult after a while.
April 24th, 2008 at 7:18 pm
grow a pair.
or stop smoking your pot with them everytime they come over.
April 24th, 2008 at 7:34 pm
If you have a rude neighbor i definitely agree to destroying their car, absolutely.
last weekend my next door neighbor was drunk and standing outside infront of his apartment, 3 of my friends and I were on our way into my unit when one of my guests stopped to say hi to him because he thought he recognized my neighbor.
my neighbor responded with “fuck you motherfucker i dont fucking know you hit the fuckin door”
then five minute later he comes knocking on my door telling my friend to come outside, my friend went outside and i refused to close the door, upon my refusal he grabbed MY door, yelled “close the fucking door!” and slammed it shut.
once my friend returned, he informed me that my neighbor had said lots more nasty things about me and everyone in my unit, so i then went next door to try and reason with him, and was threatened with a gun!
I want to resolve this with no police interference… can i use any of that to break my lease?
help me out!!!
ps, when i DO move out, your weak ass automatic camaro is toast sucker!
April 25th, 2008 at 8:31 pm
This sounds like a clear-cut case of discrimination. These are NOT nice people, they are bigots. It’s shameful the burden falls to you to defend yourself. Sadly, there it is. If they have the “us or them” mentality, it’s going to be up to you to know your legal rights and discuss it respectfully and clearly with your landlord. Legally, there may not be much you guys can do, but if your landlord likes you and doesn’t like the other tenants, he can probably refuse to renew their lease.
April 25th, 2008 at 8:36 pm
The key here is college student. I’m living in a nightmarish situation myself. Tenants rights don’t seem to register in these places, sadly, because many college student tenants are exactly like your neighbors. This puts normal people like us at a tremendous disadvantage. Thank god for non-student living.
April 29th, 2008 at 10:17 am
You’re all a bunch of whiners. Apartment life is apartment life. Extreme cases require special attention, but for the most part NOISE IS NOISE. I have two boys. To keep them quiet is to essentially beat them into submission. I’m not going down that path to satisfy someone who is hypersensitive to a little stomping until 9 at night. Get ear muffs, a fan or SOMETHING.
Wah wah boo hoo I shouldn’t have to do that. Lord, 1/3 of the worlds population sleeps on the dirt at night and deals with animals and critters. OOOHHHH a thpider and thome noith… whoa is me!
Arrogant whiny people.
April 30th, 2008 at 4:07 pm
Bad Rap- Long story but please read- I need advice!
My situation is a bit different…I live in an upper duplex and the folks below me are a mother, probably mid 50’s and her late 30’s son. They have lived in this duplex for about 8 years. I moved in last October so I have been there about 7 months. They have complained about me 3 times to our landlord. The first time was 2 weeks after I moved in saying they were concerned because I didn’t close the garage door in a timley manner and that I didn’t always lock the side entrance door behind me. I was very cool about it when my landlord called and said that though I’m sure I am closing the garage door, I will be conscious of these things. Then in December they called my LL again to complain that they can hear me when I come home late on the weekends, as in they can hear my high heeled shoes on the stairs as I go upstairs and then I MUST be walking around my apartment in high heeled shoes even after I’m inside (because people do that all the time of course). Mind you these people don’t work on the weekends so it’s not like they have to get up early on a Sat or Sun morning. They also complained that I’m on the phone all the time at 3am (I’m not) and they can hear my conversations. My LL was trying to be the middle man in this so I’m not mad at him, but he suggested that I take my shoes off once I’m in the side entrance so they don’t hear me and also that I try not to have phone conversations in my bedroom as it’s right above one of their bedrooms. Unbelieveable. He tells me that during the week they have to have to leave a 5am to be at work and I told him that I’m very aware of that because their yipitee dog barks constantly as soon as they leave. He asked why I didn’t call him to tell him this and my reply was that I wouldn’t do that because I live in an apartment setting and there are certain things one has to deal with when living in an apartment. He really was trying to make both parties happy and said that he would remind them to keep the dog quiet and that they too need to be aware of their noise level. I told him that I am a good tennant. I’m a 30 year old professional, I don’t have parties, I don’t play my muisc loud, etc. So fast forward to a bad snowstorm here in WI and the mother that lives downstairs gets her car stuck in the driveway. So I see this and decide to be the nice person and go down there to help her, spraining my thumb in the process. I thought we were on better terms then because while having my sister visit out of town, she had a rental car and they (the mother and son) were nice enough to move their cars around so that my sis wouldn’t have to park on the street. We treated them to a box of chocolates for their trouble. Things seemed to be okay. Dog still barking all the time but again, I choose to not make a big deal of it. NOW- I just got a call from my LL again! This time they are saying I slam doors (I don’t slam doors, my apartment door needs to be pulled hard to get the deadbolt in place) and whats the kicker is they do it to!! They also complained because I make too much ‘noise’ after 10pm. I was pretty blunt with my LL this time and told him I was speechless about all this complaining and that if these people want complete silence, they should rent the upstaris themselves or buy a house.
I know many peoples advice would be just to move but I still have 5 months on my lease and I don’t want to move again, I like my apartment and the neighborhood. I am so angry because these people are making me look bad and I’m afraid they could possibly get me evicted. And for some reason, they won’t come talk to me about their concerns, they go right to my LL. My LL seems to be trying to stay neutral but I can’t believe he doesn’t find their complaints unreasonable. I feel like a prisoner in my own apartment. I don’t even have a few friends over because I’m afraid they will complain to him. I have lived in several apartments and have NEVER had anyone complain about me.
Do I have any power here at all? I welcome any advice.
May 1st, 2008 at 6:12 pm
Being a pit bull does not make a dog aggressive! It might be or might not be (and probably isn’t, by statistics).
May 2nd, 2008 at 10:44 pm
You never know with pits. They’re so inbred that they can snap at the smallest things.
May 6th, 2008 at 10:06 pm
Get even with them. If you can get their phone number call them in the middle of the night and hang up on them. Just wake them up, then they’ll be tired at work the next day. You can also slash their car tires, pour dish detergent on their windshield and flour on that. Put sugar in their gas tank. Smear their door handle with lard. Put a sign up in their window advertising “SeXXXy Massage” Post their phone number and attach a sign to the back of their car advertising their new business. Order pizza to their residence. Go through their garbage and find their credit card numbers, tv cable supplier and cancel their services. They’ve demonstrated that they’re rotten to the core..being nice to them won’t work…you must make their lives a bigger hell for them then they’ve made it for you…then they’ll get the message and you my friend will be getting the last laugh.
May 7th, 2008 at 1:24 pm
I don’t care if 1/2 the population sleeps in mud… I pay my rent. Control your children and do not make any excuses because you are a pathetic parent who will not control their out of control boys. Respect each other’s right for god’s sake.
May 7th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
I live next door to a kid that slams their front door every time he leaves his apt. it rattles the walls. I think when living in an apt complex some of that you just have to put up with. How do you stop a kid from slamming doors? you can’t. it isn’t done with malice - it is just a kid being a kid.
May 14th, 2008 at 12:24 am
My fiance and I just moved into an apartment about a month and half ago. When we first moved in we thought that we was being careful to ask all the right things to be sure and not inconveniece the neighbors. Well when the issue of parking came up, we were told that we could not park in front of the neighbors place, and we could not park in the little gravel parking space on our property because the neighbors made that themselves. Well mind you the neighbors only have 1 car, they park it on the street in front of their apartment, so that leaves their private space open, plus they have 2 garages that they can park in, and if they don’t want to park in them, then they could atleast use the concrete slab infront of them for parking. All the landlord said we had for parking space was the little patch infront of our aprtment and then it’s on the street so it’s public. Well we were having trouble with the neighbors parking there all the time, so we called the landlord. Mind you their part of the apartment faces a different street, so there’s no need to even park around the corner infront of us, plus they have alot of parking space that they don’t use. Well after calling the landlord and asking for some common curtousy, nothing was done. Well last night the neighbors parked infront of our place again, it irritated me. So when I got in I slammed my door shut, it didn’t take them but a minute and they were over here complaining. Well I talked ot them like a civil adult and we reached a compromise which was that we’ll keep the noise down if they’ll park else wear. Well then the neighbors son comes walking around the corner while we’re still talking and he just starts cursing me up one side and down the other. I didn’t stoop to his level and curse back, I said it was fine and that I would take it up with the landlord. Mind you the neighbor is in her late 50’s early 60’s, so her son was a grown man. I’m 24 and was home alone at the time. Anyways back on subject once the guy cursed me out and the neighbor left I called my fiance at work and informed him of what had happened. Well he came home about 20 minutes later. As he was pulling up the grown man came back over and tried to apologize to me, I told him that I would not accept his apology and that he had no right to curse me like he did when he did not know me and when I was having a civil conversation with his mother. I told him to get off my porch and that I was going to inform the landlord of the situation, well he didn’t like that very well so I told my fiance that he was the one that cursed me out. Being upset about that my fiance yelled at him and asked why he talked to me like he did when for 1 he didnt know me and for 2 I had done nothing to him for him to act like that. My fiance also told him that no matter what he doesn’t have the right to talk to a lady in that manner, well the guy pepper sprayed my fiance. I immediatly called the landlord and informed him of what happened, he said for me to call the police. So I did, we were going to press charges but the neighbors lied and said that my fiance threatened their lives so they acted in self defense. That’s not true at all. So anyways we weren’t able to press charges. But the cops did tell us that they have been dealing with this family for as long as 20 years and that they were nothiung but trash and trouble and they they knew we were telling thr truth, but because they’re not judges they couldn’t make an arrest without arresting my fiance too. Well about 20 minutes after the cops leave the landlord calls us back and talks to my fiance to see what all has happened. My fiance tells him and the landlord completely sides with the neighbors, so we told him that we wanted out of the lease because we refuse to live next to people that are always in trouble and that are clearly violent. The landlord got mad and said that if we try to get out of the lease then he’ll make us pay the rest of the year anyways.
We’ve already decided that we’re moving no matter what, we just have to wait until after our wedding which is on May31st. We are living with blackmold covering our basement walls and on damp days you can smell it in other parts of the apartment too. The landlord knew about it before we moved in and he should have taken care of it, but never. Now when we signed the lease we did know that there was a lil mold downstairs, but we didn’t know how much and we didn’;t know at the time that it was black mold. A friend of mine and her husband own there own contracting business and they told us what it was and how dangerous it is and can be. Until last night we were going to pay out of our own pockets to have it taken care of, but because the landlord is being a douchebag, we’ve decided to call our local health department and code office, and let them come in and do some testing….mind you they could condem the apartment…and I hope they do, maybe then the landlord wont take sides and will actually work to keep all tenants safe.
My only concern is that based on what I have explained, would we have grounds to fight for our money back or are we just completely out???? If anyone knows I would greatly appreciate the feed back.
Thanks in advance!!!!!!
May 14th, 2008 at 10:30 pm
I completely agree with you! I pay rent too. I pay alot for my nice place and I won’t tolerate rude neighbors. What you do in your apartment is your won business, but when it affects my life it’s my business too, and I will take care of it, even if it means calling the police.
May 19th, 2008 at 3:18 pm
a complex full of queens. noses stuck in your business, stop you in your tracks. must drop everything because a neighbor had a life happening. neighbor who is bipolar and a pill popper stopping you to make a snide remark. got a life, forget it, they don’t and you must drop your shorts for them. demands you must do something for them because they think you have the time. they don’t want to hear noise yet they drive you up the walls with it. complain that someone steals their property but they invite questionable scum to their place 24/7. bother you every time they see you. noses up in the air, thinking they’re the centrifical pull of the universe. two faced, back stabbing, no job to keep them occupied, nosey, nosey, self centered, it’s all about them. god forbid you have a life or are too busy for them. god forbid that suddenly they experience things you’ve been dealing with…. oh my it’s hard blah blah, you don’t understand. my neighbors in my northern VA hood just don’t get it and should develop or even consider getting a clue. when i moved to the place i now reside, i think hard, very serious about why i made such a mistake! i think i want to go back home to where folks have jobs, minds and lives of their own and further yet, mind their own business. also, they don’t have this high horse problem and stick their noses up in the air at you because “you’re one of them kind”. little closet community i’ve placed myself into. when you have 40something’s still living with their parents and neighbors who ain’t got enough of a life to figure out that yours is making you too busy to pay attention to them 24/7…. i feel like i’m in kindergarten here with people that i feel is a miracle they lived this long without injuring themselves? how they found the knob on their doors and figured out how to make it function so they can step outside is beyond me.
June 4th, 2008 at 12:15 pm
talking about arrogant! you can’t control your children so you yell at everyone else. Control your children - if you think the only way to quiet them is to beat them then you have more problems than your neighbours do. stomping around is a big deal and your neighbours shouldn’t have to deal with you or your uncontrollable kids. Apartment life doesn’t have to be “apartment life” if we didn’t have to deal with creeps like you. you are the one giving apartment life a bad rep.
June 4th, 2008 at 12:26 pm
when the owner isn’t there… take the dog a to shelter that finds new homes for pets and doesn’t put them to sleep. if the owner isn’t going to take proper care of the animal then he shouldn’t have it.
June 4th, 2008 at 12:32 pm
Loud, abusive non-caring neighbours really is the theme here. no matter where you go or what rent you pay… there will always be that neighbour with the child running from one end of the apt. to the other bouncing a ball along the way or that resident who lets their kids scream till all hours at nite, takes up 2 parking spaces, lets their animals pee on plants that you spend time caring for. Managers care about rent being paid on time and making sure there are no empty apts. As much as we wish someone would do something about noise, trash, parking or security at any apt. no will probably happen. so… name your apt. make others aware and then foward all the messages with the comments about that apartment complex to the manager, maybe just maybe the complex will make some changes. let them know that these commments will be post on every site that people use to look for apts.
June 10th, 2008 at 2:03 am
almost two years ago, I moved into a triplex apt building.The lady above me became a nuisance the same day I moved in. She started complaining that My husband’s truck was blocking the stairway and when we
are we going to move it. My husband assured her that it in fact it was not blocking the stairway. The next day she left a note on his truck that the truck was 2 ft in her carport. We could never talk to her because she was always hiding, like she was scared. But she wasn’t scared to call the police on my husband.She accused him of being a jerk, egging her car,turning the power off in her apt. this when on for months.She also reported me the management office and told them I had 5 kids living in a 2 bedroom apt.That I’m guilty of.Its the only place I could afford at that time.It got uglier.She did the unthinkable.She called the police and told them I threatened her life.And I got arrested. The officer told me he did not want to do it. But since the 911 nightmare in New York.they have to take care of terrorist threats seriously.Thats what they charged me with. I never said a thing to this monster. My 5 kids saw mommy being handcuffed. My husband bailed me out 2 hours later.5,000 dollars
we had to borrow.the next day the monster moved out and I was served with a 3 day notice to vacate for disturbing the peace of my felloew neighbor amongst other reasons.I fought it in court and lost. I had a an eviction showing on my credit report which caused me to live in car and motels because no one wanted to rent to me anymore. My kids lived with my parents up until 2 months ago We finally found a place that didn’t care about the eviction. I went from an outgoing person to a nervous and stressed out wreck.
I hope that I can sue this monster for everything she has done to me and my family.
June 15th, 2008 at 2:06 pm
PLEASE READ!!!! I desperately need advise as I am poor and can’t hire a lawyer. This may be a bit long but I don’t want to leave anything out. We moved into these apts 2 1/2 years ago and are month to month. Our old upstairs neighbors trashed the apt as we complained about the noise and the weak flooring. They eventually got evicted. In come new neighbors and they have kids(2 of them 3 and 4 years old). We can hear them walking and talking. That is bad enough when you can hear talking through the floor. Now the problem, the kids run constantly all over the house and on to the deck. They scream very loud(I once, after leaving AGAIN heard them from about 150 yards away) and constantly throw garbage/toys onto our property. The thumps and bangs are so loud, we get woken up constantly. It literally sounds like bowling balls being dropped. I emailed the manager regarding the issue…no answer. Again, no answer. Again, finally a response which was to take care of it myself. We have had to leave countless times and even take my portable dvd player in the car so we can watch a movie. After 6 emails with pictures of the garbage(13 of them) sent, issues of child abuse,(I witnessed the mom hitting the child three times on the backside and dragging him upstairs by his arm along with many many times hearing the children scream with terror and big slaps) and my mentioning if we could move to a different apt, he didn’t respond but that one time. Here are the dates I emailed him(with the pictures of the garbage also), May 20th, 28th, 30th, June 1st, 2nd and 3rd. He responded once on the 29th with “Chirs -
Thank you for bringing these issues to my attention. I will look into them and get back to you.” and “Have you personally talked to your neighbor about the heavy thumps? If you haven’t, I would recommend that you do. Almost all issues can be more successfully resolved neighbor to neighbor.” Yes, he spelled my name wrong also!! The reason I emailed so many times was the have it documented and saved. I wanted him to know what we go through on a daily basis. Some of the emails were just pics of toys and garbage on our property that we witnessed. I saw him face to face when I paid rent on the 5th. He was so rude and mean. He didn’t want to talk about it. I said the floors are bad and they always have been. I told you that over a year ago. He said the floors have been inspected so maybe you should have moved into a upstairs apt. I also said we are losing sleep everyday. He said “I SAID, I’ll look into it” but he didn’t. He acted like I was making HIM mad when it’s his responsibility to do something. I finally confronted the neighbor and she understood that they are noisy. But she said “what do you expect, I have kids” (I know that noise is protected under state and federal laws). She didn’t get the fact that the kids throwing garbage and dumping glasses of water onto our “backyard” is a problem. What if we were standing underneath the deck…we’d be wet and be hit in the head with toys. Not to mention that we complained way before that to this “manager”. He said he laughed when he heard us complain about the noise, it’s a part of apartment living. To sum up, he ignored issues of child abuse, us willing to move to a different apt…same complex so he will still get his money for rent, littering, bad floors and massive noise all hours of the day. I finally emailed him again saying I talked to the neighbor but it didn’t help. She is nice but just doesn’t get it. The floors definitely needs work was also mentioned. Thanks for your time and sorry it took so long to read. I am mad, tired, sad, poor and stuck in this h*ll hole. Mad in Milwaukie
June 17th, 2008 at 12:57 am
Dear “Mad in Milwaukie”
I just read what you’re going through. I’m going through it with you. I’m in a cheaply-constructed condo that has thin flooring and walls and don’t have a lot of money to throw away. The neighbor above me does not consider that. Infact, became more loud and rude (added large pets and a boyfriend) after I told her about the noise. It’s irritating to have to live in distress daily. But, I have been praying about it and I know things are going to get better. I advise you to do the same.
June 18th, 2008 at 2:09 am
I’m really getting sick of all of these parents who believe that children are supposed to be loud. Guess what, they’re not. That’s just your poor parenting showing through. I was a child and I distinctly recall being raised to be respectful of others. If you live in an apartment you need to be respectful of other tenants. If you can’t control your kids then don’t have them. What freaking kid is up at 9 at night anyways?
The woman that lives above me lets her six year old run around at 11pm at night until 1am. How the hell is that normal noise? She drags her drunk self home at 3am, flips on the TV, and then her boyfriend comes over and they’re above our bedroom talking and banging the floors until 5am. We can’t hear our television anymore due to her ghetto music blasting down, I’ve all but lost my freelance web design business because it’s too loud for even a single phone call. We’ve complained but nothing has been done. As is, it is 3:06 am as I type this and yet still the noise continues. Having children is no excuse for noise you arrogant sod.
June 19th, 2008 at 7:47 pm
I know exactly where you’re coming from, I live above an 82 year old woman who bangs on my floor (her ceiling) if I get up in the middle of the night to pee for christ’s sakes!!! I talked to management about it and they said she was moving because my fiance and I are “loud”. We don’t party, have guests over, or make loud noises at all. We’re respectful people. We live on eggshells constantly. I would suggest asking management to switch apartments if possible and stress the fact your scared you’ll get evicted over exaggerated false complaints. Hope this helps!
June 21st, 2008 at 10:22 pm
It’s horrible!! We wrote her a letter telling her what times we have to get up. That was after I confronted her. She said there will no noise after 9pm. I was cool with that, although up to that time will suck. Well nine rolls around and CRASH, BOOM, BANG, RUNNING RUNNING LIKE NO ONES BUSINESS. Now to add a bit to it. I was having a smoke outside and I hear the kids screaming. Well I look up and they are urinating on our little lawn area. The parents were there and apparently let them do it. Ever since the talk, she got worse. Just 20 minutes ago my g/f was having a smoke in our area and I guess the cigarette smoke carried up so out comes “Oh, I have to close my door now cause I don’t want to smell smoke and SLAMS her door. Gee, what about your kids pissing on our stuff, the noise that never goes away and them waking us up EVERY NIGHT. My g/f got mad and stormed out while slamming the door. The guy from upstairs said “oh, that was nice” like egging her on. She replied with “screw you” but not to his face. She was probably 25 yards away leaving our “home” that we hate staying in. I have slept in my car some nights. I count on tylenol PM to get me to sleep so I can’t hear them. We both are going delirious due to lack of sleep. We sleep about 2 hrs a night and that’s only because they LET US.
June 26th, 2008 at 11:04 pm
You’re an inbred asshole who should never have had kids! If you can’t keep the little bastards quiet, go move into a house then! I’m sick to death of douchebags like you who are always using the excuse “they’re just kids!” Maybe if you had better parenting skills, your neighbors wouldn’t be complaining about you! I hope you and your retarded hillbilly kids get thrown out on the street to live with the other animals.
July 6th, 2008 at 12:51 am
Wow.
July 15th, 2008 at 11:23 am
I don’t know if you received any responses on your post so I thought that I would add in my two cents. I also live in a mobile home park. As far as problems with your neighbors, your manager has to be employed by someone and it’s usually a Property Management Company or the owner of the park. If it’s the P.M. Co., find out your park manager’s supervisor, send a letter to the supervisor explaining your situation and how the manager is making your life very difficult by ignoring the situation. Make sure you send the letter “return receipt requested” and keep a copy of the letter for yourself. In the letter, include dates and each time you’ve spoken to the park mgr. Also include what you think the best solution for the problem is. Don’t just leave the solution up to the Management Co. because their solution will be the most minimal of effort. ie: send a letter to offender with no followup. If there is no resolution after this, we have here in Sacramento, California what is called the Omnibudsman. This is a person who you can contact by phone and will intervene on your behalf with the park manager and work towards a resolution. Whenever the Omnibudsman gets involved, the Park will usually realize that the situation is serious and this tends to get results. If you have any other questions, feel free to respond to Leedybean2004@yahoo.com.
July 30th, 2008 at 12:51 pm
You sound like a real ——-.
August 6th, 2008 at 12:04 am
You are exactly what makes apartment life hell. What do you mean, “noise is noise”? YOU don’t get to decide what we should put up with, and if you can’t keep your boys quiet, YOU get to move. Nobody should have to even consider nonsense like ear muffs or a fan to cope with what YOU have decided is most important–your darlings’ right to “a little stomping.” Noise does not necessarily come with living in an apartment, and it’s not part of tenants’ rights. I’ll bet you’re a real tiger when someone inconveniences YOU–what if you were the downstairs tenants and someone woke your precious kids up with “a little stomping”? Besides, lots of us don’t give a damn about your kids–it’s your fault they have to live in an apartment instead of on a farm or whatever, not ours, and we don’t have to put them first. If they’re going to get along in this crowded world, they should learn about respecting rules for the group’s good right now, while it will sink in. What the rest of the world does is not the issue here; you have obligations to others in a communal living situation, where everyone has to measure his behavior by other people’s rights; your arrogant attitude is completely unjustified.
August 6th, 2008 at 12:10 am
If your house is merely cluttered and/or “messy,” that’s not their business. There are very strong guidelines about what the owner/LL is allowed to complain about. Certainly the presence of food left out, dishes, garbage, diapers, pet waste etc. are actionalble because of the vermin and insect issues which can spread to the whole complex. Things like broken appliances and leaking pipes that can ruin drywall and cause repairs, too, also electrical overloads or hazards that could cause a fire. But if it’s toys and unmade beds and dirty windows, dusting and vacuuming behind schedule, etc., well… that shouldn’t be their business. Call whatever the Fair Housing department is in your state. In some, being in a place for more than a year means a 60-day notice rather than 30. You might, at the least, be able to negotiate a delay with the landlords by promising that you WILL move, given more time to find a place etc. Sometimes that works.
August 9th, 2008 at 3:19 pm
we live in an apartment. recently I found out that the people living in the apartment down from me are breaking into the apartments around us,and the cops came to everyones door to ask if we had noticed anyone trying to come in our house, i said they probably know that i am home all day so i haven’t had any problems but noticed that other’s have.along with this our back sliding glass door does not lock and our landlord put a daftey bar to help but the cop said it’s law to have a the doors lock anyway so since the landlords knows about the break ins and he also knows who has been doing it he said he was evicting them, well three weeks later and still no eviction,isn’t there some law that since they know that they should be responsible to evict them??
August 13th, 2008 at 12:20 am
Ridiculous! Why should I have to suffer b/c you forgot to put your diaphram in or whatever? Having kids does not give you a special right to disturb others! Most leases have a clause that require tenants to be reasonably quiet, which includes you and your rugrats!
August 13th, 2008 at 12:37 am
I’d call County Health on the garbage complaints - this is an issue of health, as garbage attracts rodents and pests.
Good luck with this. I feel your pain (I would say, “I hear ya,” but am deafened by the screaming of the toddler next door to my apartment - three hours or more he goes on!”)
August 14th, 2008 at 4:50 am
hello,i have been living with bad neighbors for 15 years. i have children.we keep to ourselves and are loved by everyone on the block .these people are constantly yelling disrespectful things to me and my husband and our children. the oldest man in their house is an ex correction officer and his wife runs a childcare in her home.last year she knocked my son off his scooter and she didnt know that me and and elderly neighbor witnessed this. i called the police and he recommend that i dont press charges which i am so regretful about to this day. i really cant live like this anymore,it hurts to be harrased in front of my children and i dont want to curse them or end up taking out my louisville slugger and end up arrested and above all showing a bad example to my kids.their son is 25 and lives in the downstairs half of their house it appears that he sells dope and is a coverup real estate agent.his wife has a 2 year old and she moons us in the window whenever she feels like it. i cant afford to move and life could be so much happier without them.i pray for god to give me the strength to put up with this but i guess he aint listening or maybe in a past life ive done something wrong to deserve this………please give me some advice……….thanks…..respect
August 17th, 2008 at 2:19 pm
I was reccently threatened by my new neighbors.
They became enraged after I had politely asked them not to smoke in the one public walkway leading to/from our building.
we were thinking that makes it very difficult for myself and the other residents (who are not smokers) to breathe when we have to walk to/from our doors in a cloud of smoke. Nothing is preventing them from lighting up inside their own unit and sparing the rest of us.
Well, I was unprepared for being threatened. Forgetting that other people pay rent, the husband wife duo started yelling at me and taking personal shots. Merely wanting to walk in clean air was unreasonable.
This is completely unprecedented at this complex. Our complex has been a very enjoyable and friendly environment until now.
I hope that this couple moves out of the neighborhood and soon.
August 20th, 2008 at 10:40 pm
I have been living in my apartment complex for 8 years now and at one time it was nice and peaceful. Its a different story now. Every day now as soon as I arrive home from work, there is this “demon child” who intentionally stirs up trouble. Kids have been told repeatedly to play in the designated playground area, but this “demon child” insists on playing right by my living room and bedroom windows. Of course when one kid sees another, before you know it there are 50 plus kids outside screaming and yelling, etc. The other kids on the grounds will follow the landlords directions but “demon child” says he can play wherever he wants. By the way, its the landlords grandchild. Watching from my kitchen window, I see him scheming to kick a soccer ball directly toward my door. He did so and took off running. I immediately open the door to find his sister standing there. I called the landlord, who didnt answer her phone but did ring her daughter to come get the kids. This is when all hell broke loose because “my kids are perfect and dont kick doors.” I tried talking to their mother in a calm manner but she was totally unreasonable, walked away from me, rounded up the kids and was yelling at me on the way back to her complex. Her son also was saying disrespectful things to me also. Goes to show….parents set the example and its evident she wasnt and its not teaching her kids anything. She’ll think about it talking to him in prison later.
I am one to stay to my own and mind my business but I do have a right to make some noise when your “demon kids” are causing problems!
August 28th, 2008 at 6:53 am
Sue Him
August 30th, 2008 at 9:07 pm
HI! WE HAVE A PROBLEM… OUR NOISY NEIGHBORS! DON’T WE ALL?!?! THIS REALLY SHOULDN’T BE A PROBLEM, BUT THERE ARE A LOT OF INCONSIDERATE PEOPLE OUT THERE IN THIS WORLD. AFTER A HARD DAYS WORK, ALL I WANT TO DO IS RETURN TO MY NICE, QUIET, PEACEFUL HOME. NOT THE CASE IN ANYMORE. THE UNIT RIGHT NEXT DOOR TO US HAS RECENTLY BEEN OCCUPIED BY 2 TWENTY-SOMETHING YEAR-OLD MALES. THEY’RE OK, THE ONLY PROBLEM IS THAT THEY SLAM THEIR FRONT DOOR AND THE GATES LOCATED IN THE FRONT AND THE BACK OUF OUR SMALL BUILDING (IT’S A 4-UNIT BUILDING). WHEN THEY SLAM THEIR DOOR AND GATES, IT LITERALLY RATTLES OUR UNIT, FRAMES AND DECORATION MOVE SLIGHTLY IN PLACE, THAT’S HOW LOUD IT IS. IT’S NO LONGER AN EXCUSE TO SAY GUYS ARE “HEAVY-HANDED”; WHATEVER HAPPENED TO “COMMON SENSE” OR “HEARING” FOR THAT MATTER? DO THEY NOT HEAR THE DOORS AND GATES SLAM? ARE THEY DEAF? OUR BEDROOM WINDOWS AND OUR NEIGHBORS AS WELL ARE LOCATED DIRECTLY ABOVE THE DOORS AND GATES. SO IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT WE ARE AWAKEN FROM THE NOISE. THE NOISE IS SO LOUD AND DISTRUPTIVE, IT’S DRIVING US CRAZY! THEIR ACTIONS ARE A NUISANCE TO OUR OTHERWISE QUIET, PEACEFUL AND SOLEMN NEIGHBORHOOD. I KNOW THERE ARE RULES AND REGULATIONS ABOUT LOUD MUSIC BUT WHAT ABOUT LOUD, SLAMMING DOORS/GATES? PLEASE HELP!
THANK YOU
September 1st, 2008 at 2:21 pm
YOU ARE THE ARROGANT ONE WITH YOUR MEALY MOUTH! ALSO PART OF THE PROBLEM TOO.
September 13th, 2008 at 1:10 pm
I need some legal advice, I have these neighbors that live across the street and they are always trying to start something with everyone and call people names that live on the block for no reason, they also throw bear bottles in the street and sidewalks were kids including my six yrd cant play out side we have called the police 3 times on them and other neighbors have called to complain to,but the police say they cant do anything because they only see us outside becasue once they see the police they all run inside and hide like nothing happened and this happends about 3 times awake. Both my sister and my sister inlaw was arrested for desterbing the neighborhood when it wasnt us it was them, wile they sat across the street laughing at us becasue they get away with it, it is pretty bad when you cant sit outside and enjoy life on your own porch, I am in desperite need of some help my child is the one that is getting hurt here. please help
September 14th, 2008 at 12:27 pm
You’ve been living with this for 15 years? Start documenting EVERYTHING now. Call the police EVERY time this happens. Take pictures, make recordings. Get a lawyer.
MOVE!
September 14th, 2008 at 7:26 pm
I am in the same situation..I live in a floor unit at my apartment complex..we have lived here 2 months and my upstairs neighbors have an 18month old and they just let him run around as early as 5:45 am..our town has noise ordinances from 10pm to 7am but I dont know what I can do..I wrote them a letter because its constantly ALL day long him running around and banging and waking my 5 month old up from his naps..I have also called the office 3-4 times and the manager told me there was nothing she could do..she has talked to them and “an 18 month old doesnt understand that someone lives underneath them and they have to be quiet” I just find it a little hard to believe that she cant say anything to them about a kid running around all morning waking people up when they have to go to work..If anyone can offer any advice or help on this situation please help me!!
Thanks -Tired of the noise!
September 16th, 2008 at 5:05 pm
HELP
I have been living with my fiance in his apartment for 8 years. recently about 4 months ago he tore his achilles tendon and had to stay at his moms for until he was better. i stayed in our apartment and started to be harrassed by the neighbor’s daughter. I have ignored it but now the situation has snowballed to the entire block talking about me they are calling me a fucking dirty bitch, that they can smell me from blocks away, they are screaming in my hallway banging on my door ringing my bell and constantly making derogatory comments. My apartment is in the front of the building and I can hear them…its unbelievable, I have told my fiance about it and because he hasn’t witnessed it he doesnt want to get involved. I dont know what to do, if I confront one of them i have to fight them all…I can’t do that, if i call the police it will make the situation worse…and ignoring it is impossible. Moving is not an option for me right now
September 28th, 2008 at 8:58 pm
I have one that I am sure no one but me has experienced. Nosey and Nosey Neighbors, here’s the catch… There seniors yep old people. They slam doors, cabinets, their washer and dryer…plus they fight and argue. I hate it, I am a young lady very considerate of my neighbors and here I am stuck with the Seniors from HELL…plus the neighbors behind me are some sort of weirdo’s, they have the nerve to play some sort of religious ritual type prayer music loud, it sounds like chanting and I completely flip out.
I just bang on the wall real hard. One day I am going to show up at there home with a thank you card…get it kill em with kindness. Now back to the hellish seniors. They need to slow it down, turn down there TV and quit slamming things around. I just stomp on the floor really loud when they get to outrageous. They are so noisy they tried to pretend to me like they were good neighbors by inviting me in there house, I refused but the lady dang near made me come in…They will never make it in my castle, I don’t play that…
October 5th, 2008 at 2:47 pm
Just send a certified letter to your landlord & give a 7 day response.
Send another letter after 7 days stating you are seeking legal counsel.
Your state should have a free legal aid service….just phohe your state house or go to the website of your state.
The attorney will advise you from there.
October 9th, 2008 at 9:32 pm
You should definitely get in touch with the landlord and explain to them what is going on. If you pay good money for your place, there isn’t any need for that kind of drama! Good luck to you!
October 9th, 2008 at 9:39 pm
WE live in a 3 story apartment building, 9 apartments all together. there are 4 on the bottom, 4 on the second, and one apartment on the top floor, which is in the attic I suppose. Our apartment is located on the first floor. A few months back, a neighbor moved in and ever since then it’s been pure hell. He constantly harasses us, tries to mooch money and food from us, he brings strange people in at all hours of the night and fights with them. We had the cops at the building almost 5 times the one night. Ever since we have been ignoring him, someone has let the air out of our car tire, someone has spit on our windshield, and a few other minor things.
We’re not sure if we should contact the landlord about this or not or what to even do. We still have the rest of October and November until we can move out - but we need a short term solution until we can move. This isn’t only a problem to us, it’s a problem to all of the other tenants in the building. any help would be much appreciated! No one should have to be scared to even leave their apartment when they have to.
October 11th, 2008 at 5:12 am
“But, I have been praying about it and I know things are going to get better.”
That’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever read.
October 17th, 2008 at 3:09 am
If they won’t move, maybe you should consider moving.
And if you can’t, video record them secretly.
October 17th, 2008 at 3:23 am
Similar problem. I’m housesitting a friend’s apt,
and went to check the mail. I had just come from outside. I don’t smoke, drink, gamble, or use drugs. I dress simply and cleanly.
A couple come into the mailroom while I’m checking the mail, and for some reason or the other, the lady decides to flash me the evil eye, and I’m thinking why? Then she does the “tsk, tsk, tsk” noise at me,
and as I go into the hallway, they follow closely.
Turns out they live on that floor.
Then the lady loudly proclaims their door is unlocked, looking back my way and I’ve had enough.
I walk away, and get to my floor.
No use fighting with unstable people.
Why people even bother using their energy for
that sort of stuff is beyond me. Probably bad home life or mental illness of some sort.
October 17th, 2008 at 3:26 am
Sounds like my neighbors
October 19th, 2008 at 10:20 pm
I need help as well.
my boyfriend and i live in a complex of only small one bedroom apartments. These properties are small, just barely big enough for me, my boyfriend, and our cat. Now our next door neighbors are awful!
It is a young couple and their baby. Now first of all I don’t think it is legal for the three of them to be living in these small apartments, but that isn’t my business, the real problem is the baby screams all the time. Now i understand babies cry, but this is just silly, that child spends at least 60% of the time screaming. and to pacify it, the girl parades the child up and down the walk, right in front of my bedroom window. sometimes when the kid won’t stop screaming she starts screaming at it. things like “WHY WON’T YOU JUST SHUT UP”. She and the boyfriend are always fighting, slamming doors, and of course if the baby isn’t already crying, this starts it up again. On top of that, my boyfriend and i work nights, I get home at 9 PM and he at 1 AM, so late nights we are awake. One evening they complained that we were being too loud (we were watching a movie and it was a nice night so the windows were open, and they might have been able to hear it faintly if they were sitting on their patio) but we did turn it down and went to Dennys so we could stay up and wouldn’t bother them, which i think was beyond fair. Well the next morning, the boyfriend who has this crappy honda with a loud exhaust that he parks in OUR parking space (we don’t think he is on the lease and we haven’t complained because it seems so childish), started revving the engine at 8 am. This went on for about an hour. we heard another neighbor complain to him and he went in his house. But since then he has just been creepy, whenever we are outside he watches us, whenever he hears a car in the lot he is at the window, and if someone parks next to him he will come outside and watch that person as they get out of their car and go into their house and then he will go back inside. WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT THIS CRAPPY NEIGHBOR?
October 20th, 2008 at 3:26 am
Get over yourself. You probably think the music is loud just because you’re not religious or anti-religion or whatever else. Hell.. it could just be meditation music… maybe you should learn some tolerance.
October 24th, 2008 at 8:58 am
I agree I live in a upper and right below me are the loudest 2 moms and 1 year old in the world letting there kid run into walls smashing things at as early as 5-00 am on top of this both moms slam the door like they are the only ones who live here the whole house shakes with wakes me up and having insomnia it drives me nuts this is due to shitty parenting skills from the start I am very quiet and live alone we get along most of the time I just dont see how people think they can be so fucking inconsiderate to others well trash is trash
October 24th, 2008 at 4:31 pm
just wait until your 5 month old is 18 months and then maybe you will understand how you can’t control a toddler - like how early they wake up.
November 2nd, 2008 at 5:33 pm
Ihave an interesting problem. I have lived in this apt complex for 6 yrs, 3 yrs in 1 bdrm, then 3 yrs in 2 bdrm. The neighbor below me never leaves her apartment and smokes 4 packs a day. Her smoke comes into my apartment and I cannot keep it out. I have purchased 3 hepa filters at $500. each and loaned her an ionic breeze quadra professional $500.00 unit for her apartment. I have severe asthma and have been hospitalized three times in the past 2 years. The property manager knows, has sent maint. to help plug up holes, but they were useless, and now property mgr tells me there is nothing she can do. Don’t I have rights? This is destroying my health and I do not have a lot of money. Maint. man is friends with lady downstairs and when he did work in apt above me, he hammered so hard that sand fell through the concrete floor onto my dinner table and in the bedroom onto the bed. I called again and mgr. did not understand and thought I was crazy that I said stuff was coming through the ceiling.
I cannot believe I am stuck with second hand smoke while she “cant do anything about it. My apt stinks.
November 2nd, 2008 at 9:26 pm
I am a single mother of one very bright beautiful child. There are 11 small detached homes behind a gate. I moved in about 5 years ago. When I moved in it was mostly quiet single women. About 4 years ago this beast of a woman and her three heathen children moved in. It has been an absolute nightmare for everyone living here since. Children services, the police, and seven psychologists come on a regular basis. Her home is the filthiest home you could possibly imagine, her kids have been mentally instuitionalized, there is a 16 year old pregnant with a 19 year old mans baby. I could go on and on. She doesn’t work, clean or take care of her home or kids.The neighbors have made compalints to the landlord numerous times and yet nothing is done. The landlord continually says he can not get involved in personal problems so I told him it was not personal but a civil legal issue, and it was his repsonsibility to deal with it. The neighbor retatillates against others when she feels threatened. She calls the police with ridiculous claims, she calls children services and makes false claims. I can not afford to move, and I cannot stand living here another second. The police do nothing. Children services does nothing. The landlord does nothing. I can sue, but it would be a long process and I could be evicted. I’ve looked so hard for a place I could have my dog and garden it’s not as easy as it sounds. Desperate in Altadena
November 2nd, 2008 at 9:40 pm
I think I understand how you must feel. This is part of my nightmare.
November 2nd, 2008 at 9:54 pm
You can go online to consumer housing right. In California where I live it is a civil code violation, but my landlord does nothing.
November 9th, 2008 at 9:20 pm
My upstairs neighbors let their brat of a daughter run around & bang on my ceilings until about 4 AM EVERYNIGHT! I have to sleep with earplugs in or I get no sleep. Sometimes the noise is so loud that I can even hear noise with the earplugs in! The parents are just as bad as the kid. They stomp around their apartment as hard as they can, drop heavy stuff on my ceiling constantly, blast their tv, talk very loudly, fight, have loud, obnoxious guests over until all hours of the night. They also take pleasure in following me from room to room. When these lunatics hear me go into my bathroom, they run in there & listen to what I’m doing or they bang on my ceiling for running my water or flushing my toilet! I go into my bedroom & they follow me in there to bang on my ceiling. This shit goes on day after day, night after night. The property manager is a bitch & won’t do anything about it. I’ve called the cops but these morons refuse to answer their door! I’m trying to find another place to move but it’s not easy. I’m at my wit’s end with these people & don’t know what to do. Does anyone out there happen to know of any hitmen who would do a job cheaply? I’m seriously considering this as an alternative…
November 12th, 2008 at 7:30 pm
I understand what you are all going through. The only solution I can thik of is to move myself. I do not know where, I am going to get the money from, but I am not waiting my time trying to deal with someone who has never grown up. We are dealing with immaturity, drugs and VIOLENT PEOPLE and you can not mediate VIOLENCE.
Ireneh3
November 13th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
I hate to tell you this, but your baby will be doing the same thing before you know it!! So shut up and start learning to deal with it.
November 13th, 2008 at 2:05 pm
I have a problem. I moved into a new (upstairs) apartment last month. I have a 2 1/2 year old and a small (10) lb. dog. The landlord is well aware of the child and the dog and had no problems with me moving in. The woman downstairs is about 45-years old going on 95. She literally is under the delusion that SHE owns the house. I wasn’t there 3 DAYS when she was already knocking on my door demanding that I control my child (he was running a little bit) but this was at 6:00 in the evening, NOT MIDNIGHT! She says that she is afraid of my small dog, FINE, don’t worry, I will never let him go near you! Many nights when I get home from work (she only works 2 days a week) she is out doing yardwork AS IF SHE ACTUALLY OWNS THIS HOUSE HERSELF. She is continually stopping me with new “rules” that she made up herself….she is making me very nervous and my life miserable. Lastly, I have never, ever seen ANYONE visit this psycho bitch, what a surprise, she HAS NO FRIENDS!!!
November 15th, 2008 at 9:13 pm
You obviously have not had to deal with noisy people next door. First it is just a little annoying and after some time it becomes enraging. People do need to try and be more considerate to others living so close. She sounds way past tolerant now and is in a very difficult situation if the noise makers are not willing to listen.
November 20th, 2008 at 1:44 pm
oh boy this has got to be ‘joe’ he’s mr. perfect and no one deserves anything but him.
he works for a living and no one else does so he can do as he pleases no matter what and the hell with the rest of you.
hey mr. 83582… how about learning to be a good parent like the rest of you need to learn.
and move to a house next time before you think you can run an complex just because your relatives work for the owners!
HA! what a GAS!
November 20th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
this sounds a wee arrogant but i know what you’re saying. i have this problem with 1 neighbor, thankfully it’s just 1!!!
it was ok for a while but now she’s all over me, just because i was being nice. now she’s pestering me about things that aren’t even anyone’s business! then she talks about things i’ve said and twists them around for whatever reason and tells others then i’m in more trouble than ever.
she comes out the door asks for me to come in for a while, i say no then she comes up to me screaming about how i’m a stuck up little you know what! so on, then she stands at my car and wants to talk, um, lady? lady? i do have a JOB?! when i ask her to consider this fact OMG beware! all hell breaks loose!
many other things. she’s gotten so angry with me lately she’s slandered me.
i know what you’re saying, i’m sure you have the exact same issue like the rest who deal with ‘overly friendly types’ a community can be a testy situation.
now i’m the bad guy, good god you should hear what i’ve heard about me! i’m astonished.
i’m not sure what to do, but i wish she’d move, she promised she was going to move but to no avail has it come to fruitian!
not many care for her but you know how slander is, it gets watered down, twisted alot and no one knows where the source can be so folks take it how ever they will take it and most times it’s hard to take.
i feel for you also.
all i can say is, trust in yourself and the rest you’ll just have to unfortunately treat as ‘unwanted guests’… with a kind adversion of course.
what a terrible thing to live in communities like this now! you want to be friendly but….
i love the cases where you befriend someone then they abuse that and if they have kids suddenly you may become victim to the child’s antics or their friends from anything to pranks, trash to theft! but it’s so hard when that happens… because you have this “friendship” and all this legality stuff going on among trust, violations and that FEAR that becomes more than just something relative but FEAR all over in so many ways, you’re violated on a multitude of levels.
how horrible.
November 20th, 2008 at 1:59 pm
i know what you mean but it’s not the pits fault.. but that’s so difficult. many owners turn their pets into ravishing frothing nightmares with 4 legs…
then if something happens to you.. suddenly you’re the problem.
then all these rights violations they proclaim when in fact.. if they’da known how to attend to a pet in generally that pet would not have gotten into that situation.
most pet owners have no right or reason to have a pet in the first place.
the abuse that goes on and the inproper care and treatement.
it’s amazing that the laws are clear and available but for some reason those laws become clouded and indecipherable when something occurs!
oh brother i say on all of that!
if one has a pet, make sure they have a brain first then work on that from there!
November 20th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
ah another house liver!
why don’t you keep that yap shut if you’ve not put your foot in their shoes.
big mouth, small brain.
sorry, what’s a thpider? thome noith? what? is that engrish?
this 12 year old is too pampered, living in a 5 bedroom house with parents who shelter them in video games and sugary snacks.
hoot!
arrogant, whiney little 12 year old… (78763)
November 20th, 2008 at 6:14 pm
I understand completely. I have a 6 month old and the same problems. And people can’t say “your baby’s going to be like that” and “you can’t do anything about it” because my other neighbour has a 2 & 1/2 year old (he was 11 months when I moved in) and he’s a dream. It’s not like you don’t want the kid making noise ever! But not above your baby’s head while they (or you) are sleeping. I would advise you ask them to encourage their kid to run around just one room - as far away from your bedrooms as possible. Or at least ask them to take the kid outside to run around. There is no need to live like that. I hope things get better.
November 23rd, 2008 at 5:07 pm
I haven’t had much experience with apartment living. I live on the top floor of a newer apartment building, and everything was great for the first couple of months. Last week, the neighbor immediately next to me moved in, and now I have the worst smells ever permeating my apartment every day! It’s either industrial-strength garlic-spice cooking that gagged my husband and myself, or today it was cleaning chemicals/fresheners that have triggered a migraine headache for me.
I tried lighting candles, but they just can’t overcome the strength of odors from over there. She seems like a pleasant person, and I just can’t bring myself to make a big deal with the management, but I don’t have anywhere else to stay, and I can’t afford to be sick and miss work.
Does anyone have any suggestions of anything I can try to “clear the air”?
November 23rd, 2008 at 5:46 pm
laundry late night till early morning..
i live on the ground floor and my neighbor upstairs makes it a point to do laundry late night and leaves her dryer on till early morning..her dryer has that alarm system that keeps beeping and all these wake me up. so i casually told her about it 4-5 times and no response..she has her friend over sometimes and they do the same. i think her only excuse is that she works till 8:oo pm..but thats a lie she is usually home..and in any case thats why i told her she can do it till 10:oopm and restart at 6:oo am. atleast i’m being considerate because i know some people say from 7:30pm to 9:00 am. help..i’m lacking sleep here.. and she keeps the laundry room so messy..the dryer sheets always on the floor and her kids leave food on the floor..yikes..
November 25th, 2008 at 11:29 am
where i live i had two sets of bad neighbors. one is still present, unfortunately. she preaches to me now the gospel of holiness and neighborly ways. INTERESTING! that’s coming from a female who harassed a elderly man so much and his family until they moved.
(he was also being persued by my riteous, noisy, violent, arrogant neighbor below me who caused so much trouble it attracted the attention of my lawyer, who dropped by occasionally.)
anyways, once they chased out my friend and elderly neighbor (after 3 solid years of harassment) the downstairs neighbor, below me… figured he was going to work on me next.
that was nipped in the bud as soon as it was started. i warned him if he ever knocked on my door again i’ll call the police, make a record of accounts on harassment, to say the least and call my lawyer and his renters rights friend, who worked in the same building as he.
this man and his wife were noisy, careless (cigarettes all over hell’s creation, most of them still LIT!) i had to put out their fires, clean up their trash, among other folks doing the same… it was baby sitting for the most of us.
the only one who defended this degenerate was the very female who got help alongside to get rid of their elderly neighbor. now she (who was going to move… but changed her mind, DAMMIT!) is defending her acts of harassment, defending the abusers who once resided below me and has a visitor come by (a man in his 60s) who spits all over the sidewalk and tosses his trash on the lawn.
he even parks in handicapped spots for where he has no identification anyplace on his vehicle that he has any permissions to park in these spots.
but no no no she’ll whine about everyone else doing the same thing.
the two dingbats below me now live in an adjacent building and they’re still the same monsters as always. minifires, trash, loud music, yelling, screaming. OH the WONDER OF IT ALL!
here they whine to others about how they were victimized by me and others in the building.
recently we had another set of neighbors move and someone from the building next to us comes over and ‘feels’ out the situation and then tells these neighbors who are about to leave “oh, we’ll miss you” lmfao!
little did she realize what she was doing. (the neighbors she was “being nice” to were monsters themselves, starting fights with everyone in the building, slapping around the mother/wife who lived with them and having fights int he parking lot and in the laundry room and nearly starting fires because of all of this.
what a hoot!
this also indicated the arrogance that comes along with this territory.
they’re also huge racist pigs! i love the names they give my fellow neighbors!
but nope, they’re angels, victims and their rights have been violated!
though i can’t prove it but, mr. victim who lived below me did scratch the crap out of my elderly neighbors van, no evidence, seen him walk briskly from the van on night and no more was mentioned of it. well, of course because they are relatives to the people who work for the owners!
they can get away with MURDER!
what a trip… soon as i get a moment to leave i will.
least get away from this weird karma that is going on and all these whackos (yeh, i’ve heard that coming from people talking about others in the same complex) weirdos, freaks, fruits, a bunch of other name calling and most from older folks! lmfao! folks in the 50s to 70s!
i agree, some act like they walk on water then cry like babies then accuse someone of things they had nothing to do with let alone knew anything about.
so on.
man i could go on all day about the place i live at.
but i have to live here, it’s bad enough.
just to forget that inevitability would be nice once every blue moon.
and to think my neighbor below me always talked about how he had the right to violate his lease and the city ordinance because he worked for a living and paid his bills!
that made the house roar with laughter and still does every so often.
(some think that he’s suffering from some mental disorder, he appears to have one, but no don’t we dare bring the city or county into it! he’s an angel!)
November 25th, 2008 at 11:31 am
time to confiscate her laundry. that usually does the trick.
we had issues a plenty where i live about the laundry room and all it’s glorious tribulations.
i haulted a many a person from abusing their right to do their laundry by configuring a solution to the situation. each time was different but now it’s all quiet on the laundry front.
November 25th, 2008 at 11:35 am
call a lawyer, go on about ‘invasive’ issues like noise, water, smells.
they can make an assessment if it’s permissable in this situation.
we had that… garlic, (among other things) lawyer came in, indicated that it was very strong and was violating our space and was causing health issues with my husband. (he’s allergic to garlic, onions..)
they were given notice.. if they refused to cooperate they would have eventually ended up paying one of our utilities!
they left soonish after, it’s been nice smelling in our building ever since.
they were chefs, of thought they were, the garlic was so rancid it made us choke, eyes water and no matter what we did, fans, vents, incense, window opening, nothing works. we even used an commercial sized ionizer, nope, nadda!
oh they enjoyed that! NOT!
to think that we (and others in the building) couldn’t tolerate their cooking, really upset them. since they were celebrity (oh yeah, riiight) chefs.
November 25th, 2008 at 11:37 am
time for a lawyer, second hand smoke invasions in another persons dwelling constitutes!
they can help you move, after of coures they indicate your health and space are being violated.
November 25th, 2008 at 11:40 am
that’s harassment, lawyer time.
maybe they can indicate that she’s not suited to be by herself also.
sounds like she may be coming down with a classic case of emotional disorders.. but to say the least that is harassment.
your rights are being violated.
November 25th, 2008 at 11:42 am
is it me or have people gone dumb on their rights?
this is harassment, time to talk with others in the building get a lawyer to represent you and have this guy checked out.
hasn’t anyone called the police in the meantime and get a record account started on this dude?
November 25th, 2008 at 11:47 am
YOU TELL UM!
many have the excuses well planned but they don’t have the family planned at all!
ain’t that the TRUTH!
December 7th, 2008 at 10:11 am
I have the exact same problem…my child is Five. This woman would complain about noise at 10 in the morning! My daughter just being a happy child…..dancing, singing, etc. Nothing outrageous. To make it worst we were gone most weekends visiting family so there was zero noise at these times .Any noise (walking, talking) she heard from my condo she complained. Then she came and screamed at my 5 year old with me standing right there. This went over like a lead balloon with me. Then Banging on the ceiling with a broom. i Then get this….the evil woman would play LOUD music from 5am till 12 midnight in the room under my daughter room. What kind of mean person would do this to a child? Also it backfired on her because what do you think a five year old (who normally goes to bed at 8pm ) does when she hears music…right, she dances. She went telling everyone that my child’s noise was giving her headaches but interesting the LOUD music didn’t i.e shes a control freak who is miserable and therefore wants everyone miserable. I talked to the condo assc. president made a formal complaint that she was harassing my minor child (authorities look down on this…lawsuit waiting to happen and they know it) and effecting her rest for school. She stopped with the daily LOUD music for a couple of days. Then of course control freak who thinks she owns the building and expects either my child be tied up or to grow wings and fly across the floor. Starts again. Banging on the ceiling Loud Music etc. So I try to take the nice route and think O.k. I will try kindness maybe this will work so My daughter and myself take her a gift basket (A nice one at that) trying to make peace. This worked for maybe a week. But mean, control freaks like her take kindness as weakness ( her Last mistake with me) She starts again…this time LOUDER music under my child’s room ALL NIGHT AND ALL DAY. Then louder banging with the broom for the slightest noise. So now the gloves are off Now you are being cruel to my child and as a mother I will not tolerate this. I have tried every avenue I could think of (this went on for months and months). So last night at 1am my child can’t sleep especially in her room. I Call the Police. They come to my condo and see the witch is only doing this under my child’s room which by the way no one is in this room in her condo its a guestroom. I explain the things I have done to resolve the situation. The POLICE go to her condo… I could hear what was said. He said “mam we had a noise complaint you need to lower your music”. She says (trying to be all sweet and FAKE) “make her child stop running and playing”. At this disgusted (he now knows the witch is tormenting a child ON PURPOSE) the police officer said “mam i will not get into a he said she said. Turn it down.” The control freak then keeps trying to talk “well her daughter plays” He said look lady very sternly “Turn it down now. There is a noise ordinance you are disturbing the peace and if I come here again this is a criminal offense.” At this point I am LMOA. She gets real quiet then hes all What is Your Name? you could tell she was scared and gave it. “He said you will go to jail if I come her again.” You could hear the crickets so silent from her… Again I was LMAO!!! what she gets tormenting a mother and child. Needless to say she turned it down.
Here’s the deal you are living above a bossy, mean, miserable, control freak who does in fact think she owns the place. Like my situation, She doesn’t want ANYONE above her. She thinks her right of living there is more important than you and your child’s RIGHT of harassment free living and quiet enjoyment. Don’t be nice to her. Take it from me. Document it , inform her you will not take this any longer.Inform your landlord. If none of this works call the police.
December 8th, 2008 at 2:26 am
Yes! “Moving yourself” is something you have control over. You don’t have control over the actions of others, and trying to control them or resist what is happening will only make you miserable. It is happening to me, as well. So, as much as it may be a hassle to move, it is the best thing to do.
December 9th, 2008 at 2:51 pm
I have a problem that just came about a week or so ago and it has been bothering me to no end. A month or so ago we got new neighbors next door to us (and the only wall that we share is one of our living room walls, that is it). Well one night I was on the computer and was listening to Christmas music (regular computer speakers) at only 8PM and our neighbor comes banging on the door asking me to turn my bass down. I was a little confused but told her that I was sorry, that I didn’t realize that I had the music up that loud and would turn it down. We were both civil, there was no attitudes and I indeed did turn my music completely off (no reason to listen to it if I can’t hear it cause it wasn’t that loud in the first place). Well apparently she filed a complaint to our apartment office saying we listened to loud music and bass in the early hours of the morning disturbing their sleep! I was outraged when I got the letter in the mail. I went to the office and talked to one of the workers, told him “I’m 37 weeks pregnant, do I look like the type to listen to loud music during early hours of the morning???”. He said that he wasn’t the person to talk to about this issue and made a copy of the letter and would have the manager call me. So far no call from the office. What should I do? I feel so paranoid now, like everything is too loud and I don’t want to get evicted, but I don’t want to be uncomfortable in my own home. I mean, what are they going to do when I give birth to my little girl and bring her home from the hospital and she cries for those first few days? Call and complain that my daughter is too loud? I’m at my wits end.
December 26th, 2008 at 1:11 pm
We live in fourplexes with parking in between. We do not have assigned parking as we did not need it until now.I have always parked next to my walkway and yesterday I parked across with the other cars as I had 2 friends bringing me some furniture. Yesterday was a holiday and I let my upstairs neighbor know that we were haveing company and I knew she was also. I told her that her company could pull in the parking area and block myself and my husbands cars in as we were not going anywhere. I also asked her to make sure her guests did not park where I normally park as we had some things to unload when my guests got there. Within the hour one of their guests did park there and I asked 4 times nicely to move the vehicle and they never did. In our parking lot we had 4 vehicles that lived there, 5 vehicles as guests all for the upstairs neighbor, and my guests had to park on the street and I did not get my furniture. I can not find anything that tells me my rights. Help
January 11th, 2009 at 11:07 pm
i have the same problem as the person with the noisey nabors, exsept i have two, one on the 2nd floor with kids, and one on third floor with four kid that do not sleep at any time of the day. i do did not sign a lease but having trouble finding a apt. that takes dogs. call the police five time in 3 months and called the property manager( tirm use loosely) seven times, all she does is talk to them.
i want a week of sleep please. what can i do??????
January 13th, 2009 at 8:32 am
I have had neighbors who chain smoked and it made my throat burn.I can’t afford to move right now. If you bought 3 hepa filters for $500 a piece, that is $1500.You could have used that money for a security deposit on another place.
January 16th, 2009 at 10:23 pm
My upstairs neighbor “follows” me around my apartment. Has anyone else ever experienced this? She is home all the time. I don’t know how she earns money to pay the rent. Since she has moved in, I’ve noticed that she always seems to be doing the same thing I am - vacuuming, laundry, running the dishwasher. When I have my TV on, I can hear her’s. When I turn the stereo on, I can hear her’s. When I go out on my patio, she comes out onto her balcony. She never speaks or makes eye contact though, so I don’t think she’s trying to make friends. I didn’t really think too much about it at first, until she started going into the bathroom when I do. I can hear her walking above me. If I flush the toilet, she will flush her’s. She also LOVES to flush her toilet when I’m in the shower. I can hear her walk in and immediately flush, so I know she’s not using the facilities first. She stomps around so hard, it sounds like she’s about to crash through my ceiling. Every so often, there will be a loud crash, like she’s dropped a heavy weight. I can actually hear wood cracking when this happens. I work 2 jobs, so I’m hardly ever home, but as soon as I come through the door, the stomping starts. When she hears me open my bedroom closet door, she comes stomping into her bedroom above me. What’s her problem??? I’ve never met her, she can’t be mad at me.
January 20th, 2009 at 10:09 am
Wow, your situation sounds really extreme. I cannot believe there are so many control-freak childless old maids out there trying to run other people’s lives! Trust me, I am not nice to her, I say hello or whatever but I’m telling you, it sure is stressful! One weekend AFTERNOON, my child ran from one room to another ONCE and she immediately began STOMPING like a complete lunatic downstairs, I guess to make a “point”. I had a friend over at the time, and we just burst out laughing at what a friendless loser she is! I guess justice was served, she had NO COMPANY and went NO WHERE all through the Christmas and New Year holiday period. I think everyone is onto what a pathetic psychotic loser she is. So chin up, these people do get theirs! Good luck to you and I hope that everything works out for you. I am not planning to stay there forever regardless of the situation and cannot WAIT to tell the landlord that she is the reason I’m moving (I’ll be the fourth tenant to tell him that in four years). I’m quite sure that is not going to go over well for her and I believe that he will not renew her lease when it is up because she keeps causing him to lose tenants.
January 23rd, 2009 at 9:29 am
oh my neighbors! I got a dozen roses for my birthday. I’m the type that keeps them alive for a long time. then I put them on my patio and in the morning one of the roses is on my neigbors patio. I don’t know these people. they also come on my patio (at night when I sleep) and by the way I close the gate on my patio, they use my broom and do whatever they want. then when the weather is nice I like to open my windows and can hear them calling me nasty names. I have talked to management and they have talked to them, then when I complained again, they told me to call the police. it’s a small one bedroom apartment with a bunch of people living there. I’ve lived here 18 years, I am disabled and really don’t want to move. help!!
February 5th, 2009 at 2:48 pm
Go to mediation. When you call the cops ask for the neighbohood mediation department. They have a website (I am located in San Antonio, TX); fill out the form (or you can hand carry it). My husband is deaf. They immediately contacted me after I spoke to the POC (Point of Contact), I filled out the form, and spoke to the same woman that coordinates the mediation. Within seven (yes, 7) days we had a letter from the San Antonio Dispute Department with a copy given to my next door neighbor who called and agreed for mediation (thank God!). We met just last night (4 Feb 09) at 6:30 pm; knowing what time he gets home from work (mind you, he’s a US Postal Service employee; they have a “bad” rep). We spoke at the round table (I did as my husband and I initiated the mediation). We spoke for two (yes 2) hours. We talked about my items on our “list” and since he didn’t have a list I let him hear us out. My husband also spoke and I Chris (neighbor) to remove his mirror that was pointing to my property, have he and his wife stop using “foul” language, stop discussing any personal topics w/neighbors esp when my husband is outside watering the lawn (I told Chris since my husband is hearing impaired this was considered “rude”), Chris admitted (I swear to God) that he himself was an “azzhole, jerk” and I caught him in a lie when he reported me to the HOA (Home Owners Association) and he said, “Ms. Munoz ratted me out”. Yes, Chris, she did. When you go to mediation find out what the “rules” are. We all signed the agreement document and each received a copy. I told Chris that I didn’t trust him and wanted him to remove the mirror before we all got back home, if not, I’d contact HOA since it is not on our bi-laws because it faces my property and considered a privacy act law (remember residents, we have rights!). Good luck.
PS Next on my agenda is taking him to small claims court.
March 9th, 2009 at 5:25 pm
Recently a new neighbor has moved in below me, and I truly believe I am living in hell. She plays her music until sometimes 3, 4, 5 am, knowing we have to be up by 6 am to go to work, it has gotten to be so bad that pictures fall off of my wall and break. When the music isn’t loud i have to deal with a different disgusting smell EVERY day. For instance, today it smells like a dirty litter box because she lets her animals go to the bathroom in the basement ( all 5 dogs and 2 cats). I live in a house-made-apt, and it wasnt done very well. we share the same ventilation system and she has all control over the thermostat, so when her animals use the basement as a bathroom it comes up through the vents and right into my apartment. Our main vent just happens to be in my master bedroom closet, so therefore my clothes smell like crap- literally. My landlord is very aware of these problems and refuses to do anything about it. I have given the landlord an ultimatum- either me or her. I have lived here for 2 years, i pay my rent on time, and have never had any complaints from any other tenants, so I dont feel like i should not have to be the one to leave and money doesn’t grow on trees so I can’t afford to up and move… PLEASE what should I do!
March 14th, 2009 at 1:17 am
i deal with nabors that have a kidish father and a decent mother and i think their boys are 19 yo and 17yo and another boy that is 27 and a girl that is my age and they drive me nuts if they want to get something they need to keep it and not dump it in my jard like a trash heap keep something for just a few days and thorw it in to my yard!!!
April 9th, 2009 at 5:32 pm
If anyone knows what i can do . please help! i have a 2 year old son who is well behaved and polite. i live next door to this nasty old lady who would knock on my door every time my son would cry. one time my husband just had it with her and told her to leave us alone and mind her own buisness. the lady called child protective services on us and told them all these lies. Now they are investigating my family but have found nothing. I cannot live next to this crazy person! does anyone know how i can get out of my lease for this harassment?
April 13th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
this is my first time on here..i have a few questions that need to be answered… i lived in my apartment since october 31st of 2008. i had 2 floods all ready it started from a pipe on the 3rd floor it flooded my bathroom, hallway,myroom,kids room and the kitchen…i called my rental office she sent the carpet people out to clean it up mind you i had the same carpet since the 3rd flood happend 2 weeks ago…now i have ants my carpet smells like mildew i still have the same carpet i asked the rental office will i get new carpet she told me no only if the carpet people can not clean it it stinks in here and im tired the maitnence came and he tried to patch up the wet celling buy drilling holes in the sheet rock to hold ot 2gether but its still wet so he tried to put the stuff that u use to patch up holes in the walls to seal it what should i do?
June 5th, 2009 at 1:52 am
Why is it that those who know how to live in Apartments are always tormented by those who either are too stupid to know that it takes a whole different skill set than to live in a ‘house’ or those that just don’t care.
I really like some of the pointers from the ‘Noisy Party Thread’ but I would never do some of those things, though they worked.
I would really just like to be able to educate some of my neighbors in what it means to be thoughtfull, courteous, and considerate and to what levels those are expected to be at for alls enjoyment when living in an apartment setting.
A family moves in, Mthr/Fthr 4-5 kids, used to living in house. I give Wife a welcome kinda card, though I wrote all myself. One line included something about the kitchen cabinets can be loud slams if you let them get away from you; kinda welcome; here’s the perks and here’s the drawbacks; and here’s what to watch out for; and here’s some solutions.
Don’t you know that She, the Husb. and all kids just let the cabinet doors go, I counted one evening almost 50 in,… not a typo… 10 minutes! I quit counting. All the doors have the ‘L’ handles on them. Does it ever dawn on anyone to turn it rather than just pull or push the door closed? None of her family that’s for sure, especially the kids.
Landloard: report to her only after she asks how the new neighbor’s doing, and she tells them that I complained; when their up stairs complained; she revealed that too!
I get attitude from the landlord when I say anything now!
Those are just some points.
The last one, some of the rules have obviously been bent for this tenant, the major one that she screamed about ‘no one under 16 is allowed on the property unsupervised by the Lease Holder at any time.’ It’s obviously been bent for her, for after she complained (like she didn’t know; I guess she signed and didn’t read the lease?) now her 16 year old takes the younger ones, other’s from other building too; and they’re all out screaming yelling supervised yes? they’re watched as they act like well unruly children just watched as they do. What’s this? different rules for different folks?
Think I’ll bring the State’s Landlord Tennant act to the office. Annonymously of course, maybe with pictures though.
Good luck everyone, just had to blow off some steam.
I’m creating a website for our tenants, eventually will have an area for passwords and such so those I know can get together without the others. But I would love for those problem tenants to see what’s being written about them, maybe they would see their actions from another perspective?
June 8th, 2009 at 10:24 pm
I have a problem with the kids hitting my car with a basketball and football, complained to the manager they said they would take care of it so far nothing,I have called the police several times it is summer again and the kids are doing the same thing harrassing me by trigger my alarm. I have survialnce camera what else can I do?
And yeah to all the parents who make excuses shame on YOU, I was a toddler, and my mom would not allow me to be so loud that I disturbed other people. 10am is early for adults that work at nigh, and it’s the right of the tenant to not have to worry about loud kids!!!!!
June 10th, 2009 at 6:35 pm
I had a very noisy neighbor just below me who would drink and play his music loudly from 11 p.m. to 7 a.m. I complained to him and the super and the landlord on numerous occasions. Fortunately, he’s been quiet most of the time now. But now I am encountering another problem which is a strong cat urine STENCH seeping into my apartment. It’s been going on 2 weeks now and I’ve called the super who just has the hallways moped (which doesn’t take care of the problem!). We aren’t clear on where the source of the smell is…. but I’m assuming it’s a newcomer cat that’s inside one of my neighbor’s apartments. City apartment living isn’t easy…
June 26th, 2009 at 10:19 am
Me and my girlfriend live in a 1 bed apt upstairs it is a lod house the land lord lives down stairs. His 2 boys an a girlfriend live there sence the boys have moved here it is a living hell. The one boy has a loud car and loud stereo comes home for lunch at 2:50 am wakes me up 5 nights a week . I’ve told the land lord many times about this and nothing ever happens now they are banging on the celing when he is not home and harassing use. I was told by the boys and there father ie. the land lord to close all the windows and sleep with ear plugs well it is summer it gets 110 here it is hot. I told them not going to do that they said it was not there problem what can i do?.