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So I've read a lot of these so far, and my situation is no where near as bad as some of yours. My sympathy goes out to everyone who has to deal with any of this crap!

So here comes the frustration.

I moved in 3 months ago with my female roommate (I'm a guy). I was always under the impression that females were much more tidy than men. WRONG- especially after reading some of these horror stories!

Everything was going fine, until recently when I've begun noticing all the little things that just seem to add up.

She doesn't put things away. Her dishes stay in the sink for at least a week with only water in them. Her pots and pans move from the stove to the sink and stay there. There are half full glasses of some brownish liquid that I can only guess is some soda that she never poured out. Her shoes are under the coffee table, her jackets on the couch, her makeup and hair supplies in the "guest" bathroom downstairs.

She also has a dog. Now, I have no problem with a roommate with pets. However, if that pet owner doesn't do what they've got to do with said pet, it pisses me off. I came in under the stipulation that I had to be cool with her having a dog. No problem. Well, she only takes the 10 month old dog out to go "eliminate" for 5-10 minutes like twice or 3 times a day. Other than the occasional trip to the dog park, this is the only exercise the dog gets. So there is a hyper-active, bored, big puppy that sits in a cage all day with no attention until she gets home. She also doesn't discipline the dog- but thats another story.

Anywho, as a result of this boredom/hyperactivity combination, the dog has a destructive chewing habit. As a luxury in the dog's cage, she has placed a blanket. Well the dog has ripped the blanket to shreds, spreading the cotton stuffing all over her cage and the living room, and occasionally drags the ragged thing out to play with. THEN, my roommate proceeds to LEAVE THE CRAP ON THE FLOOR! And it isn't just that blanket. The dog got bored in my roommate's room (where the dog sleeps) and ripped up the sheets on her bed. Well, those sheets are now in the cage with the dog.

All the while, my roommate is under the assumption, "well, she was gonna do it anyway, why try and stop her..." AAAAAAAHHHHH!!! Apart from knowing the error in this thought process, it kills me that she thinks that way to begin with!!

SO, since I've been here, I've vacuumed the living space several times, emptying several loads of dog fur, dust, and blanket shreds. I've dusted. I've done every single one of my dishes in a timely manner (either right as I get done using them, or as soon as I can get back to it- most always within the day), I've bought dish detergent, air fresheners (to get the dirty dog smell out), carpet fresheners, I buy ALL the paper towels, I've even thrown out some rotten veggies in the refrigerator that I doubt she even knew she had in there!

Most recently too- and I think this is what set me off- is that I use a George Foreman Grill on an extremely regular basis. And you HAVE to have the grease traps at the bottom to use it- I'm virtually positive you've seen it. But as I was going to use it tonight, the trap that was sitting under it was gone. Now, I usually put some paper towels in the trap to soak up the grease, and leave it for a while- all in all it makes for easier clean up. I started to look for it, and couldn't find it anywhere- in the kitchen, living room, bathroom, utilities room, under furniture, on top of cabinets, EVEN IN THE TRASH- INSIDE AND OUT! Where in the hell could it have gone? Because its not in MY room?

And as a courtesy, if something happens and its my fault- I ALWAYS leave a note saying what happened, only if I know that I won't be able to say something about it to her immediately. So, where's my missing grease trap?

My parents were worried that I would be a terrible roommate when I was out on my own, simply because I used to have a lackadaisical attitude about cleaning and leaving things out. Well, I never imagined I would be the clean one!

All that said, she does do a few things around, and the place is a really sweet deal for me. She does wheel the trash out when it needs to be (and brings it back in a few times), the house was fully furnished when I got here, plus utilities are included, and every now and then she'll do some dishes.

-BUT-

Here is my main problem: Since my name isn't on the lease (I'm paying monthly to her), I feel that I can't say anything about her habits or her dog, A: because I take care of my stuff and keep it out of her way, and B: because she could just get mad and say "Bye, you're out!"

HELP A GUY OUT!!! Is this unreasonable to deal with?

If you've stuck with it this far- you have the virtue of patience. Thanks for reading!

-B