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Here's a story. I live with my boyfriend and his roommate (he claims this guy is his best friend). They have lived together for years, I mean at least 6 years. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years now. I sort of moved in by habit, if you will. I was in the midst of living on my own (parents' purchased a condo for investment purposes & let me live there), but found myself in love and staying the night with my boyfriend every night. He lived 20 minutes away from where my new place was to be...only, I never got settled in at the condo!! It was weird how I skipped that step all together. Time flew by and I have been living with my boyfriend and his roommate/best friend for a total of 3 years. 2 years ago, my boyfriend actually bought the place where we live now, and the roommate rents and pays utilities as he should. Now we are in a committed relationship, would like to move forward (at least I would...it has been almost 5 years now), and live together--alone. My boyfriend, though, does not have the balls to tell his friend it's time to move out. One time he kicked his ass (I mean literally smashed his face up) because the neighbors kept complaining about the noise volume, and he was completely drunk and stupidly loud. He works the latenight hours and is home ALL DAY LONG. Yet he doesn't find the time to let the dog out, feed the dog actual dogfood, and or does not give him water!!! My boyfriend and I work full time. We simply would change our daily routines to accomodate the dog. This was made clear to him that he is obligated to take care of him while we cannot be there. The roommate does not buy laundry detergent, leaves whole food in the sink drain (we have a fully functional disposal with a switch that turns on and off rather easily--you flick it up or down), and here's the big one...truly believes and has claimed that he is only paying rent for the (upstairs) room!! Therefore, he does not feel it it necessary to clean the common areas such as the kitchen, the laundry room, the living room, the weight room (dining room), the half bath, the patio out back, the stairs!!!! He also has a son who comes over 3 times a week, feeds the dog weird things, and is sometimes not in school due to a long drive that the father does not want to make. During the course of my relationship with my boyfriend, I stopped talking to the roommate. I avoid him at all costs. I have been hiding out in my room to avoid seeing his face. I already have seen what type of person he is, and he is the type of person who will never be my friend. I do NOT agree with the choices and decisions he makes. My boyfriend is ok with this, but is so consumed with work (it consumes him rather) that he hardly has time to spend at home, period. So I am stuck here, taking care of my boyfriend's house and his roommate's (and his son's) mess! Do I need to move out? Is is that time? Or is my boyfriend refusing to ask his friend to leave because he feels bad for breaking his face (and possibly feels bad for him in general...because this friend is all in all a loser--does not like to work hard for anything)??? Help me!!!!