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Been there. You HAVE to talk to her face to face. It would be best if you could all have an apartment meeting. If that's too cheesy for you or you can't get buy-in from the others, you'll have to do it alone or with your other clean roomie. Plan out what you're going to say. Practice it until you can say it without anger or frustration. Be gentle. Some people were not properly taught how to live with others. Tell her how you feel, your reasons for feeling that way (without blaming her), and what you hope she can agree to do from now on. Be open to hearing her reasons why she can't do this or that. Most of the time, you can help solve those little problems so she doesn't have an excuse. Be firm, but be gentle. She'll be upset, and your heart will be pounding out of your chest, but it will clear the air and smooth the path for further conversations if she doesn't change. If she truly doesn't want to change, she'll eventually move out to get away from expectations she feels are too high for her. I had 34 roommates in my apartment years, so I know you can do this. Good luck!