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I have a real problem...

I met this lady shortly after moving to a new place. We started seeing eachother and then her housing fell through. I told her she could stay for a few weeks, but its been 10 months and I still can't get her to leave and find her own place, or a job or anything so she could afford a decent place around here. I'm not supporting her but I do spend more because she is here. She has some serious problems and a nasty scary temper (even worse if she has a drink) in which she starts screaming the most obnoxious stuff she can. Her family says she has a history of this and they can't get her to go to a doctor. I feel like I have Stockholm syndrome from trying to appease her, keep her from going off and screaming or worse.

It is pretty hard to break up with someone and stay broken up when they don't have anywhere to go and won't leave. When you break up that person is still there and you have to find a way to live with them.

My landlord says its on me to deal with the situation. If I go through a legal proceeding, I'm afraid she will either find some way of causing me serious trouble, or commit a violent act or....

I can't handle her temper and her bouts of mental illness. I just want to live by myself. I'm never going to invite someone into my house to stay for a few days again.

Maybe I'm whining, but I'm scared and I don't know how to get out of this.

Any suggestions would be helpful. I don't want to leave my house, but I'm considering just ceasing to pay rent, putting all my stuff in storage and sleeping in my new car, taking showers at work. I don't know what to do. Don't ever take in anyone you haven't dated or been friends with for at least a year, and even then be careful.