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I would appreciate feedback.

Im relocating out of state. My friend moved her last September & since has moved an hours drive north where I will be working. She entered the lease w/ the option of adding me to it when I get a job.

For the past month I have been helping her move. She works mon-fri and drives an hour each way. We had and agreement that i would be here free of rent & ulitities in return for moving her belongings, cleaning & getting the house up & running. And I found a job I too would relocate and the TWO of us would be roommates.

Well, here were are not even 3 weeks later & her son (20yrs old) has just moved in! Flew in from Ohio.He sleeps till noon, eats, showers & plays music & xbox till 2-3am every night! I was buying the food, cleaning & cooking dinner until her son showed up & I stopped.

Our initial agreement was that would we share the rent and utilities 50/50. She has since moved ALL of her furniture in and her kid. She told me I dont know what you will do with your furniture, I guess you can put it in my storgae bin & pay 1/2 the rent each month. She keeps telling me she's booting her son after 30 days!

I know if it was one of my kids that came to stay she would be right on the horn laying down rules and saying, I'm not paying 1/2 of all with your kid here.
Meanwhile, her bedroom was on one side of the house with a bathroom & mine on the other w/ private bath(much smaller). She moved her son in the room next to hers. Sunday she "traded" my room & her sons room! TOLD ME SHE CANT HAVE HIM IN THE BEDROOM NEXT DOOR HE KEEPS HER UP ALL NIGHT.

HE KEEPS ME UP ALL NIGHT in & out of the kitchen & her TV also keeps me up (our bedrooms share a wall & thats right where her TV is.)

There's no quiet time! They both blare the TV, XBOX & Stereo from the time they get up until 2-3am.
Rent is 1500/month. I got a job this week - she said good you owe 750 for rent in 2 weeks. I havent even officially moved in! Since the son moved in, she now has a 2nd refrigerator for his beer! We are in south Florida, last night, she was chilly, so she turned on the furnance! And they turn the lights on all day long & the TV 's are on 24/7.

I can see this is going to be very difficult & can picture her saying "if ya dont like it, move!"
Of course, things are more realistic becaase a very good job is in my hands. I really wanted to be roommates for a few months until I got to know they area before I went out on my own & yes, I was open & honest about that with her!

Does anyone have any insight how to resolves some or any of these issues before it would affect our friendship (besides-dont do it)?